May 24, 2013
Strictly Platonic M4W
Married Professional Looking for a Friend -- 38 -- Denver
Married professional looking for a friend. Looking for some adult conversation. Not looking for sex. Just someone to talk to. I'm 38, 5'9", stocky build. If you're interested, please reply. I look forward to hearing from you.
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I hit submit. After I did, I wondered what would become of it. I still couldn't believe that I was at the point in my life, I was posting ads on Craigslist looking for someone to talk to. Just a few years before, I thought I was happy in life. I was married, had a young son, a good career. Then things started to change. My job took a turn for the worse. My wife retreated into a frigid shell that despite my best efforts, I couldn't break her out of. We rarely had a meaningful conversation, beyond what was for dinner. Intimacy was non-existent. I thought of leaving her multiple times, but I couldn't bring myself to it. I couldn't stand the thought of breaking up my son's life and I had too much to lose financially. Thin excuses I know, but that's what I thought.
I'd posted the ad on a Friday. It was Memorial Day weekend and I stayed busy with family things. I recieved a few replies during the day on Saturday, but they were the usual spam or one liners for the most part. Saturday night, I got an email that caught my eye.
'Hi. Some adult conversation would be nice. I'm 33, married also. I have three kids and I think my husband is the probably the biggest kid of them all. I'd love to have someone to talk to as well.
A'
It was well after midnight when I received the message, she must be a night owl as well, I thought. I quickly replied before bed. When I woke up the next morning, she'd replied and told me a bit more about herself. Her name was Andrea. She was a nurse and worked nights. I sent her an email back and she replied within a few minutes. We exchanged a few more emails that morning before she said she needed to go to bed, since she was working again that night.
We emailed as often as we could over the next few days. We finally exchanged pictures. She was very beautiful and had a great smile. There are some people in life that you can talk constantly with and never run out of things to say. I found that Andrea was one of those people for me. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting one another. I loved hearing from her every day.
The weekend after we met, a terrible series of thunderstorms and tornadoes came through our area and I didn't have power at my house for most of the following week. I kept having to charge my phone in my truck, so that I could stay in touch with her.
Given she worked nights, we had different schedules. I found myself texting her mostly during the mornings and at night, when she was working. We talked every single day. I noticed immediately that she was very resilient. She would often get off work from a 12-hour shift and then spend the next five or six hours, grocery shopping or running errands for her family. She'd then go to bed and try to get four or five hours of sleep before she had to be at work again. I asked her if her husband helped with any of this. She flatly responded no. I got out of her that he had some shitass little job that paid nothing and he had no drive to do anything more. Seeing the way, she worked for her family, made me start to dislike him a lot.
She confided in me that they didn't have a great relationship either. Her husband had come along in a rough spot in her life and gave her a little bit of the help she needed. As she had commented, he was fun when they were younger, but he'd never grown up.
She talked with me about their love life. He was very into the domination scene and she said that when they first met she had tried to satisfy him. He would often have her engaging in extreme bondage that often involved her being in pain. She eventually learned that he had no interest in her unless she was bound and gagged or hurting in some way. Finally, she had tired of this and told him no more. He'd scarcely touched her in four months prior to our meeting.
This didn't help the dislike I continued to develop for her husband. I wasn't naive. I knew I was only getting her side of things, but he would have to have some pretty impressive character traits to balance out what she was telling me. It made my own situation appear to be minor. At least my wife worked and tried to help me. She was just extremely inconsiderate and emotionally unavailable.
The following weekend I was up late watching TV. Andrea and I were texting, when she suggested we talk on the phone since she was at work. She was a supervisor and had her own office, so I quickly agreed. I found myself very eager to hear her voice. I had been thinking the last few days that things were moving forward a little quicker than either of us had anticipated.
I dialed her number and waited as it rang.
"Hello," she answered.
"Hi," I replied. "This is nice hearing you."
"Yeah, it is. Okay, just one thing, if anybody needs anything just hang on, I'll be right back, okay?"
"Okay, I understand. Duty first," I answered. She worked in labor and delivery in a high-risk hospital. She had already shared some pretty heart wrenching stories with me.
Just like with our texting, we had a great conversation on the phone. She did go out of her way to be honest with me and cover some other things that she hadn't previously mentioned. She had been married before and she'd also had a child by a man that she wasn't married to.
"I just thought you should know," she finished.
"Hey, that just tells me you're even stronger than I thought, Andrea," I replied.
"Well, thank you. I just wanted to tell you," she said. "It's like 3 in the morning, don't you need to go to bed?"
"I probably should. I'm enjoying talking to you though," I answered.
"Yeah me too. I should go check on my girls though," she replied.
"Yeah. I understand. I'll message you in the morning?"
"Yes, you should," she laughed.
"Goodnight."
"Yes, good night."
Andrea: Amazing! That is the only thing I could think when I got off the phone. Never would I have thought that Craigslist would bring me someone so kind and special. I had been ever so lonely prior to reading that ad looking for friendship and it brought me to him. He made me feel so comfortable. I felt like I could talk to him forever. Almost like we had known each other forever. He was so easy to talk to. I was definitely looking forward to seeing where this was headed, but I was positive that I had made a new friend and that made me so happy.
The next week, I was pretty busy with work, but I kept thinking a lot about Andrea. I was wondering where this was headed. I felt a real connection with her like I hadn't felt ever. I was thinking I wanted to meet her, if she wanted to. I was afraid of being too forward, because from the beginning we both had said we just needed a friend. I felt that I, at least was headed towards her being more than a friend.
She texted that Saturday night when she was out having a drink with friends.
'You should come meet me,' she typed.
'Oh, yeah?'
'Yeah,' she said. 'You could give me a ride home and keep me safe since I had a few drinks!'
My wife was already in bed, even though it was 8:30. I was thinking of an excuse to leave as I really wanted to go see her. I was always the good husband and never went out by myself, so I knew that it would be suspicious if I just got up and left. I was extremely tempted though.
'Maybe not tonight. Soon though??' I texted her.
'Oh ok :( yes soon. :)' She answered.
A couple days later we were texting and I suggested that maybe we meet up. I waited hesitantly for her reply. She was at work so it took a bit she replied.
'Sure, when,' she asked.
I suggested the next day.
'Why do you want to meet?' She typed back.
'I'm sorry, but I really want to kiss you. Is that okay?' I replied.
'Yes, it's fine, but how about day after tomorrow? I'm off work then.'
'Ok with me.' I replied.