Sensual teasing is an art more than anything else. Some people are turned on by teasing and others, not so much. As is often the case, it is a matter of taste.
My husband enjoys teasing, but he's not so much into humiliation. There is a vast difference between teasing and humiliation, especially in intent. My husband, for example, teases me about having "sharp elbows." The bones in my elbows are pointed and not rounded. But by him teasing me about this natural fact does this mean he is humiliating me? Of course not!
When I am excited or agitated about something my voice rises an octave, and my husband teases me about this. Is he cruel to do so? Please! Don't be obtuse.
The same is true about sensual teasing. There are all kinds of varieties when it comes to sensual teasing, but what matters most in these scenarios is the recipient's response to said teasing. Some people can take it and some cannot. The same is true in other things of course, but sensual teasing is a particular taste that one must observe the recipient's reaction before you can fully understand if you have crossed a line.
Anecdotally speaking, my husband is immensely excited by sensual teasing of a specific sort. For example, he would not appreciate me teasing him about failing to give me an orgasm. He takes my orgasms very seriously and thus would not respond well to me teasing him about not giving me one. I don't even have to experiment with this because I already know what his response would be; disappointment in himself.
But in other areas he is much more receptive to sensual teasing. The thing is, I know my husband and where he is most secure in himself. For him, not giving me sexual pleasure is seen as a failure on his part, even if it has nothing to do with him and everything to do with me. But in other ways he is not only receptive, but is sexually excited by such teasing.
To be sure, some men simply can't be teased. Some women as well I suppose. Some men and women see all teasing as something that is abusive, whether it is sexual or otherwise. This essay is not for such people since most of them simply cannot get past their sexual self-image.
Differences between Teasing and Humiliation
First let's begin with some definitions.
Tease:
1. to make fun of or attempt to provoke in a playful way.
Humiliate:
1. to make someone feel ashamed and foolish by injuring their self-respect.
These are simple definitions, but they are useful. When placed in the realm of sexuality such definitions become readily apparent and obvious. If one is sexually provoking in a playful way then they are attempting to be stimulatory. Thus, it is a form of foreplay and should be seen as such.
On the other hand, if one is attempting to shame another or injure another's self-respect then that can be defined as abusive. To be sure, some people are sexually stimulated by such things and as such should not be judged by anything other than that by that which they are sexually excited.
Legally speaking, sexual humiliation is permissible. A girl-friend of mine from high school once told her ex-boyfriend at the time that he had a small dick and never sexually satisfied her, which I found appalling and cruel. But she was mad and hurt, so she lashed out. I understood her pain at the time and so empathized, but what she said was mean and unnecessary nonetheless. I had perspective where she did not.
But this isn't the real question. The real question is about sensual teasing and that which is playful and stimulatory. All men, and all women for that matter, appreciate sexual stimulation. To each of us sexual stimulation is a little different and meaningful differently.
For some of us, my husband and I included, sexual stimulation includes teasing.
The last definition I'd like to be clear on is:
Sensual Teasing:
1. to tease another in such a fashion as to encourage sexual stimulation.
Sensual, or sexual teasing should never be confused with provoking a self-loathing in the one who is being teased. In this sense teasing is at cross-purposes with humiliation.
NOTE
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Please do not take my distaste for humiliation as being anything other than a preference.
Small Dick Teasing
There are various forms of sensual teasing, but for brevities sake I'm going to limit this essay to small dick teasing. The reason I am limiting this is because there are hundreds of forms of sexual teasing and I'm not writing a dissertation here, so in order to make this something that can be easily read in a single pass this is what I have chosen to write about. Besides, I know something about this subject.
Let me be clear and straightforward: My husband is sexually stimulated when I tease him about the size of his dick. Why this is the case is something that is deep within himself and he has been unable to be precise about his motivations, but still, I understand his need and desires in this area and am receptive to those needs and desires. Thus I partake and, while not fully understanding, do my best to meet his wants and desires.
Let me digress for a moment. That I wish to be sexually pleasing to my husband in this way does this make me cruel and inhumane? No, of course not! It makes me loving in that I am attempting to meet a need that my husband has, for whatever his reasons. But if he asked me to do something that I thought would be cruel to him, and something that I couldn't understand, I would express such in the hopes that he would be able to either express himself better or to forego that fantasy.
So on to the title of the subject, small dick teasing.
Just to be clear, I have no issues with the size of my husband's dick. In fact, I usually have better sex with him than I have with men who are larger. But that is beside the point. My husband is sexually stimulated whenever he thinks about his wife having had sex with men who have larger cocks.
