"There's Kate, right over there."
I spun around to look, perhaps a little too enthusiastically.
I had a thing for Kate. 40-something years ago. Back in the Midwest. Fly-over country. In college, after months of stewing, I'd finally asked her out. Toward the end of the date, we were back at her place. Her parents were out of town. She made some popcorn, and we'd sat close on the sofa in front of the TV. And that was it. I was a late bloomer, didn't know what I was doing, and I didn't do a damn thing.
Before my next opportunity, she went out with another guy. I was devastated. I figured if she was interested in me, she wouldn't have dated someone else. But I guess she figured that I wasn't interested in her since I never asked her out again. What an idiot I was. Life went on, and we went our separate ways. I left town, and we both married other people. But I never completely stopped thinking about her.
Several months ago, I was back in my hometown and got together with some old friends, at a new, trendy watering hole. My friend Rochelle and I were chatting when she said, "There's Kate, right over there," pointing over my shoulder. I spun around, as I said earlier, perhaps a little too enthusiastically, because I really didn't want people to know I was still into her after all these years. Looking back, I now wonder if Kate being there wasn't sort of planned.
Kate was sitting with a female friend, but I couldn't not go speak to her. So I walked over to the table and asked, "How are those tater tots? Can I bring you another drink?" She said, "No thanks," and then her jaw dropped. She jumped up to give me a hug, introduced me to her colleague from work, and said she'd be over to our group to visit in a little bit, which she did.
After catching up, she got into a conversation with Rochelle, and I was talking to a buddy on my other side, but soon became aware of Kate's hand on my back, slowly rubbing it up and down, the way a woman implies ownership. Eventually, Kate and I relocked into conversation. She told me that she'd be out in my city in a few months for a wedding, and we agreed that she and her husband, and my wife and I, should all get together. She gave me a peck on the cheek and bounded out the door.
The next day, I had coffee with yet another friend, Cindy, who is a very good friend of Kate's. "So, you bumped into Kate last night."
"How did you know that?"
"She called me on her drive home."
So, again, I wonder if something wasn't planned.
Which brings us up to the present. Kate's in my city for that wedding. Except that her husband had to cancel at the last minute, several fires to put out at work. Ironically, my wife was also out of town. "So, I guess it's just us," I tell her.
"I guess it is," she replies. We set plans for me to meet up at her hotel, as it has a wonderful restaurant.
Over dinner, I tell her she's still beautiful, even after all the years. The same sparkling eyes, button nose, dimples that had me smitten so many years ago. She blushes. I continued, "You know, I never really stopped thinking about you. I didn't know what I was doing back then, and I kick myself in the pants for not moving things forward."
"I really wish you had."
"I always think of you as the one that got away."
"I think that about you too, and I often fantasize about you."
That was the encouragement I needed. I reach across the table to stroke the back of her hand, saying, "You know, it's not too late."
She jerks her hand back. "We can't! We're both married!"
"Kate, I love my wife, and I don't ever intend to stop loving her. And I really hope you feel the same for your husband. But I also believe that we can have feelings for others, to varying degrees. And how we act on those feelings is a matter of individual choice." She looks both shocked and intrigued. "We have friends, some closer than others. None of those friendships impinge on others. And we find various people sexually attractive."
"Yes, but we don't act on those attractions."
"Don't we? You said, yourself, that you fantasize about me. Don't you ever live out a fantasy?"
"And we're 60 years old!"
"I'm sorry, I'm only 59."
"That's right, I'm a year older than you."
"You cougar, you. And at our age, we haven't got a lot of time left to pursue long-lost fantasies."
Hesitantly, she slides her hand back to mine and caresses it. Time to back off. Change the subject. Let her dwell on it. So I now pull my hand back. We continue to catch up on kids and pets, jobs and vacations, houses and broken furnaces, pretty much everything but spouses.
Between dinner and finishing off the wine, she excuses herself to freshen up. When she comes back, she slides in on my side of the booth and scrunches up against my left shoulder. She takes a big sip of her wine, and says, "About that fantasy, that's all it is, right? Just a fantasy?" But she's not looking at me. She's staring off into space.
"What do you mean?"
"No commitments. No promises going forward."
I turn to her, take her hand in my right hand, and bring it to my lips. She doesn't resist. "It's as much or as little as we want. An individual choice. A consensus. We both must agree on where it goes. And if one doesn't, the other honors that decision." I'm still nuzzling her hand with my lips.
After some silence, Kate says finally looks into my eyes, "How convenient I should have a room right upstairs." I smile and pinch her chin between my thumb and index finger, and slowly lean in, stopping with our lips inches apart. She quickly closes the gap and seals the deal.
We walk to the elevator in silence. The doors open, we step inside, and once the doors close, she's sliding her hands up my chest to my shoulders. I instinctively place my hands on her waist and pull her in, and we are kissing passionately, barely noticing that the elevator doors have opened. Down the hallway, arm in arm, we pause at her room. She procures her card key and hands it to me. I open the door and motion her in. I close the door behind me but remain leaning against the door. She seems fragile, so I don't want to rush this. She slowly walks further into the room and pauses to stare at the bed. Then she turns to me and smiles.
I walk over to her, cup her face in my hands, and we kiss again. Her hands reach inside my open jacket to explore my chest. Mine slide to the back of her neck and tug gently on her hair. Then she pushes back and turns away from me. Has she changed her mind? But after a moment, she turns and points to the zipper on the back of her dress and asks, "Can you help me?"