When my wife was alive, we'd often read sex stories together and act out some of the tamer stories to help stimulate our love life. My wife died two years ago and we enjoyed nearly 20 years of happy marriage. However it was only thanks to another woman that I got off the starting blocks where my sex life was concerned and in hindsight it made all the difference when it came to those first few dates with my wife.
By the time I was 18 I'd had no sexual encounters Having grown up with a couple of younger brothers and no sisters and having attended Catholic boys schools, I'd never really had a chance to mix with girls. Other boys in my year at school had girlfriends and were having sex but not me. I'd always thought that the women written about in porn didn't exist as we had been taught that women only perform sex as a duty to their husbands and those who like it were sluts.
After I left school I was planning to go onto university. I had nearly three months after my A-levels finished and before starting uni and because I wanted some cash I took a job cutting lawns. This was the summer of 1984 and it started with a heat wave. During the first week I met my clients who were friends of my parents or other people mum & dad knew through the golf club. On the third day I turned up at a large house and was greeted by the lady of the house who introduced herself as Suzie. She showed me the garden and where the lawnmower was kept. As she showed me round I was staring more at her than the garden. At the time Dempsey and Makepiece was being shown on television and this woman looked just like Glynis Barber. I guessed she was in her late thirties and in the heat she had a summer dress on that clung to her figure as she walked. Nowadays I probably have a rose tinted view of the day as I also remember that it was very hot and I was sweating in my shorts and T-shirt before I'd even started work.
I started cutting the grass and I had completed about a third of it when Suzie came down the garden with a drink. It was a welcome relief and I drank it all in one go. She was a little surprised and asked if I'd like another. I nodded and she beckoned me to follow her into the house. We sat in the kitchen which was lovely and cool as she'd drawn blinds over the windows. She made me another drink and I began to cool down. I drank the second drink more slowly and then she started asking me about myself and if I had a girlfriend. The questions then got a bit more personal and I started to feel awkward. Suzie could see this and came and sat down next to me. "I take it you're still a virgin, there's no need to feel embarrassed about it," she said, "all people start at some time, and women do actually enjoy sex." I relaxed then and began to open up telling her about my lack of experience. "Have you ever kissed a girl," she asked and then asked more questions getting more intimate. As I answered each one and told her about my background she started to smile. She then moved in and started to kiss me. She pressed her lips against mine and then pushed her tongue out to part my lips and feel inside my mouth. By this stage I was extremely passive and my eyes were wide open as I'd never been kissed like this before. She broke away and gave some advice before we continued. This time it was much more fun and I closed my eyes and explored her soft mouth with my tongue.