She was a study buddy from a class and while we got good work done together, I didn't really have any interest in her. She was a little too "girly" for me. What I mean is that she took a lot of interest in what kind of shoes she was wearing and whether her hair was done "just so." You know, girl stuff. As a study buddy, I didn't feel too obligated to show that much interest in that stuff, but I guess that I must've done something. I hadn't even asked her to go to the dance. She had asked me, how crazy was that? I hadn't even been planning on going, yet here I was decked out in a suit and waiting for her in her living room. The dance had started about ten minutes ago and while I am normally a very punctual person, she was not. I had been sitting in her living room for the better part of forty minutes now and while I could hear her walking around upstairs and would occasionally shout something up to her, I mostly just sat and looked at the wall art. I don't know why I was impatient. Maybe it was the hunger. I'd been planning on taking her out for a bite at a place not far from the dance and then heading over to show off my moves and hope I could look her in the eye again after that. As it was, I was still hungry, still sitting in a chair, and still looking at an afghan hanging on her wall. Then I heard foot steps.
The foot steps were coming down the stairs and from my seat all I had to do was turn my head in order to see who was coming down. It was her. But it wasn't her. Suddenly my hunger didn't matter and I was unable to move from the chair that I'd been dying to get out of for the last fifteen minutes. Sure, this woman coming down the stairs had the same facial features and was approximately the same height and weight, but it was a far cry from the girl I'd crammed for midterms with just a few nights before. This was a moment dreams are made of. It was a moment at which I wish that life had a pause or at least a slow motion button so that every single second of that time could be digested and savored. The creature coming down the stairs nearly transcended womanhood with her beauty. The dress seemed painted on rather than worn. It moved with her and accentuated her every move. I literally gulped and hoped it wasn't too obvious that I was staring.
I believe that there is a scale of physical attraction. Guys use such things in order to "rate" women and although chauvinistic, I'm not convinced that women don't do similar things to men when sizing up men although they probably aren't as explicit. Along with this scale, I believe that both men and women have some idea of where they fall on the scale of the opposite sex's chart. So, if a man thinks of himself as a six then he probably is about a six. Maybe he's a seven, maybe he's a five, but he's probably in the general neighborhood unless he has serious self-esteem or ego problems. With this, I think that people tend to date people who're more or less around their value. So a male eight wouldn't date a female two and vice versa. I embarked on this exposé into cross sex attractiveness for one reason – at the moment she started coming down those stairs I knew I was going on a date with a woman who was physically at least seven, and possibly eight points ahead of me. If someone had handed me a winning lottery ticket at that moment, I couldn't have been more filled with glee and wonder.
She wanted to go to dinner. I wanted to her go back up the stairs and come down again, but I didn't say that. We went to dinner and the place was packed. There were other students who were obviously there for the dance and as I looked around at the other couples there, I felt like the luckiest guy in the room. Maybe there was something to all that "girly stuff." In any case, I tripped over my tongue at dinner and tried not to stare at her, but then, it's hard not to stare at the most beautiful person in the room. I was transfixed and although I'd had dozens of conversations with her before this night, tonight I was at a loss for words. I hoped that I wasn't making too much of an idiot out of myself – then it hit me, we were going to have to dance later and the idiocy was going to happen anyways. I tried to enjoy dinner and although I don't remember what I ate, it was one of the best meals I'd ever had.
We walked from the restaurant to the dance hall just up the road. It was cold, the wind was blowing and in her heels, she'd occasionally bump up against me. I knew it wasn't intentional, but that she had touched me! We'd touched before of course and she'd even given me a hug before, but I hadn't thought much of it. I silently prayed that the DJ at the dance would play something slow.
At the dance we checked our jackets and paid for our tickets. The bass from the speakers was reverberating through the walls. It didn't sound like there was going to be much slow dancing, but in we went. It should be known as a general rule that unless a white man is in a boy band or is Michael Jackson (and he wasn't always white) he is probably unable to dance; it isn't in our genetic makeup. Fortunately, there was a strobe light and while there was a good deal of bumping into people around us and into each other, I'm pretty sure that most of my white man jive was hidden. At the very least, I couldn't see her laughing at me and she was gracious enough not to mention it afterwards. The pain of trying to act as though I had rhythm was mercifully short. We'd been late to begin with and after dinner, our time on the dance floor was cut because the DJ wanted to go home and so we began the trek back to the car and the drive back to the apartments.