My husband has constantly begged for me to tell him about the sex I had before we met. It's not uncomfortable or weird, I just don't remember the details as intensely as he does his past encounters. He always wants to hear about me giving a handjob or giving a guy a blowjob, how big were they, all the stuff that I never found to be something to commit to my memory.
I told him "Well, they always started as a hand job but usually ended up becoming a blow job.. it's kind of inevitable."
I remember everyone I had sex with. There's not that many, really. I was a late bloomer. The first boyfriend that I fooled around with was 19, I was 18 and we met at community college in the fall after I graduated from high school. This one I remember clearly.
After a few weeks of classes and keeping my head down and working hard, I started to lighten up a bit and tried to be more social. There were lots of good looking guys on campus but lots of gorgeous girls too. Like I said, I was a late bloomer and I was just starting to come out of my shell. I had shoulder length hair that was braided in places and those areas were bleached blonde. I'm mixed, so my hair is a thick mane, heavy and curly. I'd had a job during the summer and for my eighteenth birthday, I got a tongue piercing and lived to play with it and show it off. Being a bit naive, it hadn't really dawned on me what most girls were getting them for. So when I would push the bead out between my lips and move it around while working in class, every guy in the room was of the mindset that I was advertising some skill that I hadn't even considered yet. Well, maybe a little but again, I was shy and a little behind on all of that.
There were a couple of guys that were kinda lewd about it and it made me really self conscious about it and I started to rethink my jewelry. One guy though, let's call him Tony for the sake of keeping things anonymous, complimented me on occasion and was polite and friendly. This was a welcome change from the usual suspects. We walked together to classes we shared and even met out in the courtyard to smoke cigarettes between a few. After a couple of weeks of this, he got up the nerve to ask me out and I blurted out a yes that probably sounded desperate. He was about 5'10" and was in great shape. Bright eyes and a great smile with a gentle way about himself, although he was a little cocky.
We decided to go out on the coming weekend and he would pick me up from my house. I had younger siblings and really didn't want everyone in the house to embarrass me when he arrived, so I told him "Be on time and I'll meet you at the end of our driveway."
Friday came and I spent the whole afternoon figuring out what to wear. Something to make me stand out but not look trashy. Jeans and a knit blouse with sandals wasn't too frumpy but didn't look like I was headed to a night club either. When he got there he told me I looked great and that he was really happy that I had said yes to a date with him. This made me flush a little and my heart race a bit too.
He opened the car door for me and went around to the drivers side and jumped in and off we went. We'd decided on dinner and a movie as our evening entertainment and both went well. I ate light so I didn't look like a pig
and we split a drink and some popcorn at the movie. There was a scene in the movie that gave me a good jump scare and I grabbed his hand when it happened but didn't let go after. He leaned in after the last scene and kissed me. I hadn't kissed a lot of guys yet and I felt awkward, but it felt good. I know my nipples stood up but the top I was wearing and the dark helped to hide them. He went from my lips to the side of my neck and this drive me crazy. I'd never been kissed like this before and it warmed me up immediately. As the credits rolled and people started filing out, we hopped up and followed. When we got out to his car, he opened the door and asked where I'd like to go. I had no idea where we could continue our heavy kissing but I wanted more and said "Someplace quiet and private?" He said "I know just the place!"