The normal disclaimers apply, anyone engaged in sexual activity is above 18 years of age.
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I don't like stories that begin with the words *this is a true story* because they generally aren't. Since I believe honesty is important I will state this story is semi-true, I say semi because of course I was not privy to their sex life, Dave talked about different aspects of it, but I was never in the bedroom so to speak. I've chosen to use a fictitious name for myself, (Ed) Dave and I grew up together, ran together, graduated and went into the military together ultimately being discharged within a few months of each other. Returning to our small city in fly over country we married hometown sweethearts and spent the rest of our lives as close friends, this story is about Dave and his amazing abilities as a husband and father. I tell it from his point of view considering he's no longer around to tell it and since we remained close throughout our lives I know most of the details, the love scenes are a byproduct of my imagination. Dave's wife Sofia was indeed learning disabled, they did raise five kids, she did die in 2011, all their kids are successful and have families of their own.
I wrestled with writing this story for a long time, it's so close to my heart that I had a difficult time writing it without feeling maudlin. I realize this is a delicate theme, I've attempted to be sensitive while telling it as it happened, if a story about a person with learning disabilities might offend you, please pass it by. Otherwise I hope it strikes a chord in your heart, one of simple love and lifelong devotion. For those who will want to criticize how I've described Sofia's speech and mannerism's, let me say this, I was there, you weren't.
Sofia
Dave's story:
Another Memorial Day, another weekly trip to put fresh flowers on Sofia's gravesite at Button Cemetery, this Memorial Day would be different, all five kids and their families are going to meet me here followed by a bar be que at my house. Tears ran down my face as I stood looking at the two head stones, Camila Ortiz 1936 - 1976, right next to it Sofia Stephenson 1952 - 2011, both headstones inscribed with Loving Mother. Two rows ahead and about thirty feet to the right was a headstone engraved with Ada-Mae Stephenson 1944 - 1961, my older sister who had died when I was eleven. She had been born severely retarded, in a wheelchair or in bed all her struggling life, she never knew any of us kid's names, but we loved her with all our hearts. Anytime we could make her smile or laugh was monumental to us, she succumbed to pneumonia at the tender age of seventeen.
Looking at the headstones in front of me what wasn't apparent unless you knew them is that they were mother and daughter. How I became a relevant part of this story began in 1962 when I first met Sofia on the playground at the end of our street, we neighborhood kids called it a playground, the adults called it a vacant lot.
For all intents and purposes, it was as our parents described it, nothing more than a vacant lot, but to young minds with adventurous souls it was a fantasy land, mostly sand with a smattering of weeds and crab grass here or there bordered on one end by a bunch of mature maples. We made a haphazard ball field using discarded pieces of board for bases and a two by four as pitcher's mound, the treasure in our eyes though was the fort we managed to build in one of the trees. We scrounged boards and scraps of plywood anywhere we could, we pulled and straightened nails from old boards, sneaked our dad's tools and cobbled that thing together.
It was in no way fancy, and by today's standards we'd have been attacked by the wacko environmentalists for hammering nails into a tree, but that was 1959, another time, another era entirely. Living in the lower mid-west we played outside nearly year round, it was when I was twelve that I, David Stephenson, officially met Sofia, who at that time was four months away from her tenth birthday, and her mother Camilla. I knew of Sofia, at the same time I really didn't know her, she lived three doors down from us, had moved in just five years earlier and didn't have a dad, beyond that my knowledge of her was sketchy at best.
She didn't go on the same bus that I did, a smaller bus picked her up in front of her house and though she went to our school she was never in any of my classes. Mom told me she went to special classes, I would soon learn that she was what was referred to in that day as mildly retarded, as educable as she was, in this day and age she would be regarded as learning disabled. Her mom told my mom that even though she would age and mature physically like the rest of us, she would always be behind socially and mentally.
It was late on a Sunday afternoon when most of the guys were home doing their household chores that I met Sophia and her mom, I had stayed to play longer in the tree house, Mrs. Ortiz and Sofia were walking when Sophia began to point and tell her mom she wanted to climb the tree. As her mom was telling her no, I stuck my head out an opening we called a window and told her it was okay, I would help Sofia climb the rickety ladder and make sure she didn't fall.
Her mom responded in a heavy Spanish accent, "You would do that? You would help her into your tree house?" I nodded. "You are the boy a few houses away from me aren't you, I've seen you playing."
I had been climbing down as she was talking, by the time my feet hit the ground Sofia and her mom were at the base of the tree, Sofia smiling ear to ear, she acted differently than I expected, more like a little girl than someone her size and obvious age. I climbed behind her encouraging her with each step, once we crawled into the tree house she was all giggles and excitement, looking out the opening saying *mama* loudly over and over. We were up there probably ten minutes when her mother told her it was time to come down, I went before her staying a step below in case she might lose her footing.
Once on the ground with Sofia at her side she beckoned me to where they stood, in an accent I almost didn't understand she looked at me and said, "You are a good boy, I tell your mother."
I thought *tell my mother, I didn't do anything wrong* before realizing she was saying she would tell my mother I'm a good boy. We three walked toward our homes, as they peeled off into their front yard Mrs. Ortiz thanked me again and Sofia kept saying *goodbye David*. I snuck the tools that had once been my dad's back into the garage, entering the back door I began to tell mom what had occurred earlier.
"Yes, I know, I just got off the phone with Sofia's mom, you make me smile Davey, your daddy would be so proud of you. You didn't have to be nice to that little retarded girl, but you were, you'll probably be teased by some of the other kids but pay them no mind, just keep being nice to that girl."
Like Sofia, I was without a dad, mine having died when I was too little to remember, I didn't worry about the other kids picking at me, I wasn't the biggest kid in our group, but I was the scrappiest. Growing up without a dad I had a chip on my shoulder and damn near dared anyone to try and knock it off, I had gotten my butt kicked many times, I had also earned the respect of every guy I went up against, they may have won but they knew they'd been in a fight.