We have a routine when we meet new swingers. We like to meet for a drink. We have been doing this long enough to know that we shouldn't even plan dinner. Dating was hard enough when it was one on one. When you are looking for chemistry between four different people it really is next to impossible.
It had gotten so impossible we hadn't even really been that active. We had met too many people and had such limited success that we really just weren't that into it. Still, their profile was nice and they were attractive so what the hell. We met at a wine bar not far from our house.
When they walked in, their pictures were not representative of what they looked like in person. This happens so frequently that we almost expect it now. We wonder how much different we look from our profile pictures. She was shorter and heavier than the pictures. He was older.
"That's disappointing." I told David as we waited to see if they recognized us.
"It's on you then. I can tell he is older than you go for."
I know it's expected that the male half is going to be down to fuck pretty much whatever she looks like, but with David that wasn't true. He had a problem with skinny. We are past forty and he hates it when women over 40 work out until they are skin and bones. It looks okay at 20, he thinks, but older he thinks they look like Skeletor from the old He-Man cartoons. I supposed, the longer I looked at her the better she looked. She had large full breasts and hips and a little bit of a tummy but she kept her waist thin enough that she had a true hourglass figure. She had Dark hair and tan skin and could be Latina. I guess it was up to me if I was going to take one for the team. We had pledged not to ever put the other one in that situation but of course, we had done it frequently.
He had gray hair and a gray goatee and could have been anything from a prematurely gray 35 to a fit 60. He wasn't really my type but he was tall. The men typically will be the ones to recognize each other but tonight it was different. They scanned the bar for a moment when the woman, Jennifer, recognized us, elbowed her husband, and came towards us.
Drinks went well. He was charming. David was smitten with the curvy brunette and they frequently leaned in to each other to whisper something. It usually left her giggling. She was placing her hand on his thigh.
The topic of dinner was brought up. I suggested Appetizers at the bar. Henrick liked the idea. He was born in Germany he had said but had lost his accent when he had gone to high school in Indianapolis. We talked a little about how he had immigrated to America. He was nice. He was charming. Those things are important. I really need three things if I am going to want to play. 1. I can't be a foregone conclusion. I think that's why I hate house parties. I don't like it when someone assumes they are going to get to fuck me. I have the pussy, you want the pussy, you better put the effort in. 2. I have to be attracted to you. I don't like creepy or smarmy. I don't want to hear about all of the orgies you host or all of the threesomes you've been in. I used to have fit as one of my requirements but I have learned, you can be a little chubby if you are sweet and charming. After all, my David is a little soft around the middle now. 3. You are going to need to hit on me. I really need you to come on to me. I want to hear how I am pretty and smart and how much you want me.
I guess we were lucky that Henrick and I were doing okay because I hadn't seen David click with anyone like this. Okay, that is not true. I know he liked the woman Louise a lot. There was also Lora. The problem with both those couples was that I am selfish. We play when I want to play. I get very jealous when David actually hits it off with some woman and I am prone to throw a temper tantrum. I really don't know why it didn't happen this night but it didn't. I was on a third glass of wine and had basically downed a bowl of artichoke dip on my own when he made his move.
"You are so pretty. We haven't been experimenting with this very long and we really haven't found any couples that we both liked. I guess I am picky."
He had said that about right. It was time for him to make a move. He started nicely; he had placed his hand on my back. He went for the lower back, not straight to my bare shoulder or so low as to be grabbing my ass. I leaned back into his hand. He moved his hand up to my bare shoulder. His touch was pleasant. I was in.
David excused himself to the restroom. It's at times like these it would be better if guys went to the restroom in groups the way women do, but they don't. With the three of us at the table, Jennifer moved closer to me. She did like to move in close to talk but when she asked what she asked, I understood.
"So you aren't really into the girl on girl thing?"
This question comes up a lot. I think at least half of the people that play are there because the woman half likes women. I don't. I'm not even curious and I was a little disappointed because it could be a deal breaker. I didn't even realize I was that ready for something to happen but I must have been.
"Nope. Not my thing. Sorry." I was a little terse but I was kind of tired of it coming up.
I think we kept talking but the change in mood was chilling. David came back and he could tell. The discussion rolled back to places we had travelled. We talked about the nude resort in Jamaica.
"That is where I got attacked." Said Jennifer. It was just awful the direction the night had gone and how quickly it had gone there. "I'm kind of like you. I never really have been into girls. We were all kind of doing our thing and I was right in the middle of it with her husband when she started trying to kiss me."
"Oh my god! That same thing! Remember Honey?" I knew exactly what Jennifer was talking about. We had been with the couple. I really liked the guy but wasn't all that big on his wife. David didn't mind her though I guess.
"I mean, go down on me, sure. Its not like I care who goes down on me if they know what they are doing but I am not into kissing girls."
"I will suck on a tit." I admitted. "I just kind of do it for Dave, ya' know, but yeah, no kissing."
"Okay, so no girl on girl kissing. Do you guys have any other rules we should know?"