Good evening ya'll, my name is Ashley-Anne. I was born in North Carolina and came up near the Gulf Coast of Alabama. I consider myself a true Southern girl. As such, I am a little curvier than my friends from California. My Momma continuously tries to feed them, telling them they need to put some meat on their bones.
My momma also taught me that appearances mattered, reputation was something to protect. All the girls I knew in school swore they were virgins, to include my younger sister Ellen, who we all knew got around with the boys and even ended up in a shotgun marriage. Even if one did enjoy "driving with boys", it remained important to not admit it and each of the boys were to think they were the first and only. After their weddings, girls continued to put on airs; going on about not liking sex and how it was "too messy." One would wonder how they ever ended up with six or eight children each.
My family was very poor early on. We did not have air-conditioning and the South can be extremely hot and humid. In Carolina, Momma would take me down to the creek in back of the house and let me splash around. Having moved to Alabama around two or three, we did not have a creek, but Papa brought me home a horse trough in the back of his pick-up. Mama would have none of me splashing nekkid until Papa moved it behind the house out of sight from the road.
As time meandered on, things changed. We got air-conditioning. We were able to afford swim suits. And Momma had seven more children. This did not change the preferred method of staying cool. We still chose the horse trough to A/C and refused to wear swimming suits. Momma frowned upon this, thinking we should be growing into young ladies and gentlemen rather than continuing to frolic naked into our teenage years.
Momma again compromised, we could continue to swim nekkid with conditions. We had to continue to stay behind the house, out of sight of neighbors, while nekkid. She also imposed a rule of separation. Boys and girls would be on opposite sides of the house if anyone was nekkid. Being the oldest girl, I was responsible for watching for any boys spying.
This is but one example of how my Southern upbringing shaped my views. Practices I have described were not limited to just my family. Many of my Southern Baptist friends would go to the beach in a dress that was well below the knees and buttoned up tight around the neck. Once on the beach they felt free to run around in the smallest of bikinis.
I did not realize that cultures varied significantly from how I was raised. Moving to Southern Colorado to finish my Doctoral degree was a tremendous shock to me. People did not couch their thoughts in comforting words. They seemed to skip pleasantries, especially if they were untrue, such as "I am so happy to meet you". At the University, if someone enjoyed being nude, they likely had a bumper sticker telling the world about it. If a girl likes having her breasts looked at, she lifted up her shirt flashing in a bar rather than being "caught" while changing clothes.
Needing to get away from school and regroup, my husband Tom and I decided a camping trip was called for. As the weather was turning chilly in Colorado, we planned a few days during the week on the Verde River in Arizona. Pulling into the area we planned to camp in, I was relieved to see trees rather than the endless brown desert.
With Tom carrying most of our gear, we hiked along the river for about a mile. Finding a grove of trees on the side of a small hill, we climbed up to establish our camp overlooking the river. From that vantage point we could see across the river where there were the remains of a resort which had burnt in a wild fire years prior.
We had read about this place in the Fromner's travel guide. With binoculars we could see all that was left were a small hot springs pool and a stone bath / steam room. The book had said that the land was now owned by the State and swimsuits were required by law. However it warned to expect nudity as few obeyed and the rule had never been enforced. From our vantage point and with the binoculars, we could indeed see nudity was the order for the day with the eight to ten people utilizing the springs.
With evening coming upon us, Tom began pitching the tent, setting up camp, and gathering firewood. As he set about fixing to do this or that, I inquired as to how I could help. Tom's response was for me to run back to the car and bring our beach towels and swim suits. I was stunned, was Tom planning on going to the springs? After a moment of unbelief, I asked "Are the swim suits for the hot springs with all the naked people?"