My beloved and I have had a fairly open attitude towards sex in our relationship together. We have understood that we have sexual desires that fall outside of our relationship. So we have made allowances for extracurricular sexual activities.
When seeking sexual encounters with men it is fairly easy. There are many places one can set up profiles and arrange for sexual trysts and men are certainly more open to having sex and nothing but sex (even that can prove difficult).
Finding women who are interested in that type of thing is much more difficult. That, in my honest opinion, is why you will find so many straight men who occasionally engage in sexual activity with other men.
Women want to meet and talk first. It becomes an investment of time that usually does not yield any results as far as sex goes. This is obviously frustrating. Being open to man-to-man sex is sometimes a good solution. But if I am not in the mood for cock...Well.....that's where escorts come in.
Everything changes when there is money involved. This is something I think applies to everything in life. Sex is no different. It does not mean you cannot find a good sexual experience it just means you have to act accordingly.
When perusing escort ads you have to use common sense. For me vulgar ads are an automatic turn-off. It is important to speak to the lady on the phone and use your common sense. Within thirty seconds of speaking to someone I will usually have enough information to know with whom I am dealing. A lot of these women are very nice but, like with anything, one must look carefully.
If you want to have a good experience you should follow the same rules that you would follow in a non-paying experience. Be kind, polite, well-groomed and clean. Let me put it another way: Treat this like a real date. The only difference is you are guaranteed to get laid. Everything else will be the same. If you're an asshole she'll treat you like an asshole. If you are a gentleman she will probably give you a much better service. Why should it be any different? The lady you're paying is still a human being, not a machine. I have had many experiences with escorts and this approach has served me very well as a lot of these experiences have been very good ones. There is more to sex than just cocks, pussies, asses and tits. That's what makes sex so hot in the first place.
I called an ad that simply said "Afterwork Secretary". The woman who answered was very pleasant and seemed quite sane. She said her name was Cassandra. I asked for her physical description. She mentioned she had 40DD breasts. When I heard that I suddenly became very interested in something that I had fantasized about but had not really done at that point in my life. I said (as politely as I could), "If you will pardon my language, but is tit-fucking permitted?"