The day started out like most of our Sundays. We slept in one another's arms until 11am. The night before, Pooky had just changed her dark red hair to a beautiful platinum as she was ready for something new. We were to meet Andrea at 2:30pm at a wine bar in Tempe to catch up on gossip so we had a little time to get ready and do some errands.
We arrived at the wine bar to a loud football game showing on all the televisions but we were seated at a comfortable booth. We ordered some food, a bottle of wine for the girls, and a water for me. Pooky and Andrea talked about their physical fitness businesses for hours and hours. One bottle of wine disappeared, then the second one disappeared and a third arrived. Pooky went to the bathroom and Andrea and I conversed in a little small talk which led into a conversation about the ramifications regarding families and bisexuality for a little while.
As Pooky arrived back at the table Andrea told a positive story about how she revealed to her teenage daughter that she was bisexual. Pooky lit up and also told Andrea her stories and feelings about women as she is also bisexual. Pooky talked about how she prefers women sexually but has so far only fallen in love with a man... "So Bella's pretty fem despite her very nice male equipment and so I fell completely in love with her!" Andrea talked about how she likes girls who have "High Testosterone" and is the opposite of Pooky, she gets turned on by women, and falls in love with them, but needs a cock... and she hasn't been seeing anyone who has a nice, real, hard cock available to facilitate her getting off.
Suddenly this conversation became much more interesting. We had been there three hours and now the girls were talking hypothetical... Because it was soon revealed that Andrea has had a crush on Pooky since they first met at a Pilates class 4 years ago. Pooky was saying how she likes girls and doesn't fall in love with them so if they got together, Pooky wouldn't inherently get jealous of Andrea because she doesn't fall for guys emotionally, she just likes their equipment, and Andrea was saying that she would fall in love with Pooky and doesn't want to take anything away from her relationship with me... so if she and Pooky were to "get together" then Bella and Pooky would have to be a package deal. Pooky mentioned that I sometimes identify as polyamorous (or at least capable of non-monogamy) and Andrea said she's the same way.
I started thinking to myself. The unicorn is presenting herself to us... wow. No unicorn hunting required to form a triad!! Let's see where this might go!
We asked... "Are we actually talking about this now... or is this all hypothetical?" Pooky looked at me and said, "Do you have a problem with this?" "Would you want this?" I think at this point my adrenaline was coursing through my body. I was excited. Andrea is fucking hot. Andrea is 10 years younger than us. Andrea oozes sex like a kitten. What secure, loving bisexual couple in a healthy relationship wouldn't want two women their bed?
Things officially started going on the negotiation table. Andrea stated that she wants a sexual relationship with Pooky, but there is no point in it if she can't get off after Pooky turns her on and gets her all warmed up. She said that she has only known herself to get off on penetration with a cock. Pooky surprisingly said that I had to be on the table as well because we do everything together and having a relationship with someone else while I was not present would not work for her psychologically - besides, she's turned on by the love of her partner. Andrea apologized to me and said that she needs to be completely honest with me, she's not in it for intimacy and she's really not attracted to my fem body type as she likes very... well MANLY men (let's face it, I'm openly pretty petite and soft and girlie) and that she values me as a person, but in the bedroom, I'd be a sex object because even though I look like a girl, I have a cock, the cock she needs to get off. Period. She also admitted that she likely wouldn't be nice about it because she enjoys getting nasty in bed.
I was so taken aback by this that I was clenching every muscle in my body. I almost completely forgot to put anything on the table... you know... like... oh, Pooky should be mostly sober before you seduce her in our bed... or like... I have needs too... like I don't mind being a fuck object to you, however I need to KNOW you a little bit better to get turned on by you... etc.
Look. Andrea is Pooky's BEST FRIEND. A woman's partner simply doesn't fuck their wife's best friend. I put up so many walls around Andrea that I had previously convinced myself that I was completely uninterested in her as a sexual being. Oh, yes, I fantasized about her and Pooky together many times. I could see it in both of them... they both wanted each other for years... I have photos of them curled up intimately together at Andrea's home... but intercourse and kissing never happened. So I mentioned as casually as possible that we should be careful about these choices as I understand that friendships and business relationships can get damaged by introducing sex into the relationship, and since we'd been out at least 4 hours and the loud football game was messing with the seriousness of the conversation, we all thought it a good idea to go back to our place and talk about it in the peace of our home. When Andrea arrived she brought a 4th bottle of wine for Pooky and herself, and she bought me a small, super delicious Red Velvet Cream Cheesecake with a mountain of whipped cream on it.
Pooky very excited to get started. In fact, she appeared anxious for Andrea to make her decision to accept that the deal on the table was complete and assumed all the protections for the existing relationship. Andrea was diligently careful and rightfully so. She wanted to ensure that she would get what she needed out of the relationship if she were to proceed. She also wanted to ensure that there would be no regrets and that it would not screw up the friendship or the business relationship or even the relationship between me and Pooky. She also wanted there to be no presumption that if we got together as friends that was simply a masked attempt to get us into bed.
After a while we talked openly about sexual safety, disease and prevention. She wanted to ensure that we knew that she was not on birth control of any kind and that if I were to fuck her, I would have to pull out and cum on her body or face... she said that she absolutely loves cum... She warned that she's very fertile. I revealed I've had a vasectomy and have been tested as sterile. Andrea was very excited by this as she detests condoms and loves cum, especially when a guy ejaculates inside of her. We decided that because we have so much at risk, we'd write up an agreement:
The conditions for our triad mandates that we are friends with benefits with the intention to form deeper relationships. The new relationships are subsequent to the other existing relationships - personal and professional. The relationships may be defined in multiple ways. At first the expectation is that the relationships are simply non-monogamous however it is our intention that we form a (generally) closed "polyamorous" triad as Andrea expects to form deeper feelings for Pooky. While requited feelings are not expected, they are allowed as long as all partners to this agreement are open about their feelings. Bella and Pooky are a package deal. Andrea is not to meet with Bella alone for sex without Pooky's express permission, and as such requests for Andrea and Bella to meet alone for sex are considered a violation of agreement.
Meetings for lunch or to talk are not to be interpreted as "code" for the presumption of sexual contact (such as an expectation of a threesome in bed). Instead, disassociation (mental code switching) should be put in place to differentiate between professional contact, friendship contact, or a date for sex and intimate relationship building. While all friends may meet one another and contact one another as individuals, sex dates ideally will contain all three parties. While prior knowledge and consent are preferred, Bella agrees that should private sexual contact between Pooky and Andrea occur without him or his prior knowledge, it will not be considered a breach of agreement as long as due open communication occurs within a reasonable period of time. Until this agreement is amended -private sexual contact between Bella and Andrea occur without Pooky's prior knowledge or consent shall be considered a breach of agreement.