"We" started with a drunken phone call on December 27th, 2003.
Christmas of 2003 had been a rough time for me for many reasons (which I won't go into here). I was going through a time when I just wanted to stay in bed and wallow in self-pity, and believe me, I did it well. After awhile the phone stopped ringing and the "festive" invitations stopped coming. No one wanted the "dark cloud" to rain on their Christmas cheer and I couldn't really blame them. I didn't even want to be around me.
Terrie, my neighbour, called me on the afternoon of the 27th and asked me if I would go over that evening and help her bottle a batch of wine. She wouldn't take no for an answer and after arguing back and forth I finally relented, albeit more than a little reluctantly.
I noticed his business card on the table as soon as I sat down. I already knew a little about him because Terrie had been singing his praises to me for awhile in the hopes of hooking us up. They had had a brief "fling" the summer before, but now that they were just friends, Terrie had made it her goal to set him up with someone. Unfortunately, I allowed my own insecurities to come into play whenever he came to town (he lived and worked three hours away) and I would do everything in my power to make myself scarce and avoid a confrontation thinking that since he had been with her, he wouldn't be even remotely attracted to me. I commented on the professionalism of the card and simply tossed it aside without another thought.
After "testing" four (or maybe it was five) bottles of wine ourselves, the business card seemed more intriguing and I suggested that perhaps we ought to phone him. Terrie was a little taken aback by my suggestion considering I had never taken an interest in him before, but thought it would be amusing to speak with him anyway (especially since I was well on my way to being "three sheets to the wind").
I suppose to say "he had me from hello" sounds trite, but it's the best way to describe how he captivated me (and it didn't hurt that he had an Australian accent either). He spoke intelligently and eloquently and I seemed to keep him rather amused with my uninhibited detailing of my body art (which to this day embarrasses the hell out of me when I think about it). When we hung up with the promise to "keep in touch", I was amazed to find we had been speaking for 45 minutes. All in all, it was somewhat of a healing evening for me, at least in the emotional sense.
The following day was a scheduled work day and when I awoke I couldn't understand why there was a marching band playing in my front yard. When I sat up to check it out however, I realized the band wasn't playing in my yard but rather in my head Ugh! A red wine hangover! To make matters worse, when I remembered the drunken phone call, all I wanted to do was slip further down in bed and bury my head in the covers, allowing self-pity to control me again.
But with a deep breath of resolve, I pulled back the covers and gingerly made my way to the shower, already composing in my mind the note of apology I would e-mail to him. Ensuring I had his business card tucked in my purse, I made my way into the office and immediately sent off the best apology I could muster under the circumstances.
I didn't really expect to hear from him again and was rather surprised to find a note from him in my in-box a short while later. It seems that while the prior evening's phone call had left me embarrassed, it had left him not only amused but more than curious about the "sober" me. His tone was light-hearted and the note was both informative (about him) and inquisitive (about me).
And so began our game of e-mail tag. Because it was still considered to be the "holiday season", work was a little slow and we soon found our day filled with e-mail writing back and forth to each other. Each note would contain more and more questions, some silly, some very personal and neither of us had a problem answering them all. That night, we talked on the phone for five and a half hours. The next night it was seven hours. Our conversations were all encompassing and above all else we laughed, oh how we laughed!!!
On the 30th we graduated from e-mail to chatting one-on-one via Yahoo Messenger. It was also on the 30th that we exchanged photos. This was a huge deal for me because, as mentioned above, not only am I insecure about my looks but I am not the least bit photogenic. He didn't seem to mind the photos I did send though. He was both complimentary and flattering and he made me feel good about myself.
I had seen photos of him in the past while thumbing through Terrie's photo albums and while he really wasn't the type I would "normally" fall for, I had pretty much "fallen" for him over the course of the past few days of correspondence. I found myself opening his photo a lot just to see his electric smile and I would get chills.
The following day was New Year's Eve and despite the prior plans we had made with friends in our respective cities, we remained in close contact. In fact, the clock had barely struck midnight when my cell phone rang. Just to hear his voice was "kiss" enough.
We had talked about meeting and had agreed that he would drive up on January 10th and we would see what there was to see (if anything) between us. In the meantime however, we made a vow of "exclusivity" to one another deciding to wait and see if the chemistry between us would grow with meeting face-to-face.