There have been many encounters and activities over the years many with very fond memories that involved nothing more than the slightest kiss or briefest touch, others that were a lot more involved but for the life of me I can't remember a name or anything other than the sketchiest details, some through alcohol, others through selective memory.
I was pretty much a late starter, one of my first encounters I remember was a Christmas snog in the back of a mates car with an elf in between pubs, her mate seemed less impressed but I guess we were young and no lasting harm was done. Although getting into my Elf's Christmas stockings would have been better than any present.
Early years
The following all happened in the last year or so of education, I must have been 18 at the time and while I was regularly getting into pubs and clubs I wasn't so lucky with girls.
There was a nightclub in Birmingham that myself a group of friend occasionally went to, I think it was called Millionaires but there were so many clubs that I could have that confused. Anyway this Saturday night there was a larger group than normal with about a dozen or so of us, drinking and dancing and generally having a good night. None of the group were romantically attached as far as I was aware, no boyfriend/girlfriends within the group and didn't really give it much more thought.
One or two of the group drifted off during the evening chatting up or getting chatted up while the rest of us carried on having our own little party.
It came as a bit of a surprise when I got into a heavy snog with Claire. She was pretty good to look at and I had known her for a few years but had never really had the urge to lock lips or do anything else. Claire for a eighteen year old had some very impressive breasts and in the dark of the nightclub I found my hand being pulled and firmly placed onto them. The snog seemed to last for hours but in reality I probably had about ten minutes of feeling up her tits.
I never dated Claire but we remained friends and hooked up for some similar snogging once or twice over the next year. There was one time however, and I may have this very wrong, that I think I had more of an opportunity but didn't take it.
It was during the summer holidays, days were long and sometimes boring so I did a ring around to see if anyone wanted to go out or do something. When I rang Claire I got an invite to her house, nothing overly unusual there I thought, but when I got there she was resigned to sun bathing in the garden. Laid out on a towel in a small bikini.
I dutifully applied sun lotion on her back, she even undid the bikini top to avoid strap marks, she did remain lying face down so it wasn't as if I was getting a full on display but I have to wonder whether that was the first opportunity missed. Maybe not to lose my virginity but I think some direct tit fondling may definitely have been on the cards. Nothing more ever came of this and an opportunity to repeat it and find out never came up again, I guess the lesson here is if you don't ask you don't get. Trouble was I didn't learn that lesson and repeated the same mistake numerous times over the coming years.
My next encounter was another party, this one was at the local rugby club, again a reasonable amount of alcohol was involved and having got chatting with Felicity, a girl in the year but one I didn't really know, I suggested we go outside for some air as there were just too many people in the club watching and making stupid comments if you even tried to have a kiss.
We found a dark spot out of the way and quickly set about some heavy kissing, Flicky showing no objections to me slipping my hand up inside her top and mauling her small breasts, she did however block all attempts with any other touching and so I returned to her tits (over the bra but under the shirt) until she decided she had had enough and went back to the party.
I never repeated that with Felicity, she denied even having kissed me when someone mentioned it later she blushed and ran off quite quickly anyway.
Denise was the first of my American encounters. I had been on an exchange earlier in the year to New York and had made a lot of friends without actually doing anything, there was a snog with a girl called Randy but that was part of a truth or dare game on a coach driving down to Washington DC so I'm not going to really count that.
The circumstances of getting together with Denise was once again through another game of truth or dare. We were on a day trip by train, think we were going to York, and Denise took a dare. The dare was to French kiss one of the Brits and two minutes later, because we moved away from the rest of the group we were snogging in-between the buffet car and where the rest of passengers were. The highlight was probably the offer from ticket collector if we wanted to use his office for some privacy.
We didn't, and that was that. We did snog a couple more times, but Denise turned out to be surprisingly accomplished at protecting her breasts from my searching hands, she returned a week or so later and her breasts left without having had any English cajoling.
Christmas time came and went, I spent quite a bit of time working in a restaurant as a waiter, the rest of the time I was out with my friends, such a simple life when you look back on it. I had an invite to a new year's eve party and having organised a meal just before Christmas with a bunch from college I had got friendly with Sarah but we hadn't done anything. I invited her and although I ended up driving we went along, me taking my cheap champagne Christmas present from work to add to the party fizz.
Midnight came and I found myself staring straight into Sarah's eyes, ideal if the happy new year kiss is a thing to be believed in. We got a gentle tap at some point as we were still kissing about five minutes later, but the excitement and feeling that something was there fizzed between us.
The party broke up and I drove Sarah home, having parked neither of us were keen on getting out and it didn't take long to resume our kiss that was cut short earlier. The kiss was long and deep and soooo nice. Sarah was clever and very beautiful. Tall and slender and I remember she always had a lovely smell about her. Sarah was quite passive though and allowed me to dictate our kissing, taking part but just not instigating anything. My hands got to roam freely over Sarah's body, but they mainly went from her waist to her hair and back again, then to her thighs and back again before I plucked up to courage to move to her breasts. Sarah carried on kissing so I took that as a green light to play with her boobs. I remember undoing her blouse buttons and making a right faff of trying to undo her bra. I think in the end I gave up opting instead to pull the cup down and allow my fingers to touch her naked breast.
I kissed her neck lightly and then down until I kissed all the way to her exposed nipple pulling her nipple with my lips and flicking my tongue around it in circles. When I pulled my face away I saw that I had left a red mark on her boob just above the nipple, it had been completely unintentional. We kissed for a long time in the car, the windows were completely steamed up.
Paranoia was the thing that stopped anything else happening that night, again I think if I had tried something else, maybe to put my hand inside Sarah's jeans I might have been allowed but it was nearly 3am now and we were both thinking that her Dad might come looking to see what the steamed up car parked outside her house was doing. Plus it was bloody cold in the car. Unfortunately that was about the last time I went out with Sarah, which was a real shame.
About six months drifted past until another group of Americans came over on the exchange, there was one girl on this trip that I had met the year before when I went to America and we had been writing to each other for over a year. As the college didn't have enough host families for Americans we had offered to get involved so I found myself at Birmingham airport along with the other families waiting for them to arrive. My exchange student was a guy called Eric, I had spoken with him a couple of times but today would be the first time I met him.
The group was being bussed up from London having flown into Heathrow. As the bus arrived we recognized a few faces at the windows and everyone was eagerly watching on to greet their guests. First off of the bus was Jolie, the girl I had been writing to. She had already spotted me and almost ran over to me giving me the biggest public kiss I had ever been on the end of. I think half of the parents and teachers that had come to meet the Americans wondered what the hell was going on as she wrapped her arms around me and did the long lost lovers routine in the middle of the pavement.
After that I had a touch of explaining to do and also greet Eric but it was looking like it would be a good month.
We kissed a lot over the next week or two, trying to spend as much time together on the trips as we could. As you might expect with a teenage exchange programme there were a lot of parties and we fully expected to take advantage of one of them to spend some quality alone time together. The first unsupervised party came along within a couple of days, but freedom and irresponsibility on this occasion added up to drinking too much too fast and Jolie spent most of the evening throwing up.
It took a couple of days for her to recover from what I think was her first hangover but she bounced back.
As happens with exchanges although there were about a dozen hosts and guests, within that magical 24 people there were clicks and little sub-groups. My guest Eric was best friends with Debbie, Andrea and Rob (I think?) so the tendency was to hang around with their hosts. Unfortunately Jolie's host had a different circle of friends so it took some organisation to get both groups together and socialising.
Our next opportunity and as it turned out our last was an outing to the cinema, I managed to get the seat next to Jolie and promptly missed most of the film by snogging throughout, but here was my master plan.