The transformation of an Egyptian girl brought up with traditional values and ignorance into a modern emancipated woman.
As part of the research for my studies in archaeology and Alexander the Great I decided to spend some time in Alexandria, Egypt. The fact that my name was Alexander was not coincidental. He was my hero. There are enormous areas close to Alexandria which are still being dug and investigated. I was happy to go to Alexandria because it was distant from Cairo and seemed to have none of the disruption caused by the recent riots in Cairo.
As part of my preparation to go I spent a fair bit of time on the Internet trying to find out about Egypt and what I discovered surprised me. I scarcely know where to start. For a start the Internet is censored in Egypt and you cannot get everything you want.
What surprised me most was the fact that some 93% of all females in Egypt had been exposed to FGM. I thought that was the case south of Egypt but I was wrong. I discovered that there is no sex education in Egypt and the ignorance level is unbelievable. There were at one time sex education classes but the teachers, especially the female ones, were so embarrassed that they virtually taught nothing. Young women who had been promised in arranged marriages had to get special classes to instruct them in preparation for their marriage. It seems that virginity was highly prized both for men and for women.
Some women were so terrified of sex that they developed vaginismus. Sexual harassment occurred to 98% of all foreign female tourists who came to Egypt and also to some 65% of local women. What were the men thinking? I had always imagined Egyptians to be something like inhabitants of the West except with a lower standard of living but in fact there was a whole new dimension that I could scarcely comprehend.
In theory women were equal to men but in practice they were very much under male domination and control with very little regard for the feelings. With that knowledge it never occurred to me that I might find a woman to dally with in Egypt. I accepted that I would be celibate in Egypt.
I organised accommodation in a cheap hotel for a few days until I could get myself organised into an apartment. On my first day I turned up at the office which organised all the excavations and was met by the manager who had been in charge for quite a few years. He introduced me to his assistant Mona, mainly because of her knowledge of English. Communication with others in the office was not very good.
I was aware that everyone in the office was looking at me in a special way but I had not noticed that one in particular was looking at me in a 'special' special way. Mona was around 20 years old and dressed in the typical female clothing of Egypt -- a headscarf, a long dress down to the ground and a sweater and cardigan. Mona was also a university student working during the holidays. Nobody could have any idea of what she looked like underneath all those shapeless clothes. Her skin colour was a light brown, and her hair very dark. Her brown eyes were very dark and sparkling bright. Her fingers were delicate and well-shaped.
At meal breaks it always seemed that Mona was at my side. I cannot describe what her body looked like because I could not see her body. It turned out that she had been in England for a few weeks learning English and wanted to practice conversation. I was actually surprised at how good her English was. I asked her about getting accommodation and she said she could help.
Apparently her father was very well off and owned a few apartments. He had apparently made a lot of money from government contracts. The rent was expensive for Egyptians but very cheap in English pounds and I took it. Fortunately, it was quite close to where we were working. Every time we sat down for a meal she sat down next to me.
A few weeks after I arrived she suggested that we go to Cairo to see the big Museum. Apparently we could not be seen together so we took two separate trains to Cairo and met there. We took the train back early to avoid the peak hour crush. Mona told me to go back to the apartment and she would come separately after buying some food for dinner. A few minutes after I got back she entered with her own key.
It was then that I found she was living in the same block. This in itself was an event of enormous significance. I had not realised that Mona would never have allowed herself to be alone in a room with an Egyptian man. She could not and would not trust them.
After a tasty dinner we sat down and talked sitting on the couch watching TV. Mona was trying to explain what was happening but it was very difficult. She went back into the kitchen to wash up and I went to help. Mona gave me a special look.
She stood very close next to me and I was aware that her hip was touching mine all the time. It could not have been an accident. I realised that Mona had other ideas beyond the dinner. As we washed the dishes together she looked into my eyes with a loving look and held my hand.
It was unexpected because I had no idea there was any possibility of this in a country where reputation and virginity were so highly valued. I had not realised that a major barrier had already been passed -- Mona was alone in a room with a man for the first time in her life. She could see that I enjoyed her company and she trusted me because I had not tried to take advantage of her in any way. I had the feeling that something could happen between us but no idea how things like that worked out in the Moslem world.
We sat down on the couch while she still held my hand and talked. For the first time she talked about how wonderful it was to live in London learning English and dress in Western clothes without a headscarf. She loved the freedom. She loved the sense of freedom that allowed young people to do what they wanted without the close supervision of their parents and family.
Apparently her two older sisters were married to two local men and they complained to her that their husbands treated them badly. They never discussed sex because nobody did that in Egypt. Women had few rights and Mona had decided that she was going to leave Egypt and live a better life. It was all becoming clear that I was part of her plans to become a Western woman.
What Mona hadn't told me was that she had been thinking about her virginity ever since she came back from England. She wanted to try sex. It seemed that it was only important to keep it so that you could get a husband but she had no intention of finding an Egyptian husband. It followed that it was only valuable to the Egyptian husband and not to her. If that was the case, why keep it?
Mona was not exactly aware of the details but knew that the husband wanted to be the first to insert his penis into her vagina -- she had no idea why that was important. Could he tell if he was the first? How would he know? In London it didn't seem important and everybody seemed happy enough. Mona was determined to find her own husband and not be part of an arranged marriage.
I don't think she had any plans to get married to a Westerner but just to live a life of freedom. She wanted to be liberated and I was going to liberate her. She looked into my eyes and then she pulled my head towards hers and we kissed. I was certainly surprised and I think she was too, at how forward she had been.
This was a totally different situation to anything I had ever experienced in the past with my girlfriends from the University in England. We understood how the game would be played and had a fair idea what the next move might be from my partner at the time.
It was totally different here -- Mona had never had a boyfriend in her life and was totally inexperienced in every way. I think she knew it was her destiny as a woman to have sex but I don't think she had the first clue as to how this might happen. I was quite happy to kiss her as any young man would have been. I moved her headscarf aside so that I could nibble her earlobe -- something I always did.
It was the best way to get a girl in the mood and once started she would generally willingly proceed to the next level. I could immediately sense that Mona was becoming relaxed and even laughed when I licked her ear. She was totally ignorant of the mechanics of having sex. My hand ended up resting on her breast and I tried to tweak her nipple through the clothing.
I did this for quite a while in silence and I could feel that she was enjoying the experience very much. My hand tried to find its way through her garments but I was totally unfamiliar with her clothing. There was certainly a great reluctance for her to remove any clothing and expose her body. It had never occurred to me the extent to which modesty had been a part of her upbringing.
Mona did not actually resist too much but nor did she help. She held my hand to control it but finally let it find its way under her clothes. At the very least you could only say she was a reluctant participant in a game that she had never played and yet wanted to play at the same time because of the pleasure she was getting. I found one breast and Mona purred with contentment as I gently massaged it. I manoeuvred her around so that she was leaning backwards into my chest while both my hands eventually were able to cover both her breasts.
She was definitely becoming aroused and I could feel her nipples harden. In a surprise move she stood up and removed all her upper clothing and bra revealing two very nice, neat rounded breasts with very small dark nipples. I was transfixed. I was still lying on the couch when she sat down and casually put a hand near my erection
Whether this was an accident or there was just nowhere else to put her hand I do not know. This was a situation in which all the girls that I knew would have known what to do instinctively but here was an innocent girl who expected me to make the next move. With one hand I moved her hand onto my erection and with the other hand I pulled her towards me and we kissed. You could see the excitement in her eyes and her expression of delight.
Mona: This English boy is so nice and gentle. I never kissed anybody on the lips before and it is so nice. He put his hands on my breast and played with my nipples. That is so nice too.