One Saturday morning while I was taking a walk in our local park, which is something I rarely do I saw someone that looked familiar. The park is filled with people, jogging trails, hiking trails and walking trails. Then I noticed a man that very closely resembled my boyfriend of seven years with another woman.
I decided to watch from a secluded spot some distance away so as not to be seen by either of them. After all, I thought to myself, I believed that I recognized the woman also. As it turned out, I did not.
It looked as though they were close as they were holding each other's hands as they walked and talked. I was just too far away to hear what they were saying to each other. My curiosity was roaming rampant. I decided to get closer hoping to hear what was being said and at the same time, not be seen. I have never played the detective so I did not know exactly what to do in this situation.
While moving to get closer I noticed them kissing in a more than friendly way. As soon as they broke their kiss I got busted. So, I decided to confront them.
"Bill!" I shouted. "What the hell is going on here and how long has it been going on?"
He spitted and stuttered quite a bit before the finally answered me.
"Well not that it is no longer a secret and is out in the open, she is my girlfriend. It has been going on for six months now. I just did not really know how to tell you" he said.
Just about this time she wanted to talk but I was pretty angry about the whole affair, if you pardon the pun. I was just not in the mood to listen to the boyfriend stealing BITCH. She kept interrupting Bill and I and I finally ran out of steam. She was going to say something no matter what!
"Look, we can be adults about this or we can fight it out" she said.
What nerve she has. Here she is still holding Bill's hand and she had the nerve to even talk to me. What I really wanted to do is strangle her, but I did keep my composure and I did not. I turned to walk away but someone's hand grabbed me and spun me around.
"Bill are you crazy? Just let go of me and I'll just leave" I said.
I knew I would get back to my apartment before he could so I would be able to throw all of his belongings into a few boxes. I really wanted to just throw them all out on the lawn. I also knew the situation in the park could have escalated and would probably turn out badly for me, but I did maintain my composure and I was able to leave.
Someone was knocking at my front door the next morning. As I opened to door it was Bill. He even brought the girl along with him. What a douche bag!
"What are you doing here with her?" I asked.
He said "I brought her along for an eyewitness of whatever happens right now."
"Just leave" I said. "I'll get your stuff and call you when I get it ready"
I already knew I needed to change the door locks but I had never needed to do it in the past. I did not even know how. We really did not have a lot of material stuff at my apartment, but it did fill up six boxes. I decided to put off calling him for three or maybe four days. He needed to worry for a few days about what I was going to do with his stuff.
When I finally did call, I did tell him that if he brought the boyfriend steeling bitch with him that I would not even answer the door. Well, the dumb ass brought her. At least she stayed in the car. True to my word, I did not even answer the door. He called me on his cell phone and I told him that I was not home at this moment. The whole time I was hoping he could not hear me through the door.
He informed me that he would get a court order if he needed to.
I just said "Do what you want. If you do get a court order, I will merely tell who ever asks that you bought me this stuff as a gift and gave them to me. So legally they are mine."
I decided to make sure that everything that even remotely reminded me of him was gone. "Crap" I thought. "I am going to need a few more boxes." I bought more boxes and thought about that saying "Out with old, in with the new". That just seemed to fit the situation perfectly I told myself.
Shortly after all of that I joined a local gym. I started immediately. They had exercise classes morning, noon, and evening. I started the evening classes so it would be after I got off work. I only needed to lose, at least I thought I only needed to lose, around fifty pounds or so. The scale they put me on said otherwise. They also informed me to set my goals at ten to fifteen pounds at a time. That way I could reach achievable goals more often. I could then celebrate smaller accomplishments. Since I do like, no I love, ice cream I did not have to give it up completely. Other things would be easier, at least I thought so. Again, I was wrong. I needed to rethink my strategy of losing weight.
After a week I got back on the scales. Checking my weight loss too often could result in me not seeing any loss of weight and could discourage me. That was supposed to be phycological I guess. Well because I would eat when I got home after a workout, I had actually gained a few pounds. NOT GOOD! That was discouraging and depressing all at the same time. I guess that I needed to change other habits too.
When I got home, I started to clean out my refrigerator. I also threw out some of the stuff I would eat in the evenings and bought salads. That really hurt mentally anyway. So more of an out with the old and in with the new attitude. I switched to the morning classes too. The next time I weighed in, I had lost two pounds in addition to what I had gained. I knew it right then that I could do this!
I was starting to enjoy myself. My confidence was better and I felt better. I think it showed because even my supervisor made a comment to me. Now that felt good.
My now ex-boyfriend finally came by and got his stuff. Even he made a comment about me changing physically. It did not help our relationship. He blew that in the park that Saturday. All of this was starting to change my self-esteem and my ego. A change for the better I might add.
I did notice a couple of cute guys at the gym. Even though I thought they were cute I was not ready to jump back into any games men like to play. I could always look though. Sometimes women or men would approach one another but I did my best to tune all that out.
One of the women there noticed that I was pretty much a beginner. One day later she came over to me. I did not know what to expect. All sort of things ran through my mind. She introduced herself as Sheri and I introduced myself as Diane. We struck up a conversation about ourselves. I was there to help me get over a relationship and start a new me. She was there because she just enjoyed working out. Since we were both women and both in the morning class, we decided to work out together.
Over time Sheri and I became friends. I am not going to say good friends but we were heading that direction. I did find out she started out like I did in a broken relationship and she just enjoyed working out. She met her new husband three years ago and he encouraged her to continue working out. He liked the new her, strong, firm and very toned.
Six months later she invited me to their annual Christmas party. This is where I finally met her husband Tom. He is slim, trim and fit.
By the time the Christmas party rolled around everything in my wardrobe was loose fitting so naturally I had to purchase a new dress for the occasion. I chose one of those numbers with a low back that looked better without a bra. I am not that well-endowed there so that presented no problem. It was black, backless and short. Nice I thought.
This is where I met a number of single guys. All of which were handsome in their own rights. By the way, I also found Sheri's husband was one of the Senior Vice Presidents of the company he works for. Some sort of investment company. Sheri and I had never really discussed jobs before, it just was not ever brought up by either of us.
Of all the things which had happened to me over the past I counted this as one of the best. I was definitely heading the right direction. It was like I was belle of the ball that night. I garnered a lot of attention from the single men I had met. The whole evening proved to me that I was indeed doing the right thing and heading in the right direction.
To date, I had lost about forty pounds and was actually starting to tone up. It felt good to feel good about myself.
The following Monday morning Sheri informed me that the gentlemen which I had met at the Christmas party all wanted my phone number. At least this is what her husband had told her. I had to think on that. I did think that bit of information was exciting though.
Looking back, I could not remember this type of attention, EVER! I remember a number years ago my now ex-boyfriend while we were in high school approached me about half way through my senior year and asked me for a date. Even then, as with most girls, I thought w was overweight. Looking back in reality I was not. Perception of one's self is really important. Up until then I had not dated much. I just thought it was because I felt overweight. In reality, it was because I was stand-offish and consider a prude.