Me and my friend Kate
My name is James David Wilson, Jim. I am half an inch shorter than six foot. I knew Katherine Jensen, Kate, a fellow teacher, three years before ever meeting my wife, Janice. Kate and I had been friends in college, and for a short time, had been 'friends with benefits'. Kate and I decided we were better just friends than 'friends with benefits', and we vowed to NEVER tell any one of our 'benefits'. We felt being friends was more important. I had to admit that I did miss our intimate times, but I did cherish our friendship, so I settled into a platonic friendship.
Kate and I supported each other from then on.
She told me when a girlfriend was wanting to use me as a 'place holder' (until the girlfriend found a richer guy and would then either drop me or worse yet, divorce me if we got that far depending how long it would take her to find a poor rich sap). Must have been Kate's woman's intuition. I would pick Kate up when a date would go south, and when she needed a white knight. I had to 'talk' to a few guys, who did not treat Kate with respect. I was one of the groomsmen at her wedding. Kate was one of Janice's bridesmaids.
Our young careers
Both Janice and I got work right out of college. Janice got a job in a bank, and me, I got one teaching. Janice's job would eventually lead to a managerial position. For my career, I had my eye on educational leadership, so that meant more school, which meant more tuition money was needed.
Kate, being a compassionate person, was aimed at school counseling, which also meant more school, and that meant tuition money was also needed,
Kate's divorce
I had told Kate when I found out the asshole she married, had cheated on her with someone from his work. It was not a clandestine investigation; I saw him all kissy face with the rich Barbie. He was about to become an up-and-coming junior executive at his company. It looked like Kate's husband was looking to replace Kate.
Kate did very well in her divorce settlement— an 'Alienation Of Affection' lawsuit against the Barbie girlfriend, who was a rich bitch. Kate's lawyer also got what her husband's company called a 'relocation fee' because they did not supervise their employees according to their policies. They did it to keep things quiet.
Kate then had 'extra' money from her divorce.
My divorce
Just two months later, I found out that Janice, my wife of four years, was having an affair.
I found out from Kate. Again, it was not a clandestine investigation, Janice and Kate had a mutual acquaintance, Sue. Sue, actually, was a friend of Kate's, and she told Kate. She knew that Kate was a very, very good friend of mine, and she was disgusted that Janice would do that.
They both worked at the same bank; Sue actually got passed over because of Janice's fucking! The guy was Sue and Janice's boss, Paul Sciatto! What helped was that Kate got the whole lowdown on the who, the where and when of every time she fucked this guy, even the why!— she was trying to fuck her way to a promotion.
Sue did a good job of making Janice think that she was her friend.
At the time, we all were living in North Carolina. The hardest part of the divorce was establishing the pattern of adultery without Janice finding out I knew. I had Kate as a witness, but it was not strong enough because it was second hand, and Sue was afraid that she'd be fired if she blew the whistle.
I hired a private investigator to follow Janice on her 'fuck' days. The PI, a woman, was as good as advertised. She got all the shit I needed for my lawyer (the same lawyer Kate had used); the lawyer wanted a slam dunk. After three weeks, she had her slam dunk— a PI report with pictures, even! They had met and fucked four times in those three weeks! The PI was also a process server, so my lawyer and the PI arranged to have my wife served along with her fuck buddy as they walked out of the motel room. Oh, there was a video of it!
One reason the boss was served was because he also was married and, 'somehow' the word of his infidelity got to his wife, Cynthia, and she used my lawyer. Imagine that.
Janice's bank allowed the boss to quietly resign, and he was able to bounce back with a job at another financial institution. He ended up with a large child support payment and a large alimony payment because of their prenup— two kids and a stay-at-home wife will do that!
He did 'luck out' when Cynthia remarried years later, when the kids hit their late teens, and he didn't have to pay alimony, but the judge increased the child support—
Karma
.
Sue told Kate that Janice was not so lucky, as she was promptly fired, and that her infidelity and fraternization story followed her. Her career in the financial world was over.
It was quite a 'cheaters-type' circus— one, because they were caught off guard; and two, Cynthia was waiting in the parking lot, SHE was the one who shot the video!
Kate and a couple of her friends showed up on that day to Janice and my rented house and packed every last bit of Janice's clothes and belongings into moving boxes. We were only renting because as a teacher just starting out, we could not come up with enough of the down payment with my and Janice's salaries; if it had been another year, we would have had it.
Janice's dad drove up to pick up her stuff. He growled at me. I gave him the PI's report; he skimmed through it until he came to the pictures. He hung his head as he said sorry and finished loading Janice's stuff.
To make a long story short, North Carolina is in the Bible Belt; Cynthia and I got the same judge that Kate had. Our hearings were back-to-back, and we had some of the same witnesses. The judge was old school and she, herself, had just divorced a cheating spouse. The 'divorce circus' turned into a 'victory parade'. The same judge presided over our lawsuits, What can I say?... Small town not too many judges. We made out like bandits.
Both Cynthia and I got some 'Alienation Of Affection' lawsuit money. Cynthia got part of Janice's half of 'our home' down payment money we had put away. I got the rest of it because I was the 'injured spouse', basically wiping Janice out. I also received a larger amount from her boss. Plus, my lawyer got me a 'relocation award', just like Kate did, from Janice's bank; it was really hush money, you know, it being the Bible Belt, her bank did not want the illicit behavior known.
Janice wanted counseling, and she was actually trying to reconcile! She felt it was just sex. Just sex! Since it was just to get us more money, it should be okay. Her fucking was how we were going to afford MY SCHOOLING! She tried to say how a promotion would help us, especially when we would start having kids. Even the counselor could not believe her!
"Having kids! Only if they were mine!"
"Oh, I was on the pill."
This was at our last session. I ended it by saying, "Janice, you whored yourself out, you are nothing but a prostitute!" I got up out of my chair and blew her a kiss. "I loved you and I don't know, I might still, but you threw my love away!"
She asked me one last time, "Can't we reconcile?"
I said, "Okay, just un-fuck your boss and I'll take you back." And I left!
My divorce was over the week after school let out for summer. I decided that I could not stay in town because it was really Janice's town!
Go west young man.
"Go west, young man, and young woman," to paraphrase Horace Greeley.
I decided to take my newfound 'wealth' and move west. I asked Kate if she wanted to go with me...
She said, "
YES
!"
She had the same whose-town-is-it, feelings as I did. We had established an extremely better friendship, than when we were in our friends-with-benefits days, due to the divorces we both were involved in. Supporting a hurt friend, that can be quite a bonding experience.
My sister had finished college and now lived in Tempe, Arizona. She forwarded info on jobs in the 'Valley of the Sun' (Phoenix Metropolitan area). She said that even the district she lived in needed teachers.