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I took another deep breath, and tried to find a pause. Hearing Ann take a quick breath herself, I rushed my words, hoping she'd hear me. "It's okay, babe. Please... stop crying."
She had been sobbing almost uncontrollably since she'd confessed, unable to hold in her emotions any longer once she'd told me her secret. It was a dΓ©jΓ vu moment from the phone call I'd had with her at the airport in DC very early that morning. I felt helpless... and the situation seemed hopeless. I prayed I could get her to stop crying long enough to hear me.
"Ann... please stop crying and talk to me." There was a pause in her crying, and I took a chance that she was actually listening. "You didn't do anything you should be ashamed of, Ann. I love you... and I'm telling you, it's okay."
She took another shallow breath, the inflection in her voice showing her level of despair. "N... no it's n... not! It... it wasn't supposed to be this w... way!" she wailed into the phone.
I was elated, if for no other reason than she actually heard me and responded. Jumping on the first opportunity I'd had in the last few minutes, I said, "Who says? We've both known from the start that our relationship was going to be different. Why in the world would this make any difference?"
"B... b... because! I... I should have been able to ig... ignore it. I sh... should have been able to control myself. How can you t... trust me after I did something so... reckless!"
"Reckless? That's bullshit. Look at all the things you just did for me this weekend. For God's sake... I was off fucking different women all weekend long because of
you
. Hell, there was one
that you didn't even know about
until after I'd done it. Compared to that, I think this is only fair, really."
"No it's not. This it totally different and you know it! I was supposed to be able to wait, Neil. There's no excuse for what I did. I was impatient. I was s... selfish," she stammered, starting to sob again.
"Ann. You're being irrational. It was ridiculous from the start to think that I'd expect you to wait this long. This is really all my fault."
"No it isn't! Stop trying to make it seem okay, Neil. I let you down. And after all you've been through, you deserved better than to have me go out and do this to you. You must feel...."
"Ann... stop it! Seriously. What's it been? Over six weeks. That's a long time for you to go without. And it had to be driving you nuts."
"B... but I should have told you I wanted to. I should have at least
asked
you if it was okay."
"Okay... I'll grant you that. Maybe you should have asked first. But the truth is, I wasn't thinking about your needs, or what you must have been going through. I never really thought about what it must be like for you to go this long without it. Is this why you started crying when you called me this morning?
"Yes," she said, sniffing a little, trying to get control of herself.
"Well, it all makes sense now. But why are you tormenting yourself like this?"
"Because, Neil. Doing something like this is bad... and to do it behind your back? God, I must be the worst fiancΓ©e ever. You must think I'm the most ungrateful woman in the world," she said.
"Why would you say that, Ann?"
"Because I just did it without thinking about how you'd feel. I was only thinking of me. And I swore to myself that I would never, ever do that in our relationship. But I had this little voice nagging at me, and I caved to the pressure. It was all an impulse. I didn't think about how you'd react... I was only trying to satisfy my own selfish needs. And once Dave pulled it out and showed it to me. God, Neil... it was so big... and so beautiful. I... I just had to have it. It was almost
like I needed
it. And that's just not like me, Neil. Not at all. I just
don't do
these kinds of things."
"I don't think this was as selfish as you're making it out to be, Ann. You
did
need it. Hell, you deserve it. And after all, it's not like I could do anything about it from where I am. Hell, it's going to be another six weeks before I'm going to see you. Asking you to go three entire months would have been like punishment. I want this to be a happy time... for both of us."
"There had to be another way, Neil. If I would have just talked to you about it, maybe you could have found a different way to take care of it. But by taking matters into my own hands... I never gave you the chance to tell me how you felt about it, or for you to make some arrangements for me to take care of it. I'm sure if I would have just told you, you would have found some amazing, incredible way to take care of me. I never gave you a chance to set that something up."
She started to whimper again, and I could tell she was on the edge of losing it all over again. "Don't start crying again. Please."
"I can't help it... I'm sorry. I'm so sorry about everything."
"There's nothing to be sorry about. I mean, you're right... maybe I could have set something up. But I never even thought about it... I'm the one who should be saying I'm sorry."
"Well that's silly. I did it."
"Right. You wanted it, and I didn't think about you needing it. That's kind of my point... we both played a part in this. And we can debate forever who feels worse. It doesn't matter. All that matters is that, in the end, you got what you wanted. Besides, you said Dave was really good, right? Didn't you say he took care of you?"
"Yeah... I suppose."
"You suppose? Ann... did he make you happy?"
"Yes," she said sheepishly.
"And were you satisfied with what he did for you?"
"Well, yeah... but I knew I'd be happy in the end. I mean, it's not like I don't know him, or like that was the first time I'd ever been there. I've been going to him for years, and he's always treated me like a princess. I think that's because he's older... he just has a way to a woman's heart when it comes to these things. And when he found out I was getting married and that you and I wouldn't have a chance to be together for months... well, he kind of insisted on being the one to help me out. I didn't have the heart to tell him no. Besides, like I said, I knew he'd take care of me, and he did... big time. In fact, it turned out better than I ever could have imagined. But really, Neil, I don't see what that has to do with what I did. It was still wrong."
"It has everything to do with it. This is something you're going to live with for the rest of your life. If you would have bothered to ask me, I would have told you to make sure when you did it, that you should make sure to go to someone that was going to give you exactly what you wanted. Like I said, you deserve it."