For me, that initial spark of sexual interest in a women often comes in the very first moment I see her, and it has always been so. As life goes, often there is no chance for me to find out whether we could have actually been a couple of some sort, which is frustrating. We just pass by, headed wherever we are going in our lives, with a partner or not, and never find out just how we might really connect.
Sometimes, in fact, it is a stranger who elicits the greatest excitement of all.
Sometimes, also, circumstances have brought out a side of my nature that I'm not quite sure how to evaluate. Every now and again, I like to touch a woman I don't know. I guess it might be called groping, but I don't do it unless she reacts in a way that makes me feel she enjoys it. It's happened just a few times, here and there – on a bus, train or airplane; or in a store, but when it does it is exceptionally memorable.
The other day, shopping for the holidays, it happened, for the first time in years. A younger woman dressed in faded blue jeans and an off-white sweater caught my eye as I entered a small shop across town. She was pretty, with medium length black hair and nice eyes. I glanced at her as I fingered a small imported box inlaid with ivory. She was stroking the hair of a doll made in Central America. Then, she put the doll down and moved slowly past where I was standing. As it happened, in that tight space, she turned sideways just as she passed and the back of my right hand brushed her jeans in such a way that I could feel the outline of her bottom, first one cheek, then the other. She didn't pull away at all but instead moved past very slowly, almost deliberately. I felt my pulse quicken.
She settled into another part of the store. I examined some women's clothing, keeping one eye in a mirror that allowed me to watch what she was doing. I saw her glance at me, then she crossed the room, nearer me now.
I worried she might leave, so I turned around and followed, to where she now was looking through a pile of silk scarves. I gradually worked my way around other customers, until I was quite close to her again. I saw her glance again my way. Slowly as I stepped behind her, she bent over the table, thrusting her bottom out at me. This did not seem like an accident. This time I did not use my hand but I pressed the front of my jeans against her ass and moved ever so slowly past her. My hardening penis worked across her buttocks, resting for one glorious moment between her crack, before I pulled along and settled in next to her on the other side of that table.
Now, I wanted to catch her eye, to gauge her reaction. She looked shyly at me, then away. I looked at her lips, then down at her breasts, and the front of her jeans, her legs. She suddenly looked like the loveliest creature on earth to me. I wanted nothing more than to strip off her clothes and fuck her then and there, forgetting everything either of us might be in this world, just for the chance to connect in the deepest way men and women have available to us.
Scientists say men are visual creatures, especially when it comes to the sexual hunt.