I know to the casual observer, my girlfriend and I would appear to be extraverts or even exhibitionists. And I guess if one is at ease with one's body, it can appear that way. But people are complicated. Who we are today, isn't always who we were yesterday. Life is a journey, and no journey was more surprising than that of my girlfriend.
I'll admit to being the adventurous one, but Melanie, for sure, never was. I say this even though she has a body worth exhibiting. 5'7", blonde, blue eyes, with a trim runner's figure, well-proportioned firm breasts, and a curvaceous backside that is breathtaking in athletic pants. But she never flaunted it, and for most of her life, she has been modest, even shy. But modesty is a state of mind. And you can change your mind.
Her journey toward sexual openness began shortly after we met, in college. We had just begun dating, and were at a fraternity party. When the party was winding down, five couples went upstairs for a special event, a trivia contest. But a trivia contest with a twist.
Each couple would compete as a team to answer a question. If you got it right, good for you. If you got it wrong, one garment of clothes had to be removed. What garment and from whom was left up to the couple. The game would end when both the guy and the girl of a couple were naked. If you were good, you'd be clothed at the end. Otherwise, you'd be on display. Melanie was quite hesitant, but I assured her that I was really good at trivia. And with major peer pressure from the others, she agreed to participate -- against her better judgment, she'd later say.
The questions weren't terribly hard at the beginning, and a mistake just cost one a shoe or a sock. Soon most people were barefoot. The questions began to get harder.
Melanie and I were asked: "Who won the Academy Award Best Picture award in 2010? I was sure it was The Social Network. But it was The King's Speech. (Social Network was robbed.)
I had to remove my shirt.
Clothes around the room were starting to come off. A lot of girls had lost their blouses and were in a bra; all the men were bare chested. The dynamics of each couple were on play when the choice was whether to remove a skirt or trousers, or a bra or a man's briefs. Some of the girls were good sports and removed a bra to allow their man to keep his manhood from display in skimpy briefs. Some men were gallant, and choose their own exposure to protect their woman.
This was new territory for Melanie and she was getting increasingly nervous about what was going on about her. I had protected her, by taking all the clothing "hits." I was down to my briefs. She was fully clothed. But then we missed another question.
We looked at each other. It was obvious that her protected status had to change. She reluctantly took off her blouse. It revealed a thin lace bra that did little to conceal her breasts. Her nipples were visible through the fabric. Her arms instinctively moved to cover her chest.
When our turn came again, the question was a bear.
"Name the second state to ratify the US Constitution."
Yikes. Everyone knows Delaware was the first. It's on their license plates. But the second?
"New Jersey" I guessed.
It was Pennsylvania.
Either her skirt came off or my briefs came off. She was not happy about it but she took off the skirt and was in bra and panties.
A few more rounds. Most girls were topless; some guys were just in their briefs. When our turn came, it was another wicked question.
"How many states did George McGovern win in the 1972 presidential election?"
I said two.
Wrong. (He won Massachusetts and D.C. but D.C. isn't a state.)
I looked at Melanie. She looked at me. "You," she said.
"I'll be naked. It's not so terrible to be topless. You should do it," I replied.
Melanie gave me a death stare. I stood up and took off my briefs. There was general merriment among the girls and (I assume) good natured comments about the size of my privates.
Now, I'm happy with my body but this was my first time being naked in front of a crowd. And I'd never even been naked with Melanie. I felt very exposed, as of course I was.
The game proceeded. Another guy lost his briefs to allow his woman to keep her panties. This was turning into a male burlesque show.
The questions were relentless. We got a few right but inevitably, we stumbled.
"How many moons does Jupiter have?"
(A cynic might think the questions were designed to result in the removal of clothes.)
We were clueless. (It has 79; they keep discovering more.)
This time it was up to Melanie. I had done all I could. I couldn't get more naked. She closed her eyes, and slipped off the bra. While with some other girls, there had been good natured banter about beautiful breasts, the guys were wise; there was total silence when Melanie went bare. Her arms were immediately wrapped around her chest.
One of the other couples soon ended up with both of them naked, and so Melanie never had to remove her panties. I would have thought she would be pleased. She was not. We dressed and walked back to the dorms.
"How could you have talked me into that embarrassing game?" she spit out at me. "And you said you were good at trivia!"
"Not as good as I thought. But I was the one naked, you still had your panties on."
"Oh, so I should be happy, should I?" she said. "I've never been topless in front of people before. I was mortified."
We walked in silence, and she wouldn't talk to me for a week. I knew she was mad. But she did like me, so in time, we patched things up. And I even got to see her without her panties, although not in a crowd.
But we never played that game again, although it was pretty popular with the fraternities. She and I stayed together through college and end up living together. We rented a small house in the suburbs. Our neighbors a block over were a young couple, Joel and Camille. We're both dog lovers, and we met them walking our respective pets.
Joel and Camille were our age, outgoing and funny, as we soon became good friends. They'd eat in our house, we in theirs. They had a hot tub on their deck, which was private as it was shielded by trees. They often encouraged us to join them for a dip. But there was a catch. Joel and Camille liked to soak nude and Melanie resisted. I know she still remembered that embarrassing game of trivia. So we passed on their invitations.
That started to change one day when we were at their house, and Melanie remarked how she had strained her back at the health club. Joel was a chiropractor and kept a folded up chiropractic table in his family room. He was quick to suggest a treatment.
"Hop on the table and I'll massage the pulled muscle. You'll feel better in no time."
"Here, in front of everyone?" she asked.
"Sure, it will only take a few minutes. You'll be covered, just your bare back will be exposed."
I guess it helped that she knew Joel. She pulled off her blouse and got on the table.
Joel unhooked the bra, poured some oil on her back, and using his powerful hands massaged the back muscles. While her front was concealed, the swell of her breasts from the side was obvious.
"God, that's heavenly," Melanie remarked as she got off the table. She was careful to refasten the bra. But she didn't want to put the blouse back on. Too much oil on her back, she said. It would stain.
Joel said this was the perfect time for her to try out the hot tub; the hot water would wash off the massage oil. "You can keep your bra on; it's just like a bathing suit top," he suggested.