I met Kafta while I was at an ocean resort in Kenya. A bit more info - I'm Mark, I've been a purchasing manager for a large import/export company in Canada for over 20 years and for the last 6 months my boss had been trying to get me to manage one of the smaller offices we had, except it was in Nairobi, Kenya. It mainly looked after exports of local commodities like furniture, carvings, art, souvenirs and other wood products but it also did exports of food products like spices and other African foods. He was my boss but also a good friend and having worked together for years, we would often meet socially and he knew the biggest reason I was still with him was because of the friendship. I really didn't need the work and could have retired if I wanted to. Apparently, there were both financial and logistics issues and he wanted me to run it at least until I could get things straightened out and then possibly do the same for a couple of other offices elsewhere or stay and run that one. I'd been saying no, he kept trying to make the transfer more worthwhile and eventually I said yes. By that time, there was a significant raise, everything for my work visa would be looked after, all travel expenses covered plus the company would pay for my apartment while I was there. I'd worked out a few things on my own and had already applied for 2 weeks of vacation that amazingly started about a month after I would be getting there.
The biggest reason I'd said yes was that I just needed to get away, I'd had a few major personal losses in the last 18 months and figured if I didn't say yes, my other option was to quit, take the time I needed and then either come back or find a new job.
It took a few days to settle and when I first went in to the office, I realized there were lots of little things that needed changing and a few big ones but nothing too bad. Over the next few weeks, I straightened out a number of the little ones plus the one biggest one - I fired the current office manager. I'd done a bit of research so I knew that a bit of 'kickback' was pretty much normal, whether it was to speed up a shipment, get out of a ticket or to close a deal but this guy was actually 'charging' staff to work for him and I strongly suspected he was also where a lot of 'undetermined' expenses were going.
He wasn't happy about getting fired but oh well, the rest of the staff were quite happy to know that they basically just got a 5% raise by not having to pay him. They were even happier when I told them that if anyone had an idea that increased revenue by lowering expenses, better quality products, increasing sales, etc then they'd get a percentage of what their idea had gained.
By the end of the first month, sick days were down, revenue was already climbing and while there'd been some expenses, they were all short term - timers/motion detectors for lights, additional solar panels, better ventilation and everyone seemed to be enjoying coming to work.
I'd been doing some other research and had booked a resort on the coast for my two weeks off the next month. My boss wasn't happy when I told him I'd be off for two weeks but when I told him that he'd signed things before I left and his other option was to fire me, he grumbled a bit but agreed.
Anyway, as soon as I got there, I knew it was going to be a relaxing two weeks. It wasn't fancy but it was a nice resort, quite a few good-looking ladies and a dive shop right next door. I'd only been there a couple of hours when Ben, the 'Activities Director' talked me into joining for a bit of archery so after grabbing a drink, I wandered over. It had been a few years since I'd used a bow but I used to belong to a indoor club so I figured it would be fun to see how I did now. It would have been more fun except there was another guy there who was putting down some of some of the poorer shots and trying to impress the ladies. He was good but not that good so I held back just enough that he could tell I'd shot before but let him think he was better. Bit by bit the others drifted away because they weren't enjoying it until there was only 5 of us left.
Eventually he said, "Ok, we've all had enough practice - how about a bit of competition?"
I could see Ben was pissed at him but before he could say anything I said, "Sure why not?"
With a big grin he said, "Great - maybe a bit of a bet too?"
I winked at the Ben and said "How about the loser buys a round for everyone and a six pack for the winner?"
Being pretty sure of himself, he quickly agreed and while the others stayed to watch, it was obvious it was just the two of us competing. He suggested 25 points for a bullseye and then 10, 5 and 1 for the next rings out, 3 shots at a time, 5 rounds. I made sure I stayed close to his score but let him lead for the first 3 rounds. On the fourth round I shot 45 points which put me slightly ahead. That must have flustered him because he only got 20 on his next round and just to rub it in, I shot 75 on my last. With a bunch of grumbling about wind, bad equipment and anything else he could think of, at least he took us all to the bar and paid up but didn't hang around. One of the ladies who'd stayed to watch introduced herself as Kafta and thanked me for beating him. I'd noticed her when we were all shooting but sitting right there, I realized she was a very good-looking lady, likely about 5 years younger than my 50 with an awesome smile. I told her I didn't usually hustle people but I didn't like him upsetting people who were just trying to have some fun and figured if I could get him to buy drinks it would be worth it.
