I'd been separated from my wife for eight months, and dating for six. Somehow, I'd fallen into a pattern of dating artists, writers, and inappropriately young tech professionals, so none of the relationships lasted long. As a twice-divorced forty-something father of two, the 'fit' wasn't quite there.
I'd kept most of our friends in the divorce, and they made it a point to entertain me. At dinner with some long-time friends -- couples whose marriages I'd been to over the years -- I'd grouse about my dating life from time to time.
They were disapproving, sometimes amused, and the occasional husband was jealous.
Then one of the husbands said "You know, I've got someone you should meet...Really," he said. "She works with my accountant."
"An accountant?" I asked quizzically. His wife chimed in -- "Yeah, you guys ought to meet. I've met Kerry, she's great."
"OK."
Emails were exchanged, and we set a date for coffee. I tend always to do initial meetings for cyberdates or blind dates at coffee when I have something scheduled after and there's a required stop. Easy to pick it up later, and no awkward forced endings when there's no interest on either side.
She'd described herself as "a petite Asian woman" and she wasn't kidding. Maybe 5' 2" and a hundred pounds of Japanese no-nonsense attitude walked into the coffee shop, wrapped in a coat over a business suit. She looked around saw me, and, unsmiling, walked over.
Her face was plain, made more so by her determined expression and tight expression. Mentally, I thanked my luck for having a dinner party to go to in 45 minutes. I'd be polite, enjoy her company, and maybe make a friend.
We chatted about the kind of inconsequential things people do when they've been introduced. How we each knew our mutual friend. Then she got more forward.
"Do you have a girlfriend?"
"Um, no..." I was taken aback. "I've dated a few women since my wife and I separated, but no girlfriend."
"Have you fucked any of them?"
"uh..." I was speechless. I gathered my wits, and laughed.
"Well, a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell ... so I'm thinking fucking and telling is pretty much not done. If I told you I was, it would sound like bragging, and if I told you I wasn't, I'd be embarrassed at being a wimp."
That got a genuine laugh back, and suddenly the ice cracked and we were just two people chatting. I bought her a hot chocolate, and we sat and talked.
She'd never been married, most recently had a boyfriend for a few years, but they'd broken up a year ago. He was a Korean immigrant, she was Japanese-American, and even though she couldn't believe there'd be a cultural gap...there was.
I'd never experienced anything like that, so I asked her a lot about it and she told me.
Suddenly out time was up, and I had to leave. We walked out from the coffee shop to the lot where my bike was parked.
I stopped before I pulled my gear off my bike and reached to give her a hug...I'm a hugger. I'd felt zero sexual energy between us, but thought I'd made a friend.
She leaned into the hug and suddenly pulled herself into me tightly. Her face tilted up and I kissed her -- gently, with closed mouth -- a friend's kiss. She opened her lips and her tongue slipped between my teeth as she pressed her hips to mine...or to my thighs, since her legs were about six inches shorter than mine.
As we kissed, she reached down to my crotch and rubbed my cock, which grew hard down my leg as her hand rubbed up and down it. I was too shocked to say anything, but I'm sure my eyes opened wide.
Then squatted in front of me and softly bit my cock through my jeans.
She stood up and asked, "What are you doing tomorrow night?"
In a slightly shocked voice, I replied, "Wednesday? I don't...Depends what you're doing!"
She gave me her address and home phone -- a condo about thirty miles from my house.
"Be there at 7, and we'll have dinner."
"Just tell me I'm not on the menu..."
She laughed, showing her genuine face again -- plain but intelligent and vibrant.