There are good memories and bad memories. These are the good memories. Mostly.
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I met Alane back in 1980 when she was 20 and I was 30. She was a theater student at a college near where I lived.
At the time I was a computer programmer, but when I was in school, I did a lot of "technical theater" work in local community theaters, and in the same college Alane was now attending. I had two very good friends that worked in the theater department in the college. Pat was the head costumer, and Gary was the technical director.
It was ten years since I'd been a student there, but most days I'd go a few miles out of my way home from work and visit my friends at the college. Everyone in the theater and music faculties knew me, and we would stop and chat if they weren't in a rush. The technical theater students that worked in the shop also knew me if they had been around for a while. I would spend hours helping out in the shop since I really enjoyed doing that, and it was more exercise than I could get in my day job as a computer programmer.
I met Alane's "little" sister Lynn first, by a few weeks. She was an artist, and enjoyed painting sets and drops. Lynn was spectacular. Six foot one inch, about 4 inches of bushy bright blond hair, a beautiful face, and a very muscular body. Not a body-builder's piles of useless muscles, but the kind of muscles you get from doing real work and enjoying it. I am just under six feet tall, and it was a bit of a surprise to have to look up when I talked to a woman. In those days, six feet was
tall
for a woman. Lynn was a bit of a tomboy and always wore jeans and a long-sleeved flannel shirt. Unlike some students that dressed that way, it was a visibly clean and different shirt every day.
I got to know Lynn quite well. We never dated, or even considered it. It wasn't because she was twelve years younger than I was, it was because she was a confirmed lesbian. We both knew it, and both accepted it. Gay people were very common in theaters then, and still are now. You quickly got to know and accept everyone's personal orientation. That didn't mean that you couldn't go out together to dinner or a bar. Theater people
love
to party. You just didn't ask someone home to your bed if you weren't mutually interested in each other. That didn't mean that they couldn't crash on your couch or the spare room if they needed to.
A few weeks after meeting Lynn I met Alane. She was also a theater student, but she was in the acting classes, not the shop classes. The acting classes met on stage, and the shop classes met in the shop or costume department or control booth. All of these were separated from the stage by large soundproof doors that were usually closed. As a 'techie' you might occasionally walk across some part of the stage while an acting class was in session. But you and the actors both had your own things to do, and nobody had much time to chat with or get to know the people in the other group.
Alane would walk through the shop now and then, and my eyes tracked her like a magnet. I had no idea who she was, but I wanted to correct that oversight. That correction turned out to be easier than I expected. Occasionally when I visited with Pat I'd find her chatting with Alane. At some point Pat introduced the two of us. We didn't immediately fall into each other's arms, the introduction just meant that we knew each other's names, and could engage in group conversations when a bunch of us were sitting around and talking.
Alane, like her sister, was a blonde, with golden hair down her back almost to her waist. She was five foot nine or ten, about an inch shorter than I was. She often wore heels, so matched me in height almost exactly. It's fun to be able to look a beautiful woman straight in the eyes, and Alane was beautiful.
Alane almost never wore a bra. I can vividly recall the feel of her large breasts pressed against my chest when we hugged. She usually wore a very nice dress, but not infrequently would wear jeans and a thin and tight white t-shirt. The t-shirt was definitely not flat, and also definitely not all one boring shade of white. There were a couple of interesting round targets moving around in that shirt which attracted
a lot
of eyes. She knew this would happen; that was exactly why she dressed that way. Alane liked guys. No, Alane
really liked
guys.
Women will talk about things that men never think of discussing with their friends. One evening Pat told me that Alane really liked guys. It wasn't unusual for Alane to sneak off somewhere with a guy for a few minutes, and show up with a big smile on her face. It wasn't that unusual for this to happen more than once in a day, often with a different guy each time. Pat suggested that Alane and I might make a pretty good couple. I grinned at that. Pat had noticed that my eyes followed Alane any time she was around. I wasn't all that sure Alane and I were compatible from Pat's description. I was thirty, but I'd only had three girlfriends over the years, and Pat knew all of them. I wasn't at all sure Alane would be all that interested in an older nerd, especially one that probably knew a tenth of what she knew about sex. No, probably a whole lot less than a tenth as much.
But Pat had decided I needed another girlfriend, and decided to play matchmaker. And Pat had a way of quietly managing to get the outcome she wants. Both Alane and I knew that, and weren't going to even try to fight it, so we started spending more time together. We found we were comfortable being together, and had a few common interests we could talk about.
That year Ralph, the ex-head of the theater department, was involved with the Puppeteers of America, an organization of both the most widely known professional puppeteers that everyone knew from TV, and amateur puppeteers nobody outside the organization had ever heard of. Some were very good, and some were not very good, but they all had fun together at their week-long annual convention. They were going to have their convention in a hotel in San Diego this year.
Ralph had volunteered to provide a portable stage for the meeting where the puppeteers could perform for the other members. Of course Ralph didn't have one, which meant that Gary had to quickly design one, and the theater shop crew had to knock it out in about two days. Two long days and evenings later it was built, painted, checked, disassembled, and packed on a truck for the trip to San Diego, along with a lighting rig, sound system, and crates of other stuff.
Several of the theater students were invited to go along, or asked if they could go along. There were rooms available in the conference hotel, so they only had to provide their own transportation down and back. Alane was planning on going.
Originally I had no intention of going, I was busy at work. But then Pat asked if I wanted a week alone with Alane. To say that got my interest was an understatement, but I wasn't sure that Alane would want me along. Pat anticipated that, and had already asked Alane if she would be interested in sharing her hotel room with a man. According to Pat, Alane had said something like "Are you nuts?
Of course
I wouldn't mind!" Pat then asked her if that was still true if I was the guy. According to Pat, Alane had absolutely no problems with that. Suddenly I developed an interest in taking a week off work and going to San Diego for a puppetry convention!