Many thanks to PlatnumDoodles for insightful editing and valuable additions.
I'm writing this story to entertain my readers, but also, to suggest a strategy for men who want to meet attractive, fit and eligible women. It's not for everyone, of course. A man must have the balls to pursue it. But, my experience was fairly successful and I got more sex with more partners than I ever imagined.
To qualify the events in this story, let me just say I'm an ordinary guy. I'm decent-looking, but no athlete or movie star. My body is basically trim, though I had been adding a few pounds over the years.
I was never very successful with women. It was very hard to ask girls out in high school and even worse in college. If I met a girl at a social event or in a class, I could carry on a conversation. But, turning that conversation into a date was always a challenge - I was deathly afraid of being turned down.
I got married at 22 when a determined woman convinced me she wanted me forever. Eighteen months later she informed me that I was an inadequate lover and she had been seeing a better man for a year. Emasculated is the right term for my condition at that time.
My lack of confidence with women stayed with me into my work life. I worked for a cyber security company, so there were plenty of people around my age in the building. It was an easy-going atmosphere in the office and groups would often go out for drinks together. I was fine in a group, contributing to the conversation. But I had a hard time carrying on a conversation with just one women at a time - and could never ask them out.
This was especially frustrating in regard to one women in my department - Gina. I had been working there for about 4 years when she was hired. She caught my eye the first time I met her. I was responsible for training her in some of the security software tools we used. I had a hard time staying on topic when seated next to her at a computer. She was quite attractive, about 5' 8", maybe 120 lbs. Nice, long, dark hair that seemed to glisten and move when she spoke. It framed a beautiful face with large dark eyes and a sincere smile. As far as I was concerned, her body was perfect. Slim and fit, her breasts seemed prominent but of average size, nice firm rounded ass and wonderful shapely legs. Obviously out of my league.
Her nicest feature was her personality - always outgoing and upbeat. It was pleasant just to be around her. She was feminine, but not afraid to assert herself if someone wasn't showing her proper respect. She had a sharp tongue and got along well with everyone and everyone liked her - especially me. I would make up work assignments that required me to show her how it was to be done. Sitting next to her, smelling her hair, was addictive. She always smiled at me and she told me I was cute a few times. That made me feel wonderful. But, I never had the guts to take it any further - other than in my happy dreams. My real world wasn't so happy.
At age 30, I started shopping around again for a fitness program to help me stay fit and healthy. Over the years, I had started several fitness programs at home and at a gym, but could never discipline myself to keep at it more than a few months. They always got very boring, very quickly.
A bunch of us from the office often went to the local bar after work on Mondays. One week, after a couple of rounds, I asked some of them for fitness program recommendations. The guys suggested the usual treadmill, elliptical and weight training - the boring things I had tried before. Gina looked up from her whiskey glass and suggested dance classes. Not ballroom dancing - dancing for exercise. I had often seen classes of women in leotards and leggings dancing in sync to fast tempo music in the studios at gyms. I loved to discreetly watch them jiggle. But I never saw any men in those classes.
Gina insisted that men were allowed in the classes - no sex discrimination there. Then she got up on her well-liquored soapbox and made her point. She could never understand why men didn't try it. "It's good, aerobic exercise that uses most muscles in the body. It won't build big muscles, but will absolutely keep you fit while improving rhythm and balance. It's also a lot of fun - dancing to popular music. Why don't men want that?" She started to demonstrate a dance while seated and almost fell off her barstool.
I gently pushed her back upright and answered her question. "Because no man is going to go into a room full of women and try to display his dance skills with all of them staring at him." I replied shyly.
She came back with the usual "Oh, the big bad man is afraid of a bunch of girls? You want to keep your shy, nerdy, insecure persona forever? You need to grow a pair Marty. You have to take social risks once in a while. That's the way to expand your social skills and also make yourself more attractive to women. You do understand that women are attracted to men who demonstrate confidence don't you? I know I am."
I took a long pull from my beer mug and thought about her statement. Yes, I knew that women - and men - are attracted to someone who appears confident in what they're doing. I considered myself a little confident, but choreographed public dancing was way outside my personal comfort zone.
But isn't that the measure of confidence? Going into an unknown and risky situation and not fearing the consequences? And what are the possible consequences of simply dancing in a room with 20 women? It can't possibly hurt me. I wouldn't break a leg or anything. I could do that.
I expanded my chest and was about to take another manly draft of beer when I realized there are some things worse than physical injuries - perhaps worse than death. One of those would be 20 women laughing at me after I missed a step and sprawled on the floor in front of them. It wouldn't hurt the body. But it might well destroy a man's ego. "I'll think about it," I evaded.
But Gina, leaning heavily against the bar and not wanting to let me off the hook, came right back. "I dare you Marty. I dare you to attend one dance fitness class at the gym. I'll go with you to make sure you don't chicken out. You're not chicken are you?"