The following conversation is a combination of conversations I had with good female friends and one past girlfriend. I actually had a similar abbreviated conversation with my last girlfriend one lazy day between sexual rounds 1 and 2. I guess, I initially wrote this story for myself more so than for anyone else. I hope you enjoy it and maybe the story makes you think a bit as well.
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“Erik honey?”
”Yes”
“How old were you when you first had sex?”
“Wow, where did that question come from?”
“Just curious.”
“I was a late bloomer in that regard. I did not have sex until I was 21”
“Gee, why so late?”
“I am not sure. I guess I was a coward. I was always the nice “safe” guy. The guy everyone liked. The guy girls could talk to and entrust their secrets but not date. Plus, for many years I simply was not interested in sex. I had my other distractions ... school, sports, and friends.”
“Do you regret it now?”
“Yes and no.”
“Explain!”
“Well, I now enjoy sex and wish I had enjoyed it sooner. Plus, my perception of females has changed and knowing what I know now I think I could have had sex with a few different girls when I was younger. I think I misread some of their intentions when I was younger.”
“How has your perception changed?”
“That’s hard to explain. Two things happened that made me think about my perception of woman. Once a friend told me in a somewhat drunken haze: “Erik, a woman can be equally as big of an asshole as any man. You think too highly of them. You respect them too much.” My friend told me not to put woman on a pedestal. At the time I simply discarded his comments of those coming from a drunk. Later I started to think about his comments … especially after being screwed, and I do not mean in a sexual context, by a few women.”
“That’s one thing, what about the second?”
“The second occasion happened while I was in college. A friend of mine noticed that this particular asshole of a man was surprisingly successful with bedding some rather attractive women. Mind you, many of these women regretted their actions later but for some reason the asshole remained successful with various women. My gentle and polite friend deduced if he wanted to have any success with girls, he needed to be more of an asshole. For the next week or two, he tried to be asshole but we simply had to laugh because it was so out of character for him. He did not have much success anyway. ”
“No girl for him?”
“It took some time after his experiment when we came to realize something. The asshole succeeded because he threw out a lot of punches and sooner or later one would land.”
”Uh?”
“Well, he would try to seduce one girl after the next until he was successful. He did not care about the failures and did not let the failures harm his ego.”
“So now you act like an asshole and consider females assholes?”
“You know me better than that! Even you would laugh at me if I were trying to be an asshole.”
