Techniques.
There are a lot of varying techniques. And what might feel good for some women, might not feel as good for another. So once again, listen to her body language, her sighs and moans to let you know if what you're doing is a good thing. Or even better, telling your partner if something feels really good...or just nice, helps a lot as well. If you want it softer, harder, slower or faster, then say so. A good lover listens. A better lover shares.
Like the head of the penis, (too clinical?) ok...prick. The head of a woman's exposed clitoris can be equally sensitive. And sometimes too much prolonged stimulation to that area can become annoying unless she's aroused and stimulated to the point of orgasm. But one technique is to lightly run your tongue up and down that delicate little shaft. Give it an equally light suck or two then let the length and flat of your tongue fully caress the full opening of her split, once again top to bottom before searching out and again directly or indirectly assaulting her clitoris. The amount of pressure, friction, tempo can and should be alternated as you explore and arouse your partner. Once again, changing positions periodically can also change the differing sensations for both partners as well.
When her breathing, or her spoken words alert you that she's "very" aroused now, then more direct stimulation and force can be better tolerated (if not downright needed and wanted by this time). Here, and again be open to communication, but a firm though still yet gentle sucking directly of the woman's clitoral shaft can be extremely pleasurable. Sometimes holding it there with your lips, using the flat of your tongue to press it deeply within your mouth, still holding, though sucking lightly at first, and perhaps a little more forcefully as indications of your partner's pleasure is expressed. I enjoy doing that, with an in-between variation of the old "butterfly" clit flick of the tongue. Whether that be also hard and fast, or soft and slow. Mix it up a little. Again, use your own imagination, and have fun. Enjoy yourself, and she'll enjoy it all the more as well.
Use your hands and fingers. But be aware of what she likes, or doesn't like here too. Not every woman enjoys a finger up there while she's being stimulated orally. And even those who do, just enjoy the presence of it being there more than any hard-fast thrusting one might be tempted to do. (If she wants that...she'll let you know hopefully). But this is also an ideal time to go back to those breasts. They're not just there for foreplay. Very often the direct stimulation and caress of a woman's clitoris can be heightened and intensified by the added stimulation of her breasts and nipples simultaneously. Most often a woman's nipples can become even more sensitive, more pleasure driven when you are by now directly stimulating her clitoris, and visa versa. With practice, you can vary the tempo of stimulation to both areas. Soft caresses and nipple touches while the tongue is flicking madly on the surface of her clit. Or harder (if she enjoys that) nipple pinches and squeezes, while one's tongue light as a feather, dances across the floor of her clitoris.
Finger scissors.
Not all women enjoy this. And it's certainly something you'd best ask about before doing anything. Don't assume. Once again, one woman might want only oral stimulation of the lips, mouth and tongue without any penetration at all. Others still might also enjoy that added sensation, whether it be secondary and passive, or firm and authorative. On some other occasions, a well lubricated, gentle finger in her ass in addition to one inside her pussy can produce exquisitely erotic pleasurable enhancements to the oral techniques I've described above. But that is again a personal preference, and not mentioned here as an absolute requirement. But I have through my own experience found it to induce very intense orgasms in most women who've allowed and enjoyed this particular technique.
The orgasm
Here again, all women are different. Half the fun is finding out how different they can be, and enjoying that difference, and sharing it with them. Some women excrete additional fluids when experiencing an orgasm. Some others actually have what is called "female" ejaculations. Whatever the case, it's her orgasm, and if you care about it, or care about her, then go with the flow as I say. Something I again personally find very, very enjoyable.
Be very much aware of a woman's sensitivities, or abilities to be multi-orgasmic. Some women having experienced climax can become supersensitive (just like guys can). Continuing to flick or suck her clitoris when the pleasure has receded can be downright painful. When she grabs your head, maybe its time to let up. But surprisingly enough, sometimes that same gentle soft linger of a lightly touching tongue after an orgasm, can bring about another one within a relatively short period of time in some instances. Be patient in that, if she's enjoying that post-climatic pleasuring, let her decide if it's going to lead to yet another climax, or simply if it's a nice slow gentle way to come down. If you've pleasured her well enough during this session, chances are she'll be ready and wanting a bit more. And remember that turnabout is fair play. Please your partner, pleasure her beyond her wildest expectations, and I can assure you, she'll do the same thing for you. I certainly welcome your comments thoughts or ideas. Feel free to contact me to discuss any of this, ask questions, or even disagree if you wish with anything I've said. All I've hoped to do here is share with you what I have learned and enjoyed through personal experience. Does that make me an expert? Not necessarily, but I've not had anyone complain yet either, on the contrary. But it's also something I love doing. And I think that's also just as important as anything I could try and tell someone how to do.
