I would like to thank "the-apocalypse" for proofreading my story. He has been of great help.
My name is John. I am retired and live in a very rural area. My story is a bit on the strange side.
My granddaughter and her new husband have been my guests for the last month. They are still on their honeymoon. Now, this may seem strange, and it probably is.
Maybe I should start from the beginning.
My wife and I were married thirty years before she died. It was a traumatic loss. In almost all ways our marriage was perfect. In one area, we had a significant miss-match. She had grown up with very strict understandings of what sex play was allowed and what sex play was off limits. That is, she only considered "plain vanilla" sex to be acceptable. I, on the other hand, have always wanted to be more "exploratory" when it came to sex. I've always had slight tendencies to be a submissive. Not the type that is truly tortured by the mistress, or required to address her as mistress. There is something erotic about being totally in the other person's control so that they control when and how you will reach an orgasm. Such is what I had missed. Even so, being married to her made it worth missing out on the more adventurous sex! I am now living alone.
Our daughter, who now lived three states away, was brought up to see sexual activity as fun; but only within the bounds of my wife's strict ideas about what was acceptable. I wasn't prepared to disagree at that point. My wife was already battling the sickness that would eventually kill her. I wasn't about to add any stress that wasn't absolutely necessary.
My story starts about a year ago. My granddaughter, Mary, asked if she could come and visit me for a few days. Of course I said yes. She asked if I still had two guest rooms. When I said yes, she asked if she could bring a friend with her. Again, I said yes.
When they arrived, I saw the reason for the question about my guest rooms. Her friend was male. After my granddaughter's initial hug and kiss, she showed me a beautiful diamond solitaire engagement ring. She then introduced me to her fiancée, Jim. He was an engineer for a firm that was developing solar energy systems. The first day we just started to get used to each other. The second evening they were there I offered them a choice of soft drinks, beer, Irish coffee, or a mixed drink. They, like me, chose a good mixed drink. We sat in the living room and started to talk about what they planned to do after their marriage.
I gathered my inner strength and spoke to them:
"I don't want to embarrass either of you, but I need to ask you some questions and ask you to talk about the answers between the two of you. I will break the ice by telling you that there was only one area where my long and happy marriage wasn't perfect. We disagreed about what limits we would place on our sexual activities. I'm more than sure that Mary has heard my wife's view, as told by her mother. I tended to want a wider variety of things than my wife did. Can I talk to you, strictly between us, about your future sex life?"
My granddaughter's face went a lovely shade of red. Jim looked directly at me and said: "I would welcome your input. We haven't spent a lot of time on specifics. I'm not even sure what variations we should both consider; except for the fact that we will be absolutely monogamous."
My granddaughter's red face became a little less red as Jim spoke.
"Good", I said, "I want to tell you some of my own fantasies and that will tell you about the limits I believe are reasonable for a married couple. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying my limits will be your limits; I'm merely telling you that these are things I like and/or would believe I would like very much. Is this o.k. with you two?"
They replied "Yes" almost in unison.
"Good, now, I hope you will realize that this is not a subject that I have discussed with anyone for at least the last thirty-five years. If I say something confusing, or seem to leave something out, please tell me and I will try to explain."
They both nodded their consent.
"O.K. Let me start by saying that good sex, like a good athletic event, requires warm-up and warm-down periods. The warm-up period is called foreplay, as I am sure you already know. Many people think that foreplay is just a few simple mechanical things that are done before getting down to the sex act itself. This is absolutely wrong!"
"Now, I am going to talk about the best way, for me, to have sex other than when I want to try to create a child. This is strictly the time for fun sex."
"Effectively foreplay is part and parcel about how you treat each other all day, and night long. I can't expect good sex at night if I haven't been consistently showing my wife that I love her, and care about her needs. For example, it could be making sure to help with the cleaning, taking the garbage out or doing dishes; all without having to be asked or nagged. It involves lovingly patting or grabbing your loved one as you pass them in the hall. It involves constantly telling the other person how much you appreciate them; and meaning it. Without this, most foreplay is more like a cold ritual to be done to get what you want. In real loving sex you are more concerned about your partner's needs than your needs. Note, I am not saying that you should ignore your needs. I'm saying that you should be more concerned about meeting your partner's needs than your own."
"Are you with me, so far?"
Again, they both nodded yes. They were holding hands and sitting closer together than they had been at this point.
"Well then, we come to the point of really getting ready for a good time in bed. There is nothing like washing each other in a shower or bath tub before things move along. Before this and throughout the evening all wired phones should be off the hook and all cell phones turned off. Interruptions during the following are not good! Also, turn up the room heat for the bathroom and bedroom so that it gets to about eighty degrees Fahrenheit. That is the general temperature that feels good for a nude body."
At this point, Jim and Mary were shyly smiling.
"You want to make sure to wash your pubic areas very well. In fact, for some people it is considered to be a turn on to carefully shave each other's pubic area so that you have no hair down there. You see, pubic hair can retain smells that aren't overly conducive to closeness."
"Do not; masturbate yourself or your partner at this point. You want to save that sexual energy for later. When you finish the shower or bath take the time to very carefully dry your partner off. It is amazingly sexy to have someone else, lovingly, dry you."
"Now, when you get to the bed I would suggest no less than ten or more minutes just kissing and feeling your partner. I loved to be kissing my wife and playing with her breasts, sucking her breasts, and stroking her hair. This is not wasted time. The idea is to nicely delay your activities so that you become more and more sexually excited."
"Before I go further, do either of you have a question or problem so far?"
