Impulsively I posted the following listing on a popular website:
I am a professional married woman looking for a friend. I would like to get to know this person through email, chat, phone conversations and maybe meet someday. I have an active imagination and I'd like to share that part of me with someone. I want someone who is in a similar situation as I am, married but wanting to discreetly share fantasies.
My new friend would be in his 40's or 50's, good sense of humor, intelligent, honest and patient. How you look doesn't matter a whole lot if you can have a conversation and be genuine in what you want. I am looking for a potential long term friendship.
As for me, I am in my thirties and fit. I am not a beauty queen but I am attractive by most realistic standards. I run, a regular gym rat and take good care of myself. I am educated and when I'm not at the gym or running I am taking care of my house, family. I have a demanding career and I'm looking for an outlet to express another side of me that I can't seem to do in my current situation or perhaps don't want to do.
I'm not miserable and not in a miserable marriage. I'm a happy person but want to see what it's like to explore another person, his fantasies and my own as well.
That is how I met my friend from Maine.
Our first meeting after speaking on line was at a restaurant in a small town convenient to us both. Meeting him that day was almost as impulsive an act on my part as writing the listing. Some work commitments had been cancelled freeing up part of my day, he was on line so we agreed to meet.
I had not dated much in my life. I met my husband first year in college and I had worked through high school which did not leave much free time to socialize during my teen years. Perhaps the only way I could have met my friend this first time to do so impulsively or else the reasoning of why it all seemed wrong, the nervousness of facing someone new where potential for more had been discussed might have overwhelmed me and not allowed me to follow through. He seemed genuine, honest and the fantasies we had discussed were taking root deep in my imagination. I wanted to meet him.
Neither of us had seen other people since our marriages. I am in my 30's and he is in his 40's so for both of us, seeing someone new like this after meeting like we had filled us both with nervous anticipation. We had talked about our lives but in those discussions before we met we had also spoken about our fantasies, curiosities and desires to explore in ways that still scared us both. So, meeting a man for the first time knowing that he is the only person on the planet that knows the extent of my fantasy life was enough to make my knees weak, my hands sweaty and set me running in the opposite direction.
There is a full length mirror in my office building. Before leaving for this lunch I stopped and discretely checked myself out. I hadn't really looked at myself from the prospective of a 40 something man. I am 5'7" and fairly fit. My short skirt and dark hosiery showed my muscular legs that I earned from running 30 miles a week. The fitted black sweater over my 36D breasts also gave me some confidence that my friend might imagine what they might feel like to touch. My dark hair is somewhat long, but very curly. Yes, I was as confident enough not to run and decided my description in my listing was as accurate as I could be. Most men in their 40's might consider having at least lunch with me.