My name's Paula Oort. I gotta start by getting something off my chest – and I'm not talking about my bra or my 38DD tits, ha ha – but it's time to break this stupid social mold around women who enjoy sex. If I was a guy (and thank goodness, I'm not!) no one would think it weird that I think a lot about sex. That I like watching pornography. That I play with myself constantly. But because I'm a woman nobody seems to be able to deal with it.
There's no word used to describe a guy who likes sex a lot (or a lot of sex) other than "a guy." But erotic literature (and that might just be an oxymoron) is filled with terms other than "a woman with a healthy appetite for sex."
Slut and nympho are the two most common. And it's not like those are achievements we are taught to aspire to – no, call a woman either of those and "everyone knows" she's cheap. Available. Easy. No one relates to her as powerful and in control. And it's not that there's anything wrong when I call what I'm doing slutty – or with my girlfriends. I'm going to share some stuff that I considered slutty – but that's for me to say. I guess it's kinda like the "N-word" thing – a black man or woman can use it with another black man or woman, but if you're white, you're now allowed or permitted. A man calling me a slut is different than another woman. If you don't understand, well, I'm not sure what more I can say.
By the way, don't even get me started on the whole "hooker/whore/prostitute" thing!! When will everyone wake the fuck up and realize that "the world's oldest profession" has been a profession since time immemorial so the stigma attached to it is a product of twisted minds?
Look, I have friends who've been reduced to selling themselves to survive because they have no choice. That's tough enough, but to then have to work through all that bullshit and recover their self-worth says they are far stronger than some guy who loses his hardon if he gets told it's too small! It's why the old idea of "it takes balls" is such bullshit! It takes a vagina! Vaginas get pounded over and over and still work. Try pounding a set of balls – takes a man out immediately!
Now I also have friends who have built a career around trading their sex skills for money and who don't buy into all that stigma. Strong women who learned to capitalize on what they have and who fucking enjoy it! Besides, who is a bigger whore – a politician who sells out his constituents and their needs in order to get his campaign financed, or a woman who knows just how much she's worth to men?
The Puritans out there go crazy when you say that. The misogynists who say women "have their place" freak out when confronted by someone like them. (Like me!) It's really too funny at times. And it's sad at other times.
Ultimately, I don't care. I've gotten to the point at age 34 where I am secure with myself. I don't normally give a rat's ass what people think – but as long as I'm writing, then I get to control what's said. So, get this straight, boys and girls.