When I first decided to get a vasectomy, it was with the hope that it would revitalize the otherwise mostly dead sex life my wife and I had. Our sex life had started dwindling less than a year after the birth of our son, without any apparent reason. It wasn't until our daughter was born, 8 years later, that I got a possible explanation for my wife's lack of desire. That was when she refused to go back to using the IUD she'd worn between kids, stating that it made sex uncomfortable, any kind of sex, even me eating her pussy. That was why she'd rarely been in the mood, and why we'd only had sex once every two or three weeks. However, I have my own birth control problem, in that the lubricant in condoms irritates me, and I have difficulties maintaining my arousal. So, in the last two years, we've only been having mutual oral sex, and because my wife's not really into sucking my cock, we're down to about once a month for anything.
Of course, none of these situations were or are acceptable, and my complaints about them have been the main topic of conversation whenever I go out with my best friend and his girlfriend. Since, in addition to the lack of sex, my wife makes all kinds of promises to get romance, knowing she'll break them as soon as I try to collect. And, my friends feel that the deliberate cruelty of that gives me every right to divorce my wife, or at the very least, cheat on her. The problem is that because of my kids, divorce is not an option for me. Cheating isn't really an option either, because of the high risk of it leading to that divorce. My risk is higher than normal, because to local women I'm a prime catch. I'm American, which makes me a possible ticket to the U.S., and I make real good money compared to local men. So, their main interest is in doing whatever it takes to get me to marry them, instead of my current wife. That means none of the girls my friends have tried to hook me up with, are interested in a safe sex relationship.
Naturally, none of them would openly admit they weren't interested in a relationship that didn't give them the opportunity to trap me with a pregnancy. Instead, they'd give other reasons that would only be obvious to a man who was scared of those traps. Like how sex with condoms, or limiting sex to only oral and anal sex, made them feel like they were prostitutes. They'd either swear they were on the pill, or they'd say they preferred the guy just pull out at the last second and cum on their stomach or face. The problem with the statements about being on the pill, is that there is no way for the guy to verify that, and when the girl gets pregnant, she can always say she only forgot to take it once, and that it must have happened that day. As for the pulling out method, the girl could wrap her legs around you "accidentally", making it impossible for you to pull out. In reality though, both of those, "forgetting her pill" or wrapping her legs around you in a fit of passion, would be deliberate acts, designed to get them pregnant with your baby, so you'd either marry them or support the kid for the rest of your life.
So, because all the girls they tried to set me up with said similar things, while claiming to be very interested in me, in order to protect myself, I would deliberately do or say things to sabotage our relationships before they ever got started. My friends were extremely frustrated with me for pushing these girls away, when they'd all just wanted someone to have fun with. And, they felt my suspicions were incorrect, unfair, and downright insulting. But, while I agreed with them that I had no concrete evidence to support my suspicions, I also made it clear that I couldn't take the risk, in case my paranoia turned out to be justified. That's why I finally made the decision that the only answer to my problems was to get myself fixed. On the one hand, being able to safely make love might restore some of my wife's sexual desire. On the other hand, if that didn't happen, removing the risk of a trap would stop me from pushing away any of the girls who showed interest in me.
The last thing I expected to happen was what did happen, that someone who hadn't been interested before would become interested once they learned that I'd gotten myself clipped. It was a girl named Merve that my friends had been trying to convince to meet me. The reason she hadn't wanted to meet me was that my friends had told her about my suspicions with the other girls, and she'd taken my side of the argument. That I had every right to be suspicious because those were the same tactics her friends used to trap their husbands. But, while she wasn't in the market for a husband, she didn't want to feel like a prostitute either and didn't want her lover to use a condom when he made love to her. Therefore, there was no reason to meet me, since I'd push her away with the same suspicions I had about the other girls. When she found out about my vasectomy though, that changed everything, because not only would I not need to wear a condom, she'd also be able to stop taking her pills. Because she loved feeling men cum inside her, and even she was scared of accidents.
When she finally agreed to meet me though, I still had a month to go before I'd be totally safe, and that was a big part of what we talked about that night. Because, while she was attracted to me, she had no idea what kind of lover I was. And, with my stated inability to perform when wearing a condom, she had no way of taking me for a test drive. So, she would keep going out with us, to see what kind of person I was out of bed. But, we wouldn't do anything else until the waiting period was over, because she didn't want to risk becoming emotionally involved until she was sure we were sexually compatible. When I started to say there were other things we could do to show what kind of lover I was, she stopped me. She said that she already had someone who took care of those things for her, and they took care of them very well. The only thing they couldn't give her was the the thing she wanted me for. And, since she didn't believe in being unfaithful to her lovers, she would only keep one of us. That's why we needed to wait until I could prove to her that I was the one worth keeping. Because as soon as she made her decision, she would immediately stop seeing the other person.
I wasn't too thrilled with her attitude, since she was making it obvious she was only really interested in the fact that I would be able to safely cum inside her, and that she wouldn't want me otherwise. I had been hoping that my vasectomy would just be a benefit to being with me, and not the only reason to be with me in the first place. Still, her only wanting me for that was better than only wanting me for my passport and my wallet, so I had made some progress. Besides, hers was the only offer I had at the moment, and that meant we had to play this game by her rules. That changed though, the next time we went out, because one of the girls that I'd pushed away before saw us all at the restaurant we were at. And, since she was a friend of my friend's girlfriend, she ended up joining our party. Actually, I don't think her showing up was a coincidence, because not only did Sinem know about my surgery, she also knew about Merve and what our status was., I think my friend's girlfriend might have felt the same way about Merve's attitude that I did, and had invited Sinem because of that.
Sinem had been the closest I'd come before to cheating on my wife, and had been the one who'd scared me the most. Because, she didn't just hate condoms, she also hated the pull out at the last second game that my friends played. She'd stated flatly that she wouldn't make love unless the man promised to cum deep inside her, because anything less meant the man didn't respect her. And, she also said that she only used the counting method for birth control, meaning how many days since her period. Then when it became obvious that I was doing things to make her lose interest in me, she tried to convince me she'd been joking and that she actually had an IUD. But, I kept pushing her away anyway, because I was too scared of traps to believe her claim that she'd just been playing games with me. And, after almost a month of my friends trying to get me to trust her, she finally just told me to go fuck myself and stopped showing up. So, maybe she'd still been interested, and since it wouldn't matter whether she had an IUD or not anymore, they thought she'd be better for me than Miss Attitude.