Hi. I'm Gerlinde. My husband Roger - as well as most everybody else who knows me - calls me Geri.
I understand that some time ago Roger related here his perception of an encounter we experienced while vacationing in the Caribbean. I'd like to tell you how I remember that same unforgettable day Roger and I spent while on vacation not too long ago. But, just in case you haven't read his story, let me introduce ourselves and give you some background.
We have a decent lifestyle. Roger is an attorney with a successful law firm in Westchester County, New York. Having been born in Germany, I am fluent in both English and German and use my bilingual ability as a division manager with a German manufacturing company in nearby Connecticut. Although no longer "spring chickens", we've managed to have kept in good shape with me doing yoga, playing tennis and bicycle riding together with Roger whenever the weather permits. Depending upon the season Roger is an active squash, basketball and softball player and whatever exercise machines we have at our disposal get used on a regular basis.
Early each autumn, when the New York weather starts to become gray and depressing, we celebrate our anniversary by taking a break in the warmth of our favorite Caribbean island paradise Dominica, We discovered a cottage resort which while offering all the amenities, excellent cuisine and a comprehensive wine list, is actually quite affordable.
I met roger almost 19 years ago some time after each of us had gotten divorced. The chemistry between us was instantaneously magical. Corny as it may sound it was story-book love-at-first-sight. We quickly became inseparable and were married within a few months. I really value our marriage, and so does Roger. And, as I respect my marriage vows and love Roger, I've had no interest in any other man since we met. I'm absolutely sure Roger has been equally faithful. Our 18 year marriage has been wonderful - growing and mellowing through the years - never becoming stale and boring. We share many tastes, activities, beliefs, opinions, and I'm convinced we are truly "best friends".
Our lovemaking is certainly satisfying although I prefer quality to quantity and normality to experimentation. While I suppose I enjoy sex as much as the next person, and understand that it's not necessarily for procreation only, it has never really been a major priority for me in our marriage. We have so very much going for us together outside our bedroom. I assume that like most men Roger might like to have sex more often but we do have a rather busy life style and are often too tired at the end of the day. The intimacy and familiarity Roger and I share plus the fact that we have not turned our lovemaking into a routine more than makes up for that.
Actually when it comes to sex Roger likes to watch. He watches sex on the TV - something I find to be a turn-off - he watches sex on the computer, as all men he likes to look at other women, but most of all (I'm happy to say) he likes to watch me. I probably disappoint him somewhat in this department as I am anything but an exhibitionist. I dress quite conservatively, never go without a bra and refuse to publically show off in any way what I've been told is considered to be quite a decent figure. I won't even go skinny dipping in the privacy of our secluded, tree enclosed, backyard pool unless there is no moon and all the lights are out. It took several years for me to permit a dim light to be turned on in the bedroom while we were being intimate. Roger has hinted at taking photos of me and even videos of us when we were in bed. Just for his own voyeuristic amusement of course. It took a while but I think it finally sunk in that this was never going to happen!
I do enjoy an occasional glass of wine, in very limited amounts, and have no interest in any recreational drugs. Having been brought up in a conservative home environment where we respected social propriety I have this need to remain in control of myself. In all - I'm a very private, very reserved, person. Roger has even laughingly said - "How can I be this much in love with such a repressed prude!" So when Roger mentioned this absurd fantasy of his, that of watching me with another person, I said "Die Gedanken sind frei" - Your thoughts are free. In addition I told him to dream on as there was not even the remotest possibility of that ever happening! If this makes me a sexually repressed prude so be it!
Our much anticipated romantic vacation in the Caribbean this past fall was unbelievable! Excellent food, superb wines, fantastic weather - mid 80's each day with mid 70's at night with only the expected occasional brief afternoon sprinkle. Delightful bike rides; hiking through the forest enjoying the waterfalls; calm soothing surf with super snorkeling, clean white beaches with soft sand, and surprisingly good shopping in town. Roger bought me a lovely pair of hand made sandals made right there kin the store. Not only did we have fun but we really enjoyed each other's company!
With only a couple of days vacation left we decided to hang out on the beach, reading, sipping some drinks, nibbling some food, snorkeling and splashing about in the quite cool turquoise Caribbean surf.
