"Have you given any thought to what you want to do for your birthday this year?" He dropped it in casually, on the daily ride to the gym. Honestly, I hadn't really given it much thought, other than to realize that I was in no way pleased about the prospect of this birthday; maybe for the first time in my life, it held little or no excitement. This is it, I thought. This is when it turns around, and birthdays become something to dread. This is me, getting old.
"No, not really," though, was the short answer.
"Well, do you want to have a party of some kind? I know a lot of your friends have moved this year, but you know my family would be more than happy to put something together for you."
Oh, gods. They would, I knew, put together a celebration that was theoretically about me and to which I would somehow still feel peripheral. Well intentioned? Sure. Just, no. So, no gathering of my close friends. No family deal. And, given that I was turning thirty-four, not twenty-four, the idea of hosting a big free-for-all, the kind of party you have when your friends have mostly moved away and you need to meet new people, just sounded sad and made me feel even older, not better. Not to mention, having been to my sister's thirtieth birthday bash in Las Vegas only a few months before, the memory of the two-day hangover was still fresh enough to make me sure those days were pretty much behind me.
So, what to do? Leo's a sweet guy, and he wants to make me happy. What do I want? If I could really have it, what would it be? "Give me a few days? I'll think about it, really."
"Okay, babe, but don't think too long, or I'm going to let my mom loose on you. We can do whatever you want, but if you can't come up with something for yourself, I'll do it. Or my mom and sister will do it, but you're not just going to let this one pass by. I, for one, am glad you were born, and we're celebrating."
Because, you know, he wants to make me happy and he's a sweetheart and all, but he's still a bossy fucker. Seriously.
Which got me thinking: man, we haven't scened forever. Time keeps getting eaten up--work, school, recession lay-offs and looking for new work, training for the half-marathon, family obligations, settling my father's estate...it was always something, and it just ate at our time together. It's hard to find the time to get really into a good scene when we're happy and feeling lucky if we have the time and energy to have sex on a regular basis. Just sex. Pure vanilla, hold the sprinkles.
Sad, really.
Hmm...the first glimmer of a birthday plan was beginning to catch the light. What if we had a private celebration? What if what I wanted wasn't a kid's birthday party, but a very adult and intimate celebration?
If I could ask for anything, would I have the guts to ask for what I really wanted? That was fast becoming the new question.
I think I made up my mind within about ten minutes of his asking me about it. I didn't manage to bring it up, though, not for three days. How can that be? I'm a grown woman, I chastised myself. We've had sex a few thousand times. We've scened plenty. Hell, we've done most of the stuff two people can do to and with each other, barring outside assistance or major labor costs. How could it be so difficult to talk about this?
Finally, I cheated a bit, and talked to him while he was in the shower. With the smoked-glass door shut, I could talk to him without him seeing my face. Such a scaredy-cat, me. "So, I've been thinking about my birthday. Do you mind if we do something just the two of us? I mean, we can do something with the family and all, but can my present from you be a private thing?"
"Sure..." His cautious voice suggested he was expecting something else, or waiting for another shoe to drop. "Do you have somewhere you want to go? If you want, I can take you for a weekend away. Maybe Santa Barbara? Newport? San Francisco? I need to know soon, though, so I can get the time off and get us set up."
"No, we're fine to stay here. I just want a date." Dammit. I was still avoiding the issue, hemming and hawing. Spit it out, Nina!
The water shut off, and the sliding door opened. Man. Looking at him still stopped me cold. Actually, he looked better naked than he ever had before. Sure, we'd been together since we were teenagers, but in recent years we'd given up martinis and late-night Mexican food in favor of macrobiotics and marathons. He biked all over the city, too. Tan, lean, tattooed just enough, water dripping off his blonde curls and down his body. Yeah, he looked good.
Wait, what was I saying again?
"Okay...what kind of date?" Oh, yeah, we were talking.
"Well, what if we had a little dinner out, and came home for a little private time?" Dammit! I will say this! "We haven't had a real, full-on scene in a long time..." So, so lame. But at least it was a start, and the half-smile on his face told me all I really needed to know.
"So, a scene? I can definitely do that. What are you looking for, exactly. It's your birthday; you can set the terms. Within reason," he added immediately. He never has liked to bottom very often, and when he does it's within very narrow parameters. Sometimes that's a pain, because I've got a mean streak and am just as bossy as he is, but this time it would work out just fine.
"Wax? You know that's my favorite, and I never get it up to ask for it, because it's so labor intensive. But, that's what I want. A good, messy wax scene. You up for it?" Just hearing me talk about it, he was increasingly up for the occasion, and since he'd still not put on any clothes, his eagerness was readily apparent, which made me bolder. Within role, of course.