"Just before we met, I filled out an application for an Army ROTC scholarship. It's not often that you can get one to start your junior year, but I just found out: I've been accepted. If I take it, I'd have four weeks of training at Fort Knox, really right after we got married. It would make finding a job for the summer tougher, but I could probably at least find a laborer job when I got back. That means I wouldn't make as much money to save for the coming semester, but I'd have full tuition and books, plus a $450 a month stipend as a junior, and $500 a month as a senior. And, once I'm on active duty, I can use the GI Bill to pay off my student loans."
I was still stunned. "And what does that mean when you are graduated? You'll have to serve in the Army?"
"It would mean an eight-year commitment, with at least the first four on active duty. But while I have the scholarship in hand, I haven't formally accepted it yet. It is a guaranteed job after graduation, but who knows where it would be."
"Like in fucking Afghanistan?" Dave could see that I wasn't happy.
"Possibly, but I will not take the scholarship if you don't approve."
I sat there, kind of stunned at this turn of events. Looking at it practically, it made a whole lot of sense: Dave's tuition and books paid for, plus a monthly stipend which would pay for our food. But from a marital standpoint, it sucked. Our first month of marriage, we'd be apart. Then, after he was graduated, Dave would have four years of active duty, and no telling where it would be. Anyplace in the US, and I could be with him, but that didn't mean it would be anyplace where I could find a decent job. My career might be put on hold, at least for those four years. And there were some duty assignments which were "unaccompanied," meaning that wives couldn't go along.
Then again, with me being a year ahead of Dave, the possibility existed that my first career-level job, if I was lucky enough to get a decent offer upon graduation, might lead to us being separated during his senior year. We had talked about that, briefly, and knew it could happen, and basically decided that we'd wait and see what the future brought. If my career might mean separation, there wasn't much I could say if Dave's could mean the same thing.
And all of this didn't include the possibility that my future husband could be sent someplace at war! We were still in Afghanistan, Syria was still a mess, ISIS was still fighting in Iraq, and that could mean Dave could get wounded or killed. Dave wouldn't be graduated until May of 2019, and couldn't really be sent to any fighting until 2020, so maybe the bad stuff would be over by then, but nobody knows.
I was still sitting there, trying to figure out what to say. Our civilian prospects looked pretty good, right now, but Hell, we could be in another recession by the time we were graduated. Looking at it practically, this was a bird-in-the-hand-versus-two-in-the-bush decision. "Dave, do you want to do this?"
"Marcy, with the GI Bill, my old student loans will be paid off, and I'll have a guaranteed good job upon graduation. It really does make good sense."
"I know it makes good sense, but that wasn't what I asked you: do you want to do this?"
"Yeah, Marcy, I think I do."
"Dave, I know that you'd never stand in my way if I had a career goal, and I won't stand in yours. If this is what you want to do, then you should go ahead and do it; you know I'll always support you!"
How the heck could I answer this? This was a good deal, a really good deal, a hard-to-pass-up deal. The only bad part is that he might come back in a body bag! "David, is this your dream?"
"
You're
my dream, Marcy." Well, that put it right back on me, didn't it? Dave had found a way to finish paying for college, to keep the financial burden off of us as a couple, and off of me. It would pay for our health care, and if junior officers didn't make a fortune, they were at least paid decently. He was going to have to sacrifice to do it.
It was all up to me now: if I said yes, Dave would take the scholarship, and if I said no, he wouldn't. That's one Hell of a box to put his damned fiancΓ©e in! I wanted to say no, I couldn't stand the thought of being separated from him, not for the month of summer camp he'd have, not for the summer he'd miss with me next year, and certainly not for the time he'd be on active duty after graduation. But he was trying to man up, to take care of his debts, to take care of himself, and to take care of me as well.
"Dave," I began, trying to get the words out, "I think you should do it." I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes, but then Dave came to me, wrapped his arms around me, and kissed me as sweetly as he ever has before.
His touch was electric! I was so afraid of losing him, not to another girl, but to another life, and he knew it. Still, that could have happened anyway; who knows where we'd get decent job offers after we were both graduated, it could be in different cities. This was just another part of being an adult, and Dave was taking an adult decision; I had to do the same.