A surprise attitude adjustment
I've been struggling this year. It's April now, the sun is shining, and the flowers are all out. But my whole life still feels dull. Depression clouds my outlook and despite having an amazing life, I haven't been able to enjoy much of anything lately. Food tastes like sawdust, all of my usual activities feel overwhelming in a way that utterly baffles me.
My husband assures me gently that it's just my depression, and it will pass. The sun will come out again for me, it just hasn't happened yet. It's been a really rough 4 years. Rough enough to make even the strongest soul succumb to the darkness a bit. I've really been trying. Trying to get myself in a better place, but this morning everything is extra dark again in my psyche.
He sees how heavy I am this morning, and as I drink my coffee he asks me sweetly if I need anything? Is there something he can do to help my day feel brighter? Would I like him to cook me breakfast? Would I like to talk?
I shake my head no. I don't want anything. I don't want to do anything. I just want to melt into the abyss and be done with life and its hardness.
He nods, and says "ok babe, I just want you to know I'm here for you." I nod and stare blankly at the fire in the wood stove, crackling and dancing. I wish I could feel different today, but I just can't.
He goes out to do farm chores and I sit in my recliner with a cup of coffee and stare vacantly for the next half hour. This isn't like me! What is happening? Why can't I get my shit together? But I can't. I just stare... numb to it all.
Suddenly I'm startled from my daydreaming by hubby saying "babe, are you ready to go on our morning walk?"
"No. Not really" I reply in a melancholy tone. "I just don't want to today."
"I know." He says "But I think you need to get your clothes on and get outside for a little walk. It's sunny and nice and it might improve your mood."
"Fine." I say, in a tone I rarely use that properly conveys the resistance and numbness I feel.
I get my clothes on listlessly and climb into the truck to drive down the road to our favorite little nature preserve where we like to walk. The sun is shining, but it might as well be a nasty blizzard for how I feel.
We drive quietly to the end of our driveway and turn onto the road. Suddenly He starts talking, and I half listen listlessly as he says firmly: "It's a beautiful sunny day." Yes... I agreed silently in my head. But why are you saying that it's a sunny day in a firm voice? I was too blah feeling to care enough to ask the question out loud though. It didn't matter. Who cared if he wanted to comment on the weather in an odd tone?
He continued. "You are REALLY struggling with your attitude today aren't you?" I agreed, and he continued, his tone getting more serious "I need you to listen to what I'm saying to you now." My ears perk up a little, what could he possibly want to tell me that I need to pay so much attention to?
"I've been trying to help improve your attitude all morning, but nothing is helping. You don't want anything to make you feel better, you don't want me to do anything for you, you have a bad attitude about going on a walk, and frankly I don't really want to go on a walk with you and your bad attitude."
"He never talks to me like this.." I thought to myself. "What is he getting at? My attitude is bad?? That's not normal language for him to use when I'm this low... and for good reason!" But before I could wonder more he continued.
"So, I've decided, what you need to improve your attitude is a spanking."
At this point I couldn't help but grin a little, and I said in an exaggerated tone "oh REALLY?? You decided that did you?"
Hubby had never spanked me before outside of me specifically asking for it during sex, and even then it was barely a spanking at that. I had told him for years how much I loved the idea of being disciplined and how much I enjoyed being spanked and wished he would spank me often. He would smile, and tease a bit, but never followed through with anything other than a few gentle ass smacks.
So I had to give him kudos for deciding to tease me about an attitude adjustment spanking right now. That was indeed a clever way to improve my mood. Talk about spanking! I was sure he wouldn't follow through, but even just the threat made a little smile crack over my face for the first time that day. I repeated myself and said again "oh you think so, huh?"
His response surprised me. Instead of starting to giggle, and leaning over and kissing me and saying "I'm just playing babe, I just thought that would make you smile" he instead replied firmly "Yes. Yes I did decide that."
And with that, he reached over as he was driving and pulled two pain stirrers out of the pocket of the truck door, laid them on the console and said "I will let you choose which one of these you want to be spanked with."
My jaw was on the floor. Was this actually happening? Was he serious? This had been a hard core fantasy of mine for the better part of 20 years, but I never thought it would come true... My heart jumped into my throat and my mind started racing.
Why was he doing this now? Why was he bringing it up now? Yes, we were alone in the car, and maybe he thought telling me I was going to get a spanking when I got home would amp up the anticipation as we went on our walk? Was that why he was saying all this now?
He started talking again. "So here's how it's going to go....". He suddenly stopped, realizing I hadn't yet answered his question about which implement I wanted to be spanked with. "Wait, You still need to pick which one of those paint stirrers you want me to spank your ass with."
He tapped them both with his free hand and paused and waited, so i picked up each stirrer and smacked my hand a little and I hesitantly made a choice.
"This one I guess." I said pointing to the smaller one.
"Ok, good." He said. "So here's what's going to happen."