Introductions
Dear readers,
I had spent so long trying to find the perfect T#%kler that I indeed forgot about how I could be the perfect T#%klee. Sometimes we get so caught up in what we want, we forget about who we are becoming! So, for you I have written the companion piece to the The 'Ler Guide: The 'Lee Guide.
Enjoy your T#%kles.
To The T#%klees
So there could be a million reasons why you are reading this little how-to-guide. You may be a T#%klee looking for some interesting new advice. Hoping that something new will pop up across your research. In which case I do hope I provide some interesting new insights.
You might be a regular person who has just found out their partner has a T#%kling fetish. If this is the case then -- pull up your socks! This guide will take you through everything you can think of.
It might interest you to know that throughout the human race, T#%kling has been a social bonding activity and is considered the highest grade of social play. To different degrees for each individual- T#%kling can be pleasurable socially, intimately, or playfully. In this sense it is very much like any other intimate interaction.
Consider massages for example: some people find them relaxing and share this activity between friends, while others find it arousing and include it within foreplay. Nibbling on the ears: Some people find this completely intoxicating and they lose all ability to think, while others find it uncomfortable and invasive.
T#%kling may sound like an odd thing to be aroused by at first, but any T#%klee will tell you - it's a pleasure of torture, which just so happens to be less commonly enjoyed than others.
Normality and Violation.
Ok, don't freak out when you read the words ' physiology' and ' scientific fact'. This is a very simple guide! However, I have delved into the science behind T#%kling a little bit because arousal is a science. If you just want to get to the juicy bits- skip this section! Although, it may prove helpful to understand how and why people are T#%klish, scientifically.
This is an important little fact to know. The physiology of laughter and T#%kling tells us that the response of laugher and squirming, is a reaction to the combined sensations that are a violation, and sensations that are perceived as normal. Many people who are not T#%klish, are only so as they sense no violation in the contact they are feeling. For many people, they need to perceive some kind of playful threat/ or attack, in order to feel the violation/normal touch combo.
T#%kling itself is a combination of feeling 'touch' and 'pain' together. The body reacts in a way that tells your subconscious- "get away or you might get bruised". Hence the squirming and struggling response. However, when a person truly believes there is no threat within this kind of contact- then they only feel it as "normal" touch. Without the crucial combination of the two, a person would not be T#%klish.
Now before we get ahead of ourselves, the paragraphs above only apply to one kind of T#%kling. Gargalesis: refers to harder, laughter-inducing T#%kling, and involves the repeated application of high pressure to sensitive areas (1)
The type of T#%kling needed to satisfy a T#%klee will depend on each individual. There is no right or wrong way to feel a sensation. As the T#%klee, you will know if you enjoy high pressure T#%kling or lighter touches. Also remember that this is a grey area. Some of us will want light and hard T#%kling in different places on our bodies. Some will want you to alternate between these touches in the same place.
On another note, is it considered that we as humans began squirming from T#%kling, as a way of teaching our bodies where our weak points will be in combat. Once again- this scientific fact brings us to the notion of violation/violence. After all, there is a reason people call it- "T#%kle torture".
This in itself explains why some people find T#%kling to be painful though. Everyone is different. And for some people they do not feel any normality in this kind of touch- they only feel the violation and the pain. So, for those of you who are too T#%klish for your own liking... the sad news it that overexposure is key to getting less T#%klish. Overexposure gets a person used to that sort of touch. Eventually it is viewed as normal... and the more a person is T#%kled the more normal it becomes.
This is also why a lot of people experience becoming less T#%klish as they get older. The 'touch' sensation becomes normal. They feel less of a threat. However, this is not true for everyone. How you 'perceive' the T#%kling touch (normal/violation) is completely within your control. You may even notice here now that unlike the T#%kler guide, I do not actually write out the magical T word in full. There is a reason for this that you will come to understand while reading this guide.