We were just finishing our drink when Ben came up behind us and said, "Why not come down to the beach - we're going to have a few games there?" Then quietly he added, "and it looks like the archery guy has gone away to sulk."
Both of us laughed at that and headed to the beach. When Ben had rounded up everyone he could, he said everyone needed a partner and the idea was to hold a balloon between the two of you, go as fast as you could about 30' down the beach without dropping it, then come back, go down again and finally come back but each time you had to hold it differently. It seemed almost everyone were already couples so I was quite happy when I asked Kafta and she agreed. We didn't win and we dropped the balloon a few times but we had a great time and were both hot and sweating when we were done.
"How'd you like another drink to cool off? I've got that six pack with my name on it thanks to the archery."
With a quick "Love to!" we headed back to the bar, grabbed two drinks and found a spot on one of the padded benches in the shade. As we relaxed, we talked and when she asked what I was doing in Kenya, I asked if she wanted the short or the long version.
With a bit of a puzzled look she said, "Maybe start with the short version and go from there?"
"Sure!" and I told her that I'd transferred to the Nairobi branch of the company I worked for to resolve the way it was being run and had decided to take a vacation at the coast while I could.
"Anything planned while you're here or just planning on hustling drinks at the archery area?"
Kafta was smiling so I was pretty sure she was just teasing me a bit.
"Not much, although I've already booked a few dives over the next week."
"You're a diver? I haven't dove since...." and she kind of trailed off with a sad look on her face.
Having just met her, I didn't want to pry so I just said, "If you want to talk, I'm a good listener and if not, I'll happily respect your privacy."
I could tell she was thinking before she finally said, "Well, the last time I dove was a few months before my husband died."
Just hearing her say it brought tears to my eyes. I put my hand gently over hers and said, "I'm sorry, I understand."
All of a sudden she looked up with a bit of anger in her eyes and said, "Do you? Everyone says they understand but most have no clue what it feels like."
"Well, you asked for the short story first but maybe if I give you the long story it'll make more sense. About 18 months ago, my sister was diagnosed with ALS and was gone within 6 months. Two days after the funeral my wife Ruth didn't feel well and was vomiting blood. I took her into hospital and by the end of the week, they'd diagnosed her with stage 4 stomach cancer and she was gone 5 weeks later. I'd just finished watching my sister slowly die of something they couldn't fix and now even thought it was faster, I'd just had to watch my wife die of something else that couldn't be fixed. A big part of the reason I came here was just to get away from everyone I'd known who always said they'd be there but never called after the funeral and like you said, I heard 'I understand' way too many times."
As I talked, I could feel the tears flowing down my face and when I stopped talking, Kafta put her other hand on top of mine and with tears rolling down her cheeks she softly said, "I'm sorry, I guess you do understand. Asher and I had been together almost 20 years until two years ago when a transport lost control and crossed into his lane. Our son was killed right away and he died about a week later in hospital. I lost my accounting job because I couldn't function properly and have had about 6 jobs since. The only family, I have is my sister, her husband left her a few years ago and when Asher died, we ended up a lot closer together. I finally decided to take some of what I'd saved and just go away for a couple of weeks to try and figure out what I wanted to do. Do you have any kids?"
"Yes, I've got a 24-year-old son from my first marriage but he's single, no kids, has his own apartment and works midnights so other than Facebook chats I don't see much of him since I came here."
Nothing else was said for a few minutes, both of us feeling better that we actually understood what the other was going through and were here for pretty much the same reasons. Eventually I broke the silence and said, "Feel free to say no but would you like to go diving with me tomorrow?"
"I...well.... I would but it's likely too late to get everything ready."
"Maybe not, let me check." I made a quick call to the dive company; told them I had a friend who would like to join the dive tomorrow and they said no problem as long as she was certified. I had to be there earlier to get fitted for a BCD and do the paperwork so it would be just as easy to fit two of us.