Dr. Miller's Human Sexuality Class - Part 2
Tuesday's topic: Cunnilingus
In this story, I have changed the setting and the names to protect both the innocent and the lascivious. It takes place during the mid-1980s. Those were very different times. Fashion and language were different. Technology was quite different. We didn't have the internet, or personal computers. We typed our papers on a typewriter. Pubic hair was all the rage. The only sexual fear for straight people was getting pregnant and the pill took care of that. I have tried to be as historically accurate as my aging brain can remember. All characters are at least 18 years of age. All constructive feedback is welcome.
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Story Recap
Dan was a senior majoring in mechanical engineering. He needed two general education requirements to complete his degree. He was able to enroll in a literature class and Dr. Martin's SOC 369 Human Sexuality course for the spring semester.
On the first day of class, they learned about male and female orgasms. Dr. Martin allowed students to submit a standard analysis and reading notes or to provide an alternative assignment. The first alternative assignment was to masturbate either alone or with an observer and report on your experience.
Hannah, a coed sitting next to Dan, asked him to be her partner. While they were trying to get comfortable with one another, they ended up having sex. Then, attempting to complete the masturbation assignment, they instead pleasured one another with oral sex. Eventually, Dan and Hannah completed the assignment and submitted a report to Dr. Martin, for which they both received an 'A'.
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As we moved into the second week of classes, I decided I wanted to spend as much time with Hannah as possible. Not only was she my partner for doing the alternative assignments for Human Sexuality, but she was fun to be with.
On Monday morning as we sat down to our breakfast, I decided I wanted to make our relationship something more.
"I got a question for you, Hannah."
"The answer is no."
"I haven't asked it yet."
"But I know what you're going to ask and the answer is no."
Does she really know what I was going to ask?
She touched my hand, "Dan, please don't be hurt. You were going to ask if we could start dating. Right?"
"Yeah. How did you know that?"
"Because you've been kind of hinting about it all weekend. So, before you get all sad on me, let me explain. First, we're already having some amazing sex. I want you to be my sex partner all semester. Do you agree?"
"Yeah."
"Okay, so here's the thing. We need to probably cut back on the amount of time we spend with each other, otherwise we're going to grow tired of one another. We'll set up a schedule. We do our sex assignment together. We write our paper. Then we don't see one another until the next time."
I wasn't liking this idea and my face probably showed.
Hannah touched my hand again, "We'll keep a strictly academic relationship until the end of the semester. Then we can start dating. What do you think?"
"I'm graduating. What if I get a job far away?"
"We'll cross that bridge when we get there."
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Hannah's request to limit our time together made logical sense, but emotionally it was killing me.
On Tuesday, I took my seat next to Hannah in class. I hadn't seen her since breakfast on Monday.
I asked, "How ya doin'?"
"Good. You?"
"I'm okay."
Hannah smiled, "I think it is really wonderful that you want to spend time with me Dan, but what if we get on each other's nerves?"
I nodded, "Hannah, I understand why and I accept that. I just enjoy being with you. Yes, the sex is great, but I enjoy being with you as a person."
She nodded, "I like being with you too. Maybe we can work out a compromise." Dr. Martin was in front of the class. "Let's talk afterwards."
Dr. Martin pulled down a screen, "If you haven't submitted your assignment or alternate assignment for last week, now is the time to do it."
Two people took their paper up to her.
She continued, "So now that we have learned about how to give ourselves an orgasm, we're going to learn about giving someone else an orgasm. You don't have to respond to this, but I'm curious, how many people do we have that are either gay or lesbian?"
Four women and three men raised their hands.
Dr. Martin nodded, "Thank you. It has been my experience that gay and lesbian people come in with a significant amount of experience in this next area. Specifically, oral sex."
I saw some nodding heads.
She continued, "I hope the seven of you don't mind being my subject matter experts." She looked around, "Let's begin with cunnilingus. This is a Latin term. Where are my Latin majors?"
Dr. Martin looked around, smiling, "That was a joke. We don't have Latin majors. In fact, we only have a single course in Latin in this entire university." She put up a slide, "It comes from two Latin words: cunnus and lingere. Cunnus is typically translated as 'vulva', but quite literally it means gash or slit. It is where the word 'cunt' comes from. Lingere means 'to lick'. A direct translation would be 'one who licks a cunt'. In English, it has shifted meaning away from a person - cunt licker - to the action - cunt licking. Any questions?"
She looked around, "Good. While we're discussing Latin, who knows the word for oral sex with a penis? Debbie?"
"Fellatio."
"Yes." She put up another slide, "This means 'to suck'. In Latin it means to suck anything: breasts, a straw. In our modern English, it is limited to sucking on a penis. The intransitive verb is fellate.
"Returning to cunnilingus. As with anything in life, the more one practices something the better one gets at it. If you recall in our last class, we talked about how long it takes for men and women to reach an orgasm if they are pleasuring themselves. Does anyone remember those times? Hannah?"
She looked at her notebook, "Three minutes for men and four minutes for women."
"And from that we concluded? Dave?"
"That guys needed to spend more time getting the woman ready."
"Thank you. I would suggest that cunnilingus might be the perfect way to prepare your partner. Carlos, are we ready?"
Our film projectionist in the back of the room said, "Yes."
"Sam, the lights please."
Carlos began rolling the film. Some pleasant music began playing. The screen was filled with a happy couple, holding hands, walking along a sidewalk. "How to Perform Cunnilingus" filled the screen.
The film shifted to a naked couple lying on a bed. The man began kissing the woman on the neck. A British female narrator said, "As with anything in life, the techniques that will be demonstrated in this film can only be mastered with practice. Therefore, if you wish to become a skilled practitioner of the art of cunnilingus, one needs to practice as much as possible. Before we address stimulating the vulva, we should point out other erogenous zones. A woman's thighs, stomach, breasts, neck, face, and ears are all sensitive to touch. The inside of her arms and legs are especially sensitive. Before beginning to stimulate her vulva, care should be taken to stimulate other erogenous zones." Throughout this section, the man kissed and licked his way across the various parts of her body.
The narrator continued, "One should not think of this as a race. While this may seem counterintuitive to men, often the slower a woman's lover goes, the better the results. By going slow, a man will allow his lover to relax and increase her sensitivity."
The screen shifted to a man moving back and forth, sucking on a woman's nipples, "In addition to going slow, one should consider not spending a great deal of time on any one erogenous zone. By moving and teasing, a woman's sensitivity and arousal will increase. Also consider that at times, simply a lover's breath, breathing on her skin, will arouse a desire."
The screen shifted to a still photograph of a woman's vulva, "Before we continue, we need to clarify specific anatomical terms." Arrows and words began appearing, "This is the mons veneris or mons pubis, the clitoris, the labia majora, the labia minora, the urethra, the vagina, the perineum, and the anus."
"It should be noted that every woman is different. Clitorides come in many sizes, some are hooded, while others are not. Similarly, no two sets of labia are alike."
"When you are ready to begin stimulating a woman, it is best if her legs are spread." The screen shifted to a woman spreading her legs, "Throughout the stimulation, a gentle touch is best. While a man receiving fellatio may want forceful touching, this is rarely the case with a woman."
The screen shifted to a man licking the woman's vulva, "In most cases, it's best not to begin with the clitoris. Instead, focus on the labia majora and then the labia minora. The vaginal opening is another sensitive area that can be kissed and licked. If proper hygiene is maintained, a woman's perineum and anus can also be a source of pleasure."