Items needed:
- Comfortable area: Bed / Floor / Table. Something were both of you can climb onto.
- Oils: Preferably something smooth and silky. My personal favorite is Baby Oil.
- Towels & Warm Water: To clean up after you finish.
- Clean sheets: One for under, and one to cover your partner.
- Soft tunes: Nothing overly erotic, simply something soothing.
First and foremost:
Make your partner comfortable. This means ask them to remove their clothes. If they wish, you may do the same, but please remember that this is a massage session and not a sexual encounter.
The second rule of the massage:
As stated above, this is a massage, therefore you must avoid the obvious sexual body parts. No rubbing her breasts, nipples or pubic areas.
The order of the massage:
This is an important part of the massage. Keep a general order on how you wish to perform the massage. By doing so, you know where you have massaged and where you are going next. If you perform massages often, you may want to vary the order, this way your partner will not be expecting your touch in certain areas each and every time.
This is my order, please feel free to use them at your discretion:
I usually start with my partner on her stomach, covering her with the sheet, leaving her shoulders exposed. Always remember to never remove both your hands from your partner’s body. Always keep some contact with them.
- Temples: I always start at the temples, the source of all tension. I gently stroke in circular motions, applying a soft touch. Going clockwise, then counter clockwise, you can relieve most of her tension in only a few minutes.
- Neck: Rubbing her neck with both hands, one on each side starting at the base of your partner’s head working down toward her shoulders. Using your thumbs, rub the spine downward. As you come back up, remove your thumbs, running your fingers up the side of her neck. Repeat as above.
- Shoulders: The bearer of all problems a person experiences. Applying proper pressure to the shoulders can make your partner feel relaxed and more comfortable for the rest of the massage.
- Arms: Now you must choose an arm and massage that arm, and only that arm first. Starting from the shoulder run your hands down the arm to the elbow and back. After massaging the upper arm, proceed to the lower arm, stopping at her wrist. After the lower arm, take her hand and massage the back of it and each individual finger. After completely the entire arm, return to shoulder and gently rub the entire arm from shoulder to hand. Now repeat the same to the other arm.