The Reluctant Mistress Guide
Tips for getting what you (and your partner) want
Be confident – There's nothing more sexy than a woman who knows what she wants. Erase your insecurities. Revel in your sexuality. Make sure he knows that you're in love with who you are.
Tell him what you want – Your most powerful tool is your mouth. Tell him what you want him to do to please you – and do it daily. Don't wait until you're in the bedroom. Whisper it in his ear as he leaves home. Tuck a note in his pants pocket. Call him at work. Send him an e-mail or a text message.
Use nudity as a tool -- Keep your man naked as much as possible. It heightens his sexuality and keeps him exposed. Get rid of bathrobes and pajamas. Insist that he remain naked as he get ready for work. Forbid him from wearing anything – boxers or briefs – to bed. When it comes to your body, tell him he needs your permission to see you completely naked.
Keep him smooth – Require your man to shave his cock and balls daily. If you like his behind, make him shave that, too. And make sure you inspect his work. Hairlessness makes him more vulnerable. It's also better for those occasional blowjobs.
Touch, but don't let him touch – Outside the bedroom, follow a hands-on, hands-off policy. Touch him frequently – a pat on the behind, a face-to-face grope of his package, a playful twist of his nipples. When he tries to reciprocate, give him the evil eye and require him to ask permission.
Ladies first – Train your man to be a gentleman. Insist that your pleasure always comes first. And if he breaks the rule, make sure there are consequences.
Make him watch – Men love to see women touching themselves. So make it a regular part of your foreplay.
Hands off – Make sure he knows that touching himself without your permission is forbidden. When he asks nicely, reward him.
Get his tongue to work – It's all about your pleasure. So train him to be an undercover artist. Many women prefer to lie on their back with their man's head buried in their sex. Others like to take a licking while standing – either from the front or behind. And of course, there's the ultimate – straddling his face. Try them all.
With this ring – Cock rings (rubber, metal or leather) are a powerful tool. They are symbols of love and lust. And they can make big things happen. Some women require their mates to wear them at all times. Other slide them on before lovemaking to make him rock hard. Add a leash and you've got an obedient pet for the night.
Keeping him in line – When your man misbehaves – and he will – make sure to remind him who is in charge. Here are a few tied, er, tried and true methods:
o Grab him by the balls – They're not as delicate as he would have you believe. A firm grasp and a jerk won't hurt him badly, but it will get his attention.
o Slap his cock – Use your hand or a ruler to swat the head of his cock. It's a guaranteed attention-getter.
