Walid graduated as a student in the engineering faculty at Cairo University and went to London for postgraduate studies where he did very well. He was headhunted by a very large company and found himself in a good position with a good income. The only thing missing in his life was a wife. He sent a message back to his family to try and find him a nice wife, preferably with a good dowry. The family put out feelers to some marriage brokers and they soon found a very nice candidate. Ameera had shown little interest in other prospective husbands but hesitated when she saw Walid's photo. He looked kind and gentle and was very handsome and her heart melted just a fraction.
Her mother was petrified that if Ameera rejected too many more offers, that at 20 she would not get any more and would remain unmarried and pushed her into accepting. Well educated and attractive, she spoke English and seemed very happy at the prospect of living in London. The marriage broker who was involved in finding her, knew that she was very shy and very uncomfortable in the presence of men and possibly not suitable but the enticement of a one percent commission on the dowry was enough to change his mind. The dowry was large. She would be suitable.
Walid saw her photographs and spoke to her on the phone and on the basis of the recommendation flew back to Cairo to get married and after a big ceremony and celebration, took his bride to the hotel hoping to consummate the marriage. He was to be disappointed. Ameera said that she was very tired and wanted to go to sleep and that when they got to London the following day they would continue.
On the plane flying back to London with his new virgin bride sitting next to him, Walid could not stop himself from playing scenarios of what would happen when he got Ameera into bed and prepared to make love to her. All of his notions were playbacks of scenes that he had been watching on porn. He would undress her and reveal her breasts. He knew they were large. You could see that through her clothing. He would take her panties off -- would she be wearing any? He would look at her body and look at her pussy. He knew she would have a hairy pussy -- Egyptian girls didn't shave. Would it be very hairy or just a neat triangle?
Then he would rub her clitoris and spread her legs wide and spread her lips revealing the entrance to her vagina. He would rub the tip of his erect cock up and down her slit touching her clitoris and then he would push it slowly into her vagina and break her hymen and then he would move and come inside her. He played this scenario over and over in his mind making it very uncomfortable sitting in his seat with an erection that would not go away. He had to put a newspaper in his lap to hide it from Ameera. Would she even know what it was? He would soon enough find out.
Ameera was also deep in thought, worried about the forced entry of an unwelcome object into her vagina. She knew nothing about sex. Nothing. She just knew that Walid had a penis between his legs that he was going to try and insert into her hole down there. She froze at the thought of it. Her knees locked up, even in the plane. She had no idea how this situation was going to be resolved. She even wondered whether she should have agreed to get married but once the wheels were in motion she seemed powerless to call halt. It was too late now.
They went to his apartment and he hoped that they would make love but it was then that he found Ameera was extremely shy and would not even get undressed in front of him and insisted on being in a dark room without lights. Worse was to come. Ameera allowed him to remove her clothes and allowed him to fondle her breast but would not open her legs.
When Walid asked what the problem was, she said she said that she was just very shy and afraid that he would hurt her and that she could not make love. Walid tried but eventually gave up. This went on for weeks until Walid's sister asked if his wife was pregnant and he explained the situation. Walid's sister quietly asked around and came across a couple with experience at solving this type of problem. Jerry and Nicole had been together for a while as a team and they enjoyed being involved with other people's lives and solving their sex problems. Jerry was a psychologist and Nicole was a psychiatric nurse and they just loved what they did together. They did it for fun and not as a living.
One of the advantages of dealing with Jerry and Nicole was that they were not registered and that they did not charge and that there would be no forms to fill out. No records anywhere. They had not registered because they did not want to be bound by the ethics of the official society which they found very restricting. They also were happy to be surrogates which meant that they could be involved in physical intimacy with the patients which also had another set of ethics and rules. They felt that they could be more helpful to the patient if they followed their instincts. They had certainly been very successful and had gained a good reputation in certain circles.
They came to Walid's apartment for a preliminary session to find out exactly what the problem was. They asked Ameera what it was and she explained in her own words that she knew very little about sex and that she was very frightened. She thought that the problem might stem from a conversation she heard when she was very little about her mother's sister having a painful marriage. The very thought that Walid might push his penis into her made her become very tight. She felt powerless to open her legs. Jerry and Nicole looked at each other. It was very clearly a case of vaginismus, which was very common in Muslim countries but in other countries such as Ireland as well.
Vaginismus was a condition where the muscles surrounding the vagina clenched and would not allow penetration of anything at all. The usual treatment was to go to a doctor and be referred to some specialists who used vaginal trainers or dilators which were slowly increased in size to train the vagina to get used to penetration. Jerry and Nicole thought that this situation with Ameera required a different solution because she was so unwilling to open her legs and even allow Walid's penis to get close to her vagina. They believed that each situation was different and the woman should not be treated in isolation but in conjunction with the husband.
Jerry and Nicole decided on a plan of action which they had done before. It involved a few steps and had been very successful.
•Nicole would initiate a discussion with Ameera about sex and her body and how sex could be the source of great pleasure.
•get Ameera to relax and associate pleasure with sex
•get Ameera to associate sexual pleasure with penetration
•get Ameera to allow penetration of ever larger diameter rods into her vagina
•get Ameera to associate penetration with a rod with an orgasm
•substitute Walid for the rod. Problem solved.
Nicole said," I want to have a quick talk with Ameera. I need to explain a few things to her about what will happen. You two can have a cup of coffee."
"Ameera. Am I right to assume that you have never had any sex education lessons?"
"Nothing. My mother couldn't talk about it and so I really don't know anything."
"Have you ever played with yourself?"
"Never. Good Egyptian girls are told not to do that."
"Alright. I need to know that you want to solve this problem. Is that correct?"
"Yes. I know that if we want to have children we have to make love."
"Okay I'm going to quickly show you this book and we can go through the diagrams and you can see what's going to happen. What we have to do is get you to relax at the idea that something is going to go inside your vagina. We use are some special rods. We start off small about 1 cm diameter and they get bigger and bigger until you get accustomed to the idea that something large is going to go into your vagina. We will do it gradually and it won't hurt. Are you happy with that?"
"Yes. Can you show me a picture of what a vagina looks like? I've never seen one."
"Sure. Here it is. It's all closed up and when you get aroused it becomes very moist and lubricated to allow Walid's penis to slide in and out. Most women get a lot of pleasure when they are making love and if we do this right, you will too."