Roger and I were reading and chatting about nothing in particular when a kind of handsome looking fellow about our age, who was reclining on the lounge chair next to ours, came over to us. He excused himself and introduced himself to us as Kurt. He asked if I could possibly be from Germany as he had apparently detected my German accent. This accompanied by my pale complexion, blond hair and blue eyes was basically a giveaway.
Kurt was the vice president of some prominent German pharmaceutical company, whose name I forget. He was by himself on one of his numerous business trips enjoying a brief weekend stopover checking a small chemical company here on the island before heading on to the U.S. Coincidently, it turned out both he and I were originally from Regensburg, a small city in Bavaria. We chatted for awhile reminiscing about our years growing up in Bavaria basically around the same time. Then, as I was having trouble keeping my eyes open, we made a date to continue our conversation and get better acquainted later that evening over dinner. Roger and I excused ourselves and went to our cottage for a nap.
Dinner was delightful. Roger and Kurt hit it off very well. Each had a great sense of humor and apparently shared many interests in common. The three of us seemed to kindle a warm friendly relationship almost immediately. Kurt was extremely pleasant and possessed that certain debonair charm which many European men seem to have. Naturally Kurt was also fluent in German and Roger can understand a bit. Although we did from time to time talk about our lives while living in Germany we kept the conversation in English so as not to exclude Roger. The meal was excellent as was the wine. Roger had ordered a couple of bottles of a delightful German Riesling as I recall. After dinner we strolled out to the pool and sat finishing our wine. Eventually we bid each other goodnight, and went our separate ways back to our own cottages.
The next day was sadly our last. After a late breakfast Roger and I went beachcombing holding hands as we strolled down the beach hunting for shells. Later in the day we went to our usual spot on the hotel's beach for an afternoon of loafing in the sun. Kurt happened by and we all ordered drinks and tapas to nibble on as we continued the pleasant relationship the three of us had started the previous evening.
Then suddenly it hit! The skies darkened accompanied by a fierce gusting wind as a torrential downpour accompanied by thunder and lightning came out of nowhere drenching us. We grabbed all our stuff and went scrambling to Kurt's place - as his was closest to the beach. When we got there the AC was on full blast. I'm not a big fan of air-conditioning in the first place, and since I was soaking wet I was uncomfortably chilled. At Kurt's suggestion I rushed shivering into the bathroom to get out of my wet bathing suit. I dried off, put on one of the plush ankle length terrycloth robes the hotel supplied, and wrapped a towel over my sopping hair. Roger followed me in and also slipped into a robe.
The sky was an eerie greenish-black and the thunder was still rumbling on when we went back out to the dimly lit room - now thankfully without the AC. Kurt, dressed in shorts and T-shirt, offered us each a nice warming glass of Asbach Uralt - a German brandy - which is usually too strong for me but I was freezing - and some German chocolates. Roger and Kurt sat in the chairs and I curled up on the high king size bed. Apparently this wasn't to be the brief passing shower we had hoped for as the rain and thunder showed no sign of letting up. So as we waited out the storm we made idle conversation, sipped our brandy, nibbled the chocolates, tried to figure out how far the storm was from us by counting the seconds between the lightning flashes and the thunder claps and listened to the soft music coming from somewhere in the background.
Kurt explained that his position with his company plus his expertise in chemistry required that he oversee the organization's foreign facilities on a fairly regular basis. He said that when he told his wife of this latest overseas trip she was really annoyed saying that she had tolerated these trips of his for years and had finally had enough. She wanted something done about his business travels which she felt were far too frequent and kept him away from her for extended periods of time. Other than her behaving somewhat distant towards him he had no reason to suspect anything but he would understand that if perhaps she was feeling abandoned she might have found someone to "fill in the time" while he had been away. He doubted anything like that had happened as this wouldn't be at all like her. Whatever, he hadn't given up on their marriage and had remained faithful since their discussion. Their relationship was cordial but cool, still sleeping in the same bed, albeit without much in the way of physical contact. Kurt realized she was right but still felt confident that there would be a reconciliation when he returned to Germany from this trip as his wife was obviously pleased when he told her just before he left that he had instructed his company that he was severely limiting any future travels. He called her every evening and she seemed to be in far better spirits. I don't remember much more as I apparently dozed off.