Several years before my marriage, I met a young woman who had experienced much in life - for her age - but hadn't known the greatest pleasure of all until we met.
This is the story of that first experience for her.
I had seen her at work a few times, she was eye-catching to say the least. Her vivacious smile, friendly attitude and empathetic charm made her the type of person who lights up a room when she walks in.
She was younger than me by quite a few years - all of my colleagues seem to be younger - but she was poised and mature well beyond her years. Our conversations were professional and business-related, but by exchanging a word or two here and there about our personal lives we got to know each other better over the next several months.
She didn't work for me, so I didn't see her every day, but I found myself thinking about her on the days when she wasn't around. When she attended meetings with my team, she would usually hang around the conference room after everyone else had departed as I shutdown the projector and gathered my things. We would chat for a few minutes about this and that, and I found myself inviting her to more meetings than necessary, just so we'd have those few minutes together afterward.
After one such meeting she asked me if I could spare a few minutes to speak with her privately about a personal issue at lunch. I knew that several of the men at work wanted to date her, but she'd previously confided in me that she hadn't been "satisfied" with any of the dates she'd accepted and thus had not dated in several months. I assumed she wanted to talk about that subject again.
We agreed to meet at a restaurant a few blocks away. Once there the conversation quickly turned personal, as she asked me a number of detailed questions about the circumstances of my personal life. I was a bit surprised at her forthrightness, but also found it refreshing to talk with a woman again about something other than work.
Finally, remembering that she had asked to speak with me, I apologized for being the focus of our conversation and asked her to share what was on her mind.
She leaned a little closer to me and asked me if I remembered talking to my doctor on my cell phone while at lunch in this very restaurant a few days ago. I was very surprised, because I remembered the call and I also remembered the subject; we were talking about my erectile dysfunction. After I had concluded the call that day I looked around a bit sheepishly. I was so caught up in the conversation that I forgot about my surroundings. I was relieved to see that no one was sitting within earshot; or so I thought.
In fact my coworker had been sitting in the booth right behind me, our heads less than six inches apart, and she'd heard my doctor's voice as well. Now, as I stared at her with a goofy expression on my face, like a kid caught with his hand in the cookie jar, I could only give her an embarrassed smile and shrug my shoulders. I apologized if she'd heard anything too personal; anything that might have offended her.
She looked straight into my eyes and said that she certainly wasn't offended, she was intrigued and impressed. She said that she'd always liked me, but now she admired me. Admired me?
Yes. She specifically remembered me telling my doctor that I didn't "need" to have an erection to satisfy a woman. That I loved performing cunnilingus far more than I'd ever loved intercourse and that my tongue was the only sex organ I needed.
"Was that true", she inquired? "Do You really enjoy licking a pussy more than fucking or getting a blow job?" Her forthright salty language broke down the natural inhibitions I have when talking to a young lady and I grinned at her.
"Yes, it's true, in fact it's my passion. It's the most pleasurable intimacy a couple can experience." I told her.
She said that almost all of the young men that she'd dated had been completely ignorant on the subject of female anatomy. They knew where they wanted to stick their cocks, but other than a general sloppy licking, really had no idea how to please a woman with their mouth and tongue.
She was impressed by what she overheard from me because she heard me tell my doctor with absolute confidence that I could please a lady with my mouth alone, and that this was my "absolute favorite" activity. She couldn't believe what she was hearing and knew that she had to find out more, hence this conversation.
Every guy she dated, even the "nice" ones, expected her to go down on them, but only a couple were willing to reciprocate. Those few made her feel good but never stayed at it long enough for her to climax. She admitted that she always felt a bit uncomfortable too. No matter how willing they were, she always had a nagging suspicion that they were doing it out of some sense of obligation or fairness.
She often fantasized about a gentle selfless lover who considered oral sex something more than foreplay. Someone who actually enjoyed licking a woman and had the stamina to drive her through multiple orgasms. She confided that she often masturbated to this fantasy and "came in buckets" when she did.
I reached across the table and gently covered her hand with mine. I looked directly into her eyes and spoke softly. I confirmed that her experiences were common. Very few men live for the pleasure of making love to a woman only with their tongue. For those that do there's a slang term; they're called "Love Lickers" and looked down upon by other men because they'd rather use their tongue than their penis. At my age I'm very comfortable with my masculinity. There's nothing to prove and I have no issues with my confidence or ego. This belief gives me incredible power; it enables me to give a woman something that those young men won't ever come close to doing.
"Really?" She asked, how could I make such a bold statement?
I explained that when a man is passionate about something he becomes devoted to his passion; he is single-minded of purpose and shuts out all of the distractions from the world around him. This dedicated focus, when combined with decades of experience, self-assurance and inexhaustible stamina is what I possess, and it gives me this self-confidence.