When a woman is younger, she has to fend men off in droves. Even when men don't take the hint or don't take an emphatic 'NO!' for an answer, he still chases her relentlessly until she succumbs or finally gives in. So, to speak! Possibly, and normally with regret she may eventually even fall in love with a man and get married. The reason is that these men (yes, you plural) are unyielding in the pursuit of this chosen woman.
The Younger Man
How does the younger man choose a woman? In the private conversations in the locker room, what exactly do men look for or discuss amongst each other? Certainly during the younger years, it involves looks, looks and looks, body, body and body, weight, weight and weight, jugs, jugs, and jugs, legs, legs, and legs. A well chosen variety and combination of the aforementioned is vital to the selection process.
Heaven knows, men
never
discuss feelings or emotions as part of the mix for a mate (or even later in life for that matter). He discusses sex to no end ... but feelings – no, no, and NO!
Are you getting the picture? The man is still King in spite of all his qualities...and/or flaws.
Now a woman does look for a man, too, but differently. Oh, so differently! Speaking as a woman, she usually goes for looks, a suitable height, education, profession and common interests. Feeling and emotions are Oh, SO important and maybe the most intuitive quality she possesses! She chooses her match with candor and intelligence.
Occasionally, the man just sweeps her off her feet without knowing it and then the rules may get thrown out the window (See marriage comment).
As Men Age
Now, the rules do seem to change as a man gets older. A woman has a difficult time realizing this; so listen up all yeah women!
Men, whom in their younger days would chase almost any girl,
now
get choosy as they get older. This is especially true and began when women have entered the working class. Income is important; sophistication and class; a house; a nice car and
still
a nice body (with all the other perks).
Later in life, the single or divorced or widowed woman must select among the best of men to find her true mate. Now, life becomes more complicated. Kids, wives, ex-wives, girlfriends, age, income, etc., etc., etc., etc.
Women tend to reach for the same high standards they had as when they were younger. However, rules do change a bit. Virtues and morals start to slack. Looks and hair aren't so important. Pot bellies are fine now.
Are you getting the picture? The man is
still
King.
Okay, she meets the new and matured
Prince Charming
. She's smitten, she's in love and she didn't think it was possible.
The matured man is even harder to pin down. Divorces, child support, alimony, other women (plural), choices, etc., etc., etc., etc.
Then, there is the Internet. The world is open and full of eligible women (and men, of course so don't worry). The competition remains fierce for the good ones (of course that includes you guy).
The woman must have all the qualities she had when she was younger, is expected to do all the womanly chores like cooking, cleaning and nurturing in addition to earning an income while still being the Madonna and the ... (you know what I mean)!
Men get fussier and more opinionated so the women's angles that used to work must be modified and revamped. Be ready to be told what to do and have everything blames on you. Man is key so now manipulation is really key.
Men verse Women
A few neurological differences between women and men from Louann Brizendine's "The Female Brain" include:
Thoughts about sex enter women's brains once every couple of days; for men, thoughts about sex occur every minute.
Women use 20,000 words per day; men use 7,000 per day.
Women excel at knowing what people are feeling; men have difficulty spotting an emotion unless someone cries or threatens bodily harm.
Women remember fights that a man insists never happened.
Women over 50 are more likely to initiate divorce.
