In the mid-1980s, I was a university student in Orange County, California. I had a thing for Laurie, a cute brunette, who I'd met in a campus Christian group. There were three problems: Laurie was dating another guy, Laurie was a virgin and I'd made mention of the fact that I'd spent the night with a former girlfriend. That took me off Laurie's list of men to date as she was committed to giving her "V-card" to her future husband on their wedding night. She wanted to marry a virgin.
While I wasn't into cutting notches on the bedpost, I realized that the notion of remaining a virgin until the wedding night wasn't for me or most everyone else. I was looking for a life partner who shared my values for, loving, intimacy along the romantic path to a wedding day.
One day, Laurie walked up to me and stunned me by saying, "I have a friend that you should date. Both of you are Christians, both of you aren't virgins, you are both adults, and both of you have the same interests and values - including pre-marital sex."
I told Laurie that she was, needlessly, overly, concerned about my sex life, but she admitted that she understood where I was, sexually. "My, married, friends tell me sex is fun," she admitted.
I rolled my eyes and agreed to take, her friend, Mona, on a, casual, dinner date to see if we hit it off.
Mona, a beautiful, 5-foot-7, slender, Latina, with long, black, hair and brown eyes, a cute smile and a nice body, and I, met the next night. We went to Claim Jumper, in Buena Park, for dinner. I had Prime Rib and the, endless, salad bar. Mona had a steak and the salad bar. Then we walked around the, nearby, shops at Knott's Berry Farm.
Surprisingly, we hit it off and agreed to drive to San Clemente for a, romantic, walk on the pier and beach and plenty of drive-time for conversation.
During our discussion of the Dodgers, Lakers and our love of Contemporary Christian music, travel, and movies, the subject of our pairing, by Laurie, came up. I asked Mona if she knew why Laurie matched us. "Similar interests, including music, God, travel, the beach, and our lack of virginity," Mona offered. I laughed. "Same story she gave me. What do you think?" Mona responded, "We both like the same things. We both enjoyed sex. We aren't hung up on guilt about sex. At least I am not."