First of all, I'm what you would probably call an intelligent man. Several degrees behind my name and I.... well, lets just say I hold an important position at some certain research laboratories doing "scientific" stuff. Yeah, I'm proud of it, too.
I hate telling stories that make me seem foolish. In this case, my therapist suggested it's a way to confront some old issues. We'll see.
All of this happened ten years ago, when I was in my formative years - my thirties. I had been divorced three years - yeah, that was a mistake, don't remind me. I'm STILL paying that bitch off!
The easiest way to meet women in eastern Georgia at that time was through The Want Advertiser, It's a weekly collection of ads, with some personals thrown in. Lots of nice women responded to those ads. I actually married one of them. Of course, look how that turned out.
But she's not the one this story's about.
Donna's letter to me was wonderful. Beautifully handwritten, nice stationary, literate. "Just divorced," she wrote, and "wanting to learn a bit about a single's life now," were among the saliencies. Her background was technical, too - not too common among women. The telephone exchange suggested she wasn't living too far from me, either.
I dialed her number.
Donna was fun to talk to. She did seem kind of shy, and uncertain about dating.
After a half hour of rapport building, I vocalized a conclusion. "Donna, I would like to meet you, for dinner or a drink or something, but you seem as reticent as the neutrinos I study. I can accept it if you'd rather not meet me. Telephones do make a great screening tool, don't they?"
That got her attention. "It's not you," she assured me.' "I haven't dated since I was in college - I don't know anything about dating protocols anymore."
"It's easy," I assured her. "I ask you for a date, and you get to say, 'yes', or 'no, thank you', or 'maybe', subject to whatever conditions that'll make you feel comfortable."
That got a laugh, and a negotiation. "Would you mind if we met in some very public place?"
"Absolutely not! - Where?" I was pretty sure my usual suggestion of a drink at a hotel lounge wouldn't work this time.
She had an idea that must have been part of her screening procedure.
"Would the coffee shop at the Museum be too corny?"
Hell, I can play at that. "Sure, but only if you agree to walk through the Impressionists exhibit with me afterwards. That way, even if we don't like each other, the trip'll be worthwhile."
We met that Saturday afternoon. Coffee in the crowded shop took two hours, and then we walked through the Museum. Donna was bright, charming, beautiful, but seemed somewhat distracted. It was an uncomfortable start for me.
Donna seemed to be working through whatever was bothering her. We ended the afternoon by taking a cab to the GT faculty club for a drink. She initially declined - "It's not very public" - but her curiosity overcame her reluctance.
I'll confess. I was trying to impress her. I also hinted that sailing out of Hilton Head was a future possibility
We cabbed back to the Telfair and our cars. I walked her to hers, and stood by as she unlocked it. Just before she got in, she turned to me, stood on tip-toe, and kissed me! "Dave, it was lots of fun spending this afternoon with you. I hope you call again!"
I stammered something about "I will," but by then she slipped into the driver's seat, almost as though she was embarrassed for having been so forward. I automatically closed the door, she cranked up her Beamer, and with a wave good-bye, pulled away.
I was left standing in the street watching her leave, totally distracted by this woman, and jumped when a car behind me honked - someone else was pulling out, too. I was so distracted I never even heard that car start up!
"Donna's a mystery," I decided, but worth another date. She was intelligent, fun, and excited by some of the same things I was.
I called her the next evening. Naturally.
"Dave, I'm so glad you called. I was afraid I wouldn't hear from you again," was the greeting I got. What a nice welcome to my call. I loved it!
We agreed on a real date. "A Vida sounds wonderful," she agreed. "Do you want to meet me there, or . . .?"
Of course I opted to pick her up at home!
The directions she offered were exact, to the point of her saying "Dave, when you come, don't park in front. Pull into the drive way, then walk around to the front door, all right? They don't allow on street parking here."
Her driveway bent around a bit, so my car was hidden by a solid fence. I walked along the path that went between the fence and the house on the way to the front door. Nice house, one level, big. If she got the house as part of the divorce, it means they've been doing well. I can't help it, I do think about such things. After all, at the end of the day, I wanted to be involved in a long term relationship again.
I walked around what was probably a bedroom wing (I wondered if I'll see that from the inside anytime soon - I hoped so) to the main door, also well screened with foliage.
The bell pealed Westminster, and a moment later Donna opened the door. She was so beautiful I found it hard to breathe!
I was greeted with a quick kiss - but it was a kiss! "Can we go now?" she asked, "before I lose my nerve? You're the first date I've had in this era of my life."
I reminded her of our first meeting: "But I don't count it as a date unless I get picked up at home," she countered.
I didn't care how this lovely image was keeping score. She had opened the door ready to go. She already had on a small jacket over a green dress with a high neckline, medium heels. She held up her purse "Mad money - in case I have to come home alone." I was being put on notice, and I didn't understand why!
A Vida dinners are uniformly excellent. We were both nervous, though. Cocktails and a bottle of wine were excessive. Good, yes, helpful, yes, but excessive. The restaurant was crowded, and Donna somehow seemed to spend time looking over my shoulder towards the door. That was the only dissidence. "Are you expecting to see someone?" I finally asked, only to have her nervously laugh, and deny she was looking anywhere special. For the rest of the dinner she mostly kept her gaze focused on me. Where, I thought, it belonged.
The two hours at table flew by. "A liqueur?" I offered, wanting to extend the evening.
"That sounds nice," she said, "but not here. Take me home, we'll have it there."
That was an invitation I was NOT about to refuse.
I drove back carefully - DWI was not on my agenda, not ever, and not on that night especially.
We got to Laurel Oaks safely, and into her driveway. We walked along the path inside her solid fence, around the side of the house. It was dark. "I'll guide you," she said, holding my hand. We passed the wing protected by the fence and a window behind high shrubs, with the shade partly up. "Bedroom" she confirmed without prompting.
She got the door open, and us inside without an exterior light going on. My own house has motion detector lamps all around it - it can't be approached without lamps going on.
I told her about that - "Oh, we have them too, they're just off tonight."
When I remember all of the clues, and my inability to form them into a consistent set, I get - well, that's why I'm writing this.
We went into her great room, and she waved toward the sofa.
"Sit down, Dave. I'll get us a liqueur. Will Grand Marnier work for you? I like it on the rocks, or we have. . ."
I interrupted - "That sounds wonderful."
She went toward what I thought might be the kitchen, while I looked around the nicely done room. Shades were drawn - nice art on the walls, a piano with music open. That was not a prop, I decided. The books that were visible were ones I've read, or wanted to. It was a very comfortable room.
It took a little longer than I'd have thought for her to reappear.
She handed me a glass, and raised her own. "To a wonderful evening, and to the only man, other than my husband, to be here with me," she offered as the toast. I could, and did, drink to that.
"Do you know why people break glasses after a toast?" I asked her.