"Honey we have to talk" or "trial separation" stories are some of the more common LW themes on the site. I've read a bunch of them and wondered what it would be like outside of the context of the wife just wanting to try out some new guy for a while before she goes back, so I decided to write this. I don't consider this story loving wives though. There really isn't cheating by most definitions, this is more of an exploration of love and how easy it is to lose sight of it, while running a home, family and career-BH
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"Frank can we talk a bit." Ali said as he was watching the news.
"Sure babe, what's up?"
"Frank, I love you. I've loved you for most of my life, but something has been missing the last few years."
"Excuse me?" Frank said confused. "What's missing and for how many years?"
"Don't be a smart ass. I'm serious. We are growing apart. I guess maybe since the girls started high school."
"Oh, I see. We've been growing apart since you started working. All those weekend and evenings you have been working and showing houses have been pushing us apart."
She was shocked. Was it her job that caused this? She refused to consider it and stuck to her plan. She started working when the twins started high school, since they could care for themselves after school now. She loved her job.
"No, if anything it's your job, Frank."
"Hang on," Frank snapped. "For 15 years I worked a fireman's schedule including 24 hour shifts, but for the last year, since I was promoted to chief, I've been working basically 9-5 and only 5 days a week, with the occasional Saturday or Sunday when there are public events. I am home every night and most weekends. When are you home in the evening or weekends?"
She opened her mouth but before she could speak, he continued.
"You're not. You're a realtor. You show houses at all hours and on the weekends. And now you tell me we are growing apart? Well what do you plan to do about it?"
She looked at him with red eyes and said, "I'm moving out."
"WHAT?"
"I'm moving out. Not permanently. Just until we can figure out how to find the spark again."
"What's his name?"
"Whose name?"
"Your lover? What's his name and how long has it been going on?"
"I don't have a lover and I don't want one. That's not what this is about."
"Wait a minute, Ali. Let me see if I have this straight. Since you went back to work, we've been growing apart. You don't know why or how to fix it. You don't have a lover, but you think the way to stop growing apart is for you to move out."
"Yes."
"How, pray tell, are we suppose to grow back together if you leave me. We hardly see each other now, due to YOUR schedule and we're growing apart. How is never seeing each other going to fix that?"
"I don't know. All I know is I need a break. I need a chance to reset. I can't do that here."
"You can't be serious? Are you listening to yourself? You have no idea what is wrong. You have no idea what caused it. You have no idea how to fix it. But you know that you need to move out. For how long? How long do you need in order to reset yourself?"
"I don't know. I'm not renting an apartment though. I'm going to stay in an extended stay hotel. Maybe a week, maybe a month, I don't know."
"Wow. This is the biggest pile of bullshit I've ever heard. Who put it in your head that leaving me is how we fix our issues?"
"I'm not leaving you. We aren't divorcing. Marci told me she separated from her husband and she was able to see the issues from a different perspective..."
"Wait a minute!" He said, cutting her off. "Which husband?"
"What?"
"Which husband? You're getting marriage advice from Marci, who's on her 3rd marriage. Which marriage did she fix by leaving her husband."
"I, I, I don't know. I assumed her current husband."
"Oh, I see. You remember when she married George right?"
Ali started to feel ill.
"Well? When did she marry George?"
"October."
"October, 7 months ago. When did they separate?"
She didn't respond. She was starting to think this was a bad idea, but the allure of not being a wife and mother for a while was too strong. She stuck to her plan.
"They didn't, Ali. They haven't separated. Marci has given you advice on how to end a marriage not save one."
"It doesn't matter. I don't want a divorce and I'm not leaving you."
"No you're just moving out for an unknown length of time. When are you leaving?"
"Tonight."
"Well, don't let me stop you from saving our marriage. But remember this - you're still a married woman. If I find out you're dating or seeing other men, you won't have a home to come back to."
"Screw you. I've already told you that this isn't about having a fling."
"I certainly hope not."
He turned and walked into the garage so he wouldn't see her leave him. He got in his car and drove to Fox and Hound for a pint of beer or six.
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Ali, was sitting on her bed crying while looking at the packed bags. "What the hell am I doing?" She said out loud to the room.
She resolved herself, picked up her bags and left. She had already spoken to her daughters who told her she was nuts. That conversation went worse than the one with her husband.
As she drove to the hotel she thought about what he had said to her. Was it really her job that caused the situation? If it were his job it should've solved itself now that they were in bed together every night since he was promoted.
Maybe Marci gave her bad advice? Maybe a separation was not the way to go? Too late to turn back now. The damage was done. Hopefully she missed home enough fast enough to go back. She figured to just take it one day at a time.
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"Marci, can you tell me which of your marriages were saved by separating?" Ali asked her soon to be ex-friend.
"Hey, I never said it saved it. I said it allowed me to figure out what I needed to do. I figured out that I had to make me happy, not just my husband."
"You bitch. You've driven a edge between me and Frank. I only did this because you said it helped you."
"Yes. It helped me leave my shithead first husband. Don't worry, Ali. Sow some oats and go home. You'll be fine."
"Fuck you, never call me again."
Ali, again thought the worst. Yet she was too far gone in her own mind to go back home and fix it.
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