I was nervous as I drove to the meeting place, just outside the gates of the local Navy base. We had set this meeting up a week or so before after spending about two weeks chatting on the social site. I remember when we first started chatting. He had responded to a lame little picture I had posted with the caption, "Happy, happy, joy, joy, who wants to be my boy toy?" His response was wholly unique and witty, appealing to my love of intelligence and a good sense of humor. The two weeks we texted only confirmed my initial impression. This man was both fun and intelligent. We seemed to have so much in common. I was intrigued to know him further. But not for sex! I gave myself this stern warning several times before our designated meeting time.
I knew his complications. He hadn't tried to hide them from me, even in our first conversations. He was married and had been for quite some time. He shared with me his recent affairs, his unhappiness in a marriage where it seemed more like a convenient friendship of roommates. I knew his religious convictions and his two boys kept him tied to where he was. Wife and children were 2000 miles away at the moment since he was here for military training. He was preparing for deployment and I probably would never see him again. So why was I meeting with him today? What was the motivating factor? It wasn't for sex, I assured myself one more time.
I'd seen his pictures. All of them clothed. He never once sent me the customary "dick pic" I'd cringe at receiving from just about every guy I'd talk to on the social site. He struck me as handsome and I loved the green eyes he had that held the little sparkle of naughty. I knew I'd teased him a bit. I had allowed him to read my most recent erotic stories. I was proud of them, sure, but I guess I'd let him read them with the hopes of, I don't know, tantalizing and teasing him. I'd never dreamed we'd actually meet. But here we were. About to meet up...but not for sex, of course.
As I pulled up, I spotted him right away. He was wearing khaki shorts and a t-shirt with a Hawaiian print button up over it. He gave me this shy, but somewhat confident smile as I stopped the car in front of him. It was as if it said, "Here I am! Totally vulnerable, and totally at ease with it." I smiled back with what I hoped wasn't a smile of pure nervousness. I am questioning my sanity about now. This man was adorable. Totally what I was attracted to in body and spirit. Oy, this was some kind of huge mistake, I realized as he got in the car and I pulled into to traffic.
During dinner we had a few drinks and talked of our lives. Our conversation was just as natural as it had been over the last few weeks of texting, if not more so. We seemed to laugh easily and there weren't any of those long awkward lulls in conversation that we all dread when meeting a new person. By the end of dinner I knew I didn't want the evening to end at that moment, and I was pretty sure it wasn't going to end with the platonic handshake that it should end in.
I suggested we take the short drive to the beach to watch the sun set. "What harm could there be in that?" I asked myself. What harm indeed.
As we stood there taking in the beauty of one of God's prettiest pictures, a Southern California sunset, the awkwardness we had managed to avoid during dinner set in. It lasted just a moment. I kept thinking, "Is he going to try to kiss me? Does he even want to? How would I respond? Why doesn't he kiss me?" Finally, unable to take the awkwardness a moment longer, I gave in. I reached my arms up around his neck, pulled him down to me and kissed him. Awkwardness was gone in a flash. Immediately his tongue sought out mine and I knew he wanted me the way I was beginning to want him. I placed my palms on his chest, feeling the pound of his heart and the strength of his muscles under my touch. For a woman not planning on having sex tonight, I was pretty damn well turned on and fast.
As the sun was setting we kissed and giggled and kissed some more. We knew what we were doing was illicit, but it felt so damn right. It felt so natural. Here was a man I finally connected with in more than just a sexual way. It had been so long since anyone had made me laugh the way he had. It had been ages since anyone had held an intellectual conversation with me the way he had. And the chemistry? Yeah, as much as I had been trying to deny it all evening, it was there, too. I knew not only was I going to have sex with this man tonight, but I instinctively knew it was going to be amazing. The morality of it didn't enter my mind. I knew I'd have to deal with that sooner or later, but for tonight, I'd just feel.