Now all the information above are facts from various websites I've researched. I've pieced certain things together and came to my own conclusions in regards to a way to become more/ less T#%klish. I know for certain there is the way to become less T#%klish. there is plenty of evidence to suggest that. However, by way of becoming more T#%klish- note that changing your perception and thought patterns on the subject are not an overnight task.
Now ask your fellow T#%klee's, I'm sure they would agree: Being blindfolded enhances the experience. This is because when a person cannot see where the contact is coming from, it enhances the unpredictability of the touch and
therefore
the feeling of a 'threat'.
Threat is the violation; you are in danger! Your body is exposed and sensitive. You cannot escape. You are a little weak mess of giggles and no way can you stop the attack!
The Mind Set
Gosh where to start. This is really a job for both the T#%klee and the T#%kler. Partnerships allow you to build a concept together, make something a reality. It's easier to convince yourself that you are vulnerable, when you are being T#%klgasmed against your will each night.
However, I'm writing this guide for T#%klees -- and some of you may not have access to an eager T#%kler just yet. This is perfectly fine. The power to be vulnerable is in your hands.
Imagine I said to you: Hey I'm going to fuck you really hard tonight. Imagine I said this throughout the day. Teasingly. Sexually. Longingly. Threatening. Imagine every now and then I just slipped it into conversation.
By the end of the day most people would be horny as hell - more so than if I had said it the second before being intimate. The thought of having intercourse has been stewing and running through your mind all day. You have become worked up about it.
You're T#%klish. So fucken T#%klish. I'm going to attack your poor little toes tonight. I'm going to squeeze and wriggle across your ribs. You're going to be T#%kled shitless tonight. You're inner thighs are mine, you T#%klish brat. I'm going to have the soles of your feet begging for mercy. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle. T#%kle.
When a T#%kler can tease and taunt you throughout the day -- it will certainly make things heightened. Whispered threats of T#%kle attacks in ear. Descriptions where and how you will be T#%kled.
Rule number one for a T#%klee
(of course optional but follow if you dare) -- never ever, never ever, EVER -- say the word T#%kle. Don't say it. Just don't.
Now maybe you're a switch -- maybe you want to wield the power of the word as well! That is perfectly fine. However, when you are being the T#%klee, this is the rule. Make it obvious to yourself when you are the weaker half of yourself. Maybe you dress differently, to expose yourself a little? Or maybe you talk more shyly when you are under the grips of a dangerously sadistic T#%kler?
Let's imagine you have a phobia of spiders. Would you often bring up spiders? If you were
deathly
afraid of them, would you mutter the word spider to yourself? Or would the mere mention of the word be unpleasant to your ears?
I don't think you would bring them up.
I think, being afraid of something makes you want to avoid it in every sense of the word. The more you avoid spiders, the more fearful you become of them. You are in fact teaching your brain through repeated behaviours and thoughts, that spiders are a threat to you.
Now rule number 1 applies here as you want to start teaching your brain that T#%kling is a threat. This increases sensitivity, or at least, perceived sensitivity. Now, does this mean you cannot hear the word T#%kle, often? No, no. You can hear it just as much as you can ask the braver person in the household to remove that scary spider for you. The T#%kler can be brave, and you can witness their braveness -- but you little piglet, you are not brave enough to let the letters spider their way from your lips.
Rule number two - take advantage of those moments when you stumble into T#%kles
.
OMG, did they just slip the word T#%kle into regular conversation? For example: Imagine you're out to lunch and your date is looking through the menu. The waiter is standing by the table. There are people nearby talking - people who are well in ear shot - and you look at your T#%kler as they look down at you with a knowing grin. "Does the cappuccino T#%KLE your fancy today?"
And crap -- they really reeeally emphasised the word T word here. Do you want to teach your brain that you are comfortable in this moment? Or do you want to be weakened with nervous arousal? What do you feel?
Perhaps their knowing use of the T word makes you think of their fingers tracing along your sides? Perhaps you look at the waiter and wonder if they can tell you are aroused? What if you are turning red? What if your date uses the word again? What if everyone notices how weird you're being, and someone repeats the T word and then gets the idea to actually DO it to you?
