Katie had barely finished getting herself dressed after her afternoon shower when she heard her Blackberry ringing downstairs. She made it to her office and pulled the phone out of her purse after about the 4th ring. The caller ID informed her it was Mark calling. Katie looked quickly outside to see if her husband Ken was back from the hardware store before answering. She didn't see his car in the drive, so she clicked the button to answer.
"And why would you be calling me on a Saturday? Are you actually doing some work for once?"
The voice on the other end of the phone laughed "Hey Katie. Hell no. I try not to work much during the week. Why would I be doing anything constructive on the weekend?"
"Yeah, I guess I should have thought that through, huh? So what's up, then?"
"Guess what? Your favorite co-worker is coming along with you on the Vegas trip."
"Who? You?" She asked.
"Who else would it be?"
"Anybody but you, that's for sure," she joked.
"Oh, you little liar! Anyway, Bob just emailed me and let me know. I guess he figures he needs two eyes and ears down there."
"Out there."
"What?"
"You said 'down there'. It's not 'down'; Las Vegas is west from here. Check a map sometime. Oh, and it's FOUR eyes and ears, we each have two."
"Nowwwwww I remember why I hate you. You're my work-wife."
"Now it's you who's lying! You love me, you know it. Anyway, that's awesome Mark! We get to hit Vegas, Baby!"
"Yeah! Just think, they could have sent Tom or Fred with you. How much fun would that have been?"
"Um...like, none at all."
Mark laughed. "Ok, I just wanted to let you know. What are you up to today?"
"I've just been outside working in the flower beds. It got too hot, though, so I came inside and cleaned up. I had just gotten out of the shower when you called."
"Really? So are you naked right now, or maybe wrapped in a little towel?"
"Neither, you pervert, I'm fully dressed!" Katie had long ago developed the skills necessary to handle Mark's suggestive comments. She found it amusing. Most of the men she worked with knew better than to mess with her. Mark didn't care if he irritated her or not. He knew she'd forgive him in a few hours anyway.
"Damn, I should have called sooner! Anyway, just wanted to give you the heads up. See you on Monday!"
Yes, Mark frustrated her sometimes, but he also made her laugh like no one else. Katie heard Ken's car pull up in the driveway and she put her phone back into her purse. She paused for minute, hearing Ken coming in from the garage. She retrieved the phone again and hit the speed-dial for her friend Nikki. Nikki had worked her way up to #3 on her speed-dial list. Mark was #2.
"Hey Nik how are you? Hey...do you have time to meet for dinner tonight? Great!"
*****
Katie met Nikki at the Westland Cafe. It was where they always met for food, drink (when necessary) and heart-to-heart talks. The booths were tall and felt very private. They had already exchanged pleasantries and ordered their food before getting down to the day's real topics.
"So," Nikki began, "are things with you and Ken still weird?"
Katie sighed, absently stirring the lemon wedge in her water with her bendy-straw. "Yeah, still weird. Something happened the other day too."
"What?"
"Well, he saw me coming out of the shower one morning and...I just felt...uncomfortable. I covered myself with a towel until he left. I mean, what's that about? How have things gotten so weird that I can't be naked in front of my husband anymore? Even today I kind of waited around to shower until I knew he'd left."
"Jesus Christ, Kate! When was the last time you two had sex?"
Katie paused for a moment. Nikki was the only girlfriend she felt comfortable enough with to talk about sex. Even so, she still felt odd talking about sex so it always took her a minute to loosen up. "I guess about...six months, maybe?"
"Six months! Are you kidding me?"
"Maybe seven?"
"Maybe seven?! Katie-bug, that is wayyyy out of control. I knew you two were having problems, but that long without sex isn't a marriage anymore, it's a prison sentence!"
Katie sighed. "I know it's weird, I do, but it's not THAT bad. I don't need it as much as you do, so a month for me is like...two days without sex for you."
"Damn right. If Eric goes a week without performing his duties, he knows I'll find someone who'll do it for him!"
"Nikki, you don't mean that. Anyway, I don't know. It's like...he puts me on a pedestal or something, like I'm some untouchable princess. Even before we stopped altogether I had to initiate sex with him. I know he wants to, but he won't approach me. Then after the sex stopped, we kind of just stopped talking. We have a kind of routine we go through. We have dinner and talk about work, but we don't really do much of anything together or have fun at all."
"I know what you mean about the pedestal thing. I've dated guys like that. I mean, I like Ken and all, but to be honest I couldn't live like that. Unless he let you see someone on the side....?"
Katie gave her the "no way I'm talking about that" look.
"I'm just saying," Nikki went on, "Ken has a great job and you live in that mansion..."
"It's NOT a mansion."
"...that HUGE house. He takes care of you. Seriously, if he would be willing to let you get some on the side, you'd have the perfect life."
"Oh Nikki." Katie loved her friend dearly, but Nikki definitely had very different ideas about life. "I don't want to 'get some on the side.' I want my husband to want me, and make me feel wanted. Maybe I have unrealistic expectations. When I was younger I pictured my husband coming home late, from like, saving lives or fighting fires or something like that, crawling into bed with me and..." Katie lowered her voice, not because she really thought someone might hear, but because she rarely talked about sex in a tone above a whisper. "...and...needing me, right then and there. Needing me, and I know it sounds stupid, but needing me to perform my 'wifely duties' for him. I wanted to wake up in the middle of the night with my man pulling my clothes off because he couldn't wait another minute to have me."
"Wow, that is HOT. I'm going to tell Eric to do that to me. He's going to be the dirty firefighter and I'm going...."
"Nikki!" Katie often had to stop her friend from steering the conversation towards her intricate and highly detailed sexual fantasies.
"Oh, right. Sorry!" Nikki said with a smile.
"Anyway, I don't know how I ended up where I am. My husband spends all day on the computer and then most of the night as well. I love him. At least I think I do. I love the guy he used to be. He's sweet and cute and he does take care of me but, I don't know, we can't seem to talk anymore."
"Well, did he ever get over the whole Mark-thing?"
"Oh God...don't remind me." Katie said, taking her head in her hands and massaging her temples. "That's really when everything started."
Katie and Ken had been at a party at the house of one of her company's head honchos. Now THAT had been a mansion. An open bar mixed with a celebratory atmosphere had led to a lot of inebriated people, Katie included. At one point, Katie had gotten lost while returning from the bathroom and had found herself in a guest bedroom somewhere. She'd turned to leave and Mark had been in the doorway, just as drunk, if not more than she. Mark had always been a bit on the flirty side and alcohol always exacerbated his testosterone problems. Before she knew what was happening, he'd had his arms around her and was kissing her. She was too shocked at first even to know what to do. Of course, that was when Ken, wondering where she had gotten off to, had walked into the room.
What had followed was weeks of explaining and apologizing. Ken was never one to get angry or express his feelings directly. Instead, he'd chosen silence, angry silence. Katie had done everything she could think of, but honestly it angered her that Ken didn't trust her enough to believe she was innocent of any wrongdoing. Katie had eventually come up with a story that Mark had been transferred to another department and she didn't even see him anymore. That, at least, had gotten them back to a point where they could talk again. But that episode, coupled with their other problems, seemed to be the first big step down the road to where Katie found herself now.