Introduction
Whilst defining the different types of threesomes is arbitrary and there is more than one way to define the variations, nonetheless defining types of threesomes is important. Defining the different types of threesomes is important when considering a threesome. It is important understanding the terminology because it helps in ensuring everyone has the same understanding and it makes communicating easier. A part of my hope in writing this couples who are considering threesomes will use this as a guide in determining what type of threesome might be suited for them. Another reason for writing this piece, in my first piece "Threesome Guide for Couples Pt. 01," I stated I would cover terminology and this a part of the piece on terminology. Therefore, I would not necessary expect this to be read like a story and instead I would expect it to be used as a reference. Third, this article assumes that any form of threesome is done with their partner's knowledge, their partner's consent, and as a couple they have boundaries in place to address the challenges that having a threesome may bring. Fourth, I do not mention friend with benefit due to the fact, I see friend with benefit fitting under the heading of a secondary open relationship, which may not always involve other people and though I see it sharing characteristics with a threesome nonetheless the discussion avoids this topic in order to keep the discussion simple. Finally, in this article, I will do a basic overview but before beginning my discussion, I do need to define the term monogamy since it is integral to the topic of threesomes.
Monogamy Definition
Defining monogamy is important because it will help a couple define how far they are willing to go with having a threesome and it will help the reader understand how the threesomes differ in their practices. Plus, it will make it easier for the rest of this article if there is a common definition of monogamy. Essentially monogamy can be broken down into two parts, physical and emotional. Physical monogamy is what most couples think of when they hear the word monogamy essentially means sexual contact is exclusive to the couple. This means the couple does not have sexual contact with people outside of their relationship. Whereas neglecting emotional monogamy from the discussion regarding monogamy is common but it is essential for understanding threesomes. Emotional monogamy means the couple maintains an exclusive emotional bond that they do not share with anyone else and if they have a threesome the type of activity they seek out is an activity that focuses on the physical aspect of sex. This means the couple will work at keeping themselves emotionally detached from the invited third person and work at maintaining that bond. At this point if you are a bit confused, do not worry as it will become more apparent as you further read.
Traditional Threesome
Non-penetrative Threesomes
Role Playing
Role-playing by definition is acting out a scene that involves a third person joining the couple for sex and the defining characteristic of role-playing is the idea of having a threesome remains a fantasy. Even though it remains a fantasy, it does not mean the couple cannot incorporate some realistic. It mean for a couple that wants to test their level of comfort with the idea may go as far as going into public where one member of the couple interacts with someone in public and then discuss their level of comfort after it happens in order to determine what their next step may be. Such a test may give a couple a general idea of how they would feel seeing their partner becoming intimate with someone else, in their presence, but it is not an absolute indicator. In comparison some couples may take a more conservative approach by designing their scene in the bedroom and using toys as a way of simulating the third person.
