The next session, he noticed me and introduced himself. His name was David. I let him invite me to the Freshman mixer that night, and we went steady almost immediately. Now understand what I mean when I say 'go steady.' We always dated, and I let him kiss me on occasion, but that's all. Oh, once in awhile he'd try to get fresh with me, but I carefully let him know what wasn't appropriate. A few times he thought about dating other girls, but he always came right back to me. We both lived in the same city, and I soon had him to dinner with my mom and dad. They approved of him, even if he wasn't Catholic. I didn't worry, we had plenty of time to work on that problem.
Through our Junior year , I could see that he was getting a little frustrated. This was the period when war protests were going on, and some of the less mature students were talking about 'free love.' Well, some of them were doing more than talking about it. This attitude was bound to affect David, even though I ignored it. The summer before our Senior year we saw a lot of each other. When we were alone in the car, he tried to pet me a lot; most of the time I stopped him, but after awhile, I figured it wouldn't hurt if I let him touch my breasts.
We both had Tuesday, August 17, 1971 off of our summer jobs, so we decided to go for a swim at a lake north of our city. We had a great time, I wore my cute little white two piece swimsuit, and David couldn't keep his hands to himself when we were in the water. That night David decided to drive his Chevrolet back a different way. We came upon Smith's Ford, and I had him drive across the bridge so that I could see it again. No one was camping there that week, and he turned the car so that we were facing the stream in the moonlight. We started kissing, and then he proposed to me. Now David didn't have a ring because money was so tight, and he had a problem verbalizing it, but I knew that's what he meant. I accepted right away, of course. Now, I knew sex before marriage wasn't right, but things were getting so hot that I decided to let him have me. We got into the back seat, and I allowed him to take my panties off and put his thing in me. It hurt quite a bit, but I'd heard that it did the first time or two. After we were done, he told me how it was so much better than he had ever anticipated. I got a blood stain on my skirt, but David was so in love with me that I didn't care. When I got home, my mother saw the red mark on my clothes and asked what happened. I told her that I just started my period a little early, that's all. Neither David or I wanted to make our engagement public yet, so I kept it to myself. David and I went back to the camp a couple of more times, and sat on a blanket. I let him take me those times too, but David had prophylactics. I knew that birth control was wrong, but I figured it was better than begetting a child.
I decided that if David wanted to touch me while we were kissing after we got back to school, I would let him, but I wouldn't let him put it in me anymore. We had to keep some mystery for after the wedding, didn't we? But he missed me so much after we got over there, that I let him rent a motel room for the night, and I let him do whatever he wanted. I'm sure you can imagine the love we made that night.
My period should have happened in early September, just before school started. I spotted a little bit, but not much. I worried all through September, and in early October when I still didn't have my period, I knew what was wrong. I was heartsick for the next two weeks, and I wondered what I was going to do. I had to have the baby, of course. Even though I knew that some girls had an abortion, I couldn't kill a baby. Finally, I told David about our problem in his dorm room. He recognized we had to get married right away.
The next weekend, we drove down to the city to tell our parents. My mom and dad were quite understanding, and we all made plans on how to get us married. In the long run, we decided that it would be best if we had a quick civil service; there wasn't enough time to get David converted so that we could have a Catholic marriage. I remember going to see Father Thomas about my problem. By this time he was an old man, but he understood. He told me that I and my parents were making the best decision, and he told me that the most important thing in my life from now on was to make my husband and my baby happy. When I took confession, he assured himself that I would never have carnal relations with a man I wasn't married to, and gave me absolution.
I remember the tears in my fathers eyes as he gave us enough money to go to West Virginia. My parents were also nice enough to pay for an apartment off-campus so that David and I could live together right away.
We couldn't have much of a honeymoon, due to our class load, but we did go to a hotel near the campus and reserved the bridal suite.
Although we were careful of the baby, I let David make love to me anytime he wanted to, which was a lot. Neither David or I cared that we couldn't go to our graduation because of the size of my stomach. Our daughter, Jennifer, was born on June 10, 1972.
David was a good student, and got a good job doing engineering on a farm soon. I tried to get him to find a job closer to our home, but he really wanted this job in a city about 150 miles away. We were very happy, and a few months later we were with child again. Mary was born on July 17, 1973.
I kept a good house for David and the children. David didn't want me to work, he felt that a married woman with children should stay at home and take care of the family. I let him have his way, and realized that with my education degree, I could ensure that Jennifer, Mary and all the other children we would have would be better off. David, Jr. was born on March 28, 1975. I expected to have many more children, but I was never able to conceive again.
David took care of us very well, and in 1981 he had an idea that he could invent something and make a lot of money. He told me it was a large risk, and I knew how worried he was. I was concerned, but I let him do what he wanted to do; you have to let men have their heads sometimes. At first, it seemed to be very successful, but then something happened and his business failed. I took care of him when he was so depressed that he was almost sick. He didn't know how he was going to make enough money to feed and shelter us. My mother told us she'd be happy to let us live with her; with my dad gone, she had this big old house and no one to live in it. David took us home, and I'm so glad he did because it gave the children a good chance to get to know their grandmother before she passed away eight months later.
David got another job, and after two years had passed he decided that he had enough experience to try his invention idea again. I remember how he kept explaining it to me, even though I didn't understand. He told me that it would be different this time, and I encouraged him, even though I was so worried about it this time. I even let him take out a mortgage on my parents home.
On the second attempt, my wonderful husband did it right. He told me that his partner, who knew all about business, was a large part of the success but I knew it was David's invention. Without it, the company wouldn't have anything to sell! I knew that David was just taking care of us, and I tried to tell the children why they didn't see their father a lot. I'm not sure they quite understood, but after awhile they got used to it.
It takes a lot of work to be a successful mother and wife. All of the people in the family want something different, and if you let them squabble over it, you'll have nothing but constant arguments and hurt feelings. It was my job to keep not only a neat house, but a happy home. I became expert at telling my husband and children only things that they needed to know, and changing things around so that they saw problems in a completely different light. Occasionally, one of them would catch me in a little white lie, but they knew I was just trying to keep problems to a minimum. Eventually, I got caught less and less. The children always came to me when they needed to give their father bad news, and I was always able to make him see the silver lining.
A few short years later, David told me we were rich. He showed me the bank books and stock certificates, and he told me we would soon be worth over a million dollars. I didn't quite believe him. He bought us both new cars, and made arrangements for the children to go to only the best colleges. He decided that we would buy a new house; I wasn't happy about it, as the home we were living in was the one I had grown up in. But the neighborhood was going down hill, and I could see it was best for David, so I made the children happy with his decision. I made sure that we bought a residence in the same school district; our children were still in school, and I wouldn't let him rip them from their friends.