It might be a bit odd to write about hands at the bathhouse, so this review is intended to be focused on just a couple of points. Though also recognizing the immense amount of overlap involved when describing first contact in a male only sauna.
Intentional contact in the baths almost always starts with a hand, yours or a potential partner's. The notable exception to this fact involves a mouth, generally one surrounding your cock in a glorious wave of pure bliss. Or your mouth doing the same to a stranger. Such wonderfully explicit initial sexual contact is not common, though truly addictive in the context of meeting a man at a male only sauna. With group sex, that the third or fourth man might go down on you immediately is not quite the same thing as directly starting to have oral sex with an individual.
This mainly concerns public, though discrete, meeting areas like steam baths or dark rooms. Glory holes follow their own logic, one that is extremely straightforward. When a door is open in a booth, the position of the man inside on the platform is the main orientation. Hands have a major role in the open areas, where anonymous contact is generally desired but not so explicitly as at a glory hole or by being inside or entering a booth.
Bathhouses exist for visitors to have sex with men, knowing they are surrounded by others there for exactly the same reason. Their history stretches back thousands of years since naked men in a private space cannot help but take advantage of what becomes possible inside one. Such as letting a stranger run their hand over your inner thigh, feeling how your cock grows as you start doing the same to them.
A number of visitors do not necessarily want to acknowledge that, even when naked and available in the dimness of a steam bath, touching their cock in anticipation of anonymous sex. A few may be here their first time, a few more may never have been at this particular bathhouse before. Some men, likely in a nod to a fig leaf of pretense concerning their male sexual desires, do not initiate anything.
That group encompasses a variety of types, including some who do nothing, which I find personally boring. Possibly thinking if they do nothing, that means they are not really there to have sex with a man, though in all honestly, some men really do simply expect to be pleasured with absolutely no attempt to share it.
Luckily, many of those initially disinterested men respond quickly, often eagerly, as if only waiting for some sort of permission. That group includes a number of husbands, there being no reason to remove a wedding ring at a male only sauna. I never did, and gold shines well in dim light.
A number of bi men go to the baths, and though being married is not really a reliable indicator, it provides a certain foundation in determining that a number of my partners are bi like myself. The reason is simple, a cock being as fantastic a sex organ as anything a woman offers. In my case, that started in my teenage years jacking off with a friend. After getting hard, watching each other cock stroking was how we came together, instead of the pictures in Playboy or Penthouse. We never touched, so it was decades later to learn how sexy a cock is to play with, suck, or get fucked by.
How many married men have only visited a couple of times and thus still uncertain about what will happen this time is impossible to judge. Middle aged curiosity may have been what attracted them the first time, but after experiencing how amazing sex with other men can be, few of the straight husbands can resist returning. Possibly believing themselves completely 'straight' even inside a male only sauna. No wife can equal having four strangers using their hands and mouths on you, being expertly sucked and rimmed at the same time while holding two hard cocks, belonging to the man kissing your neck and the other sucking your nipple.
Gay sex is what happens at a gay sauna, but some men simply prefer avoiding that intoxicating reality. Obviously, the more often such men return, the less important such thinking becomes as they keep sinking in an ocean of pleasure. Whether married or with a girlfriend, men who have tasted the delights of such a sauna know that a woman can not offer the same style of abandoned male pleasure, regardless of how fantastic fucking their pussy feels.
For the hesitant, once a hand touches them, there is no reason to pretend about what they want, now being offered without needing to be active. Often, as I am not one to immediately start touching a cock, their hand reaches for and finds mine first. By then, the seductively addictive bathhouse spell has already started to take control, regardless of what they might have originally thought about not getting sexually involved with a male.
This sort of self-deception is not exactly common, yet it does explain one style of how hands are used. Combining both invitation and temptation on the part of a man seeking someone to have sex with, in a place where anonymous sex is easily shared.
For me, when entering a dim space, my hands are out, trying to move carefully not to run into someone, especially before my eyes adjust to the dark. Hearing is a poor substitute, especially as normally only pairs or moresomes are making any sound. Clumsy is not the best way to describe the method, though not wrong either. Even after years of practice entering such spaces, it still happens that my first touch is awkwardly abrupt.
Though often rewarded by someone equally eager to start having sex with a stranger. Once inside a steam room or dark room, there is little pretense about how straightforwardly one can start playing with another man - or men. In a dark room, many men are wearing a towel, but that is more for teasing than anything else.
However, not everyone is interested at first contact, so exploring the space with hands out does not always immediately result in a new partner. However, it rarely takes more than a couple of such contacts wandering further before finding someone who wants to play. Unless the space is empty, as can occur, though less frequently in the steam room.
There is also a fleeting style of touch when moving, an invitation easily accepted by simply stopping in place, letting a hand touch you, then roam, often as you start doing the same to his body. The freedom to indulge yourself with strangers who come to the baths to get off becomes ever better the more often you return. Entering a place where cocks rule, surrounded by potential undressed partners who understand why everyone is inside.
After getting familiar with a steam bath or dark room over time, other possibilities on how to use a hand become clearer, learning from what other men do. One does not have to be the one exploring. Lying in wait for opportunity to pass by is effective, especially where the space is narrow. This works best after adjusting to the dimness, standing in a spot that is backlit and where men pass by.
