Are We Satisfied

This questionnaire will help couples to determine if they are completely satisfied with their current sexual activities or perhaps open up a dialog for a discussion on how to add some spice to a stale relationship.

Before actually starting the questionnaire, it is suggested that the atmosphere be set. First, discuss with your SO (significant other) the sexual nature of this exercise and your interest and/or curiosity about how both of you will answer some of the questions. Make certain that you both understand that these are sexually explicit questions and may touch upon topics that the two of you have never openly discussed. It is important that you both agree to answer all the applicable questions HONESTLY. Don't try to coerce your SO to participate in this exercise. Both parties must be willing and comfortable divulging some of their deepest sexual secrets.

Are you ready to begin?

Are you ...?

A married couple

Engaged

FWB

Other

Have you ever openly talked to your SO about your sexual preferences and fantasies?

Yes, we talk often

Subtle hints but not openly

Only if we have been drinking

Nope, never have!

How would you describe your sexual experience prior to meeting your current SO?

I was experienced!

I wasn't necessarily experienced but I was not a virgin.

Very limited

My current SO was my 1

st

How many sexual partners have you had?

More than 20

More than 10

Less than 10

One

Is your SO aware of your sexual past?

Yes

No

Some of it

Does your SO ever ask you to talk about past sexual experiences?

Absolutely, loves to hear the details!

Yes, and I sometimes do

Yes, but I don't feel comfortable do so

No

Who is usually the one to initiate sex?

He is

She is

50/50

Would you ever consent to 'kinky' sex with your SO?

Kinky? You bet I would!

Probably

Depends on what it involved

I doubt it

NO!

Do you believe that a couple 'in love' can deviate from making love and just 'fuck' for fun?

Yes! Fucking can be purely for fun.

Occasionally fucking should be just for pleasure.

Not really

Have you ever fucked someone just for fun?

Yes, more often than not

Yes

Probably

No

Have you ever said to a sexual partner, "Let's just fuck"!

Oh yes!

Yes I have

I'm sure I have said that once or twice.

I don't remember

No

Are you 100% sold on sexual monogamy? Remember, answer honestly.

Honestly, No!

I'd like to say yes but 100% is a stretch

I'd like to think I am

Yes I am!

What is your current body image?

I have no body image issues

I could use a little work

Not happy

Hate my body image

Are you comfortable being naked with your SO?

Absolutely!

Usually

I'm OK with it

Please dim the lights!

Turn off the lights!

Does your SO have issues with your body?

Yes

If so, I am unaware

No

I think so but we never discuss it.

Would you consider yourself to be sexually adventurous?

Yes I would!

I can be if the situation is right

I am more vanilla

I wouldn't mind being more adventurous.

Not interested in sexual adventure.

Which of you is more sexually adventurous?

He is

She is

50/50

Have you ever been in a threesome? MFM

Yes and I enjoyed it.

Rather not say.

I haven't but I might consider it.

No and not interested.

Have you ever been in a threesome? MFF

Yes and I enjoyed it.

Rather not say

I haven't but I might consider it.

No and not interested.

Have you ever fucked anyone with other people close enough to see you?

Yes and it was great!

No but I would like to.

No but it sounds exciting.

No

How many people of the opposite sex have seen you naked?

Too many to count

A few

Not many

Only my SO

How do you feel about someone other than your SO seeing you naked?

No problem!

OK, depending on who it was and the situation.

I'd probably be OK if I was with my SO

Unsure

NO! NO! NO!

How will your SO answer this question?

Definitely 'A'

Probably 'B'

Maybe 'C'

I really don't know.

Do you get jealous if someone of your sex pays attention to your SO?

No, I am flattered

Not really unless the person is being obnoxious.

Not usually but I might

Sometimes

Yes I do.

What if your SO appears to return that attention?

Turned on

My SO wouldn't unless we had a 'plan'.

I'd be curious as to what my SO had in mind

Mildly pissed

Really pissed

Have you and your SO ever discussed involving others in your sexual activities?

Yes we have

We haven't but I wouldn't be opposed to discussing it

It has been mentioned but nothing more

Never came up

Haven't and don't want to.

Do you have any bi-sexual interest?

Yes

Maybe with the right person

No

How would you like your SO to have answered question 27?

'A'

'B'

'C'

Are you aware of the term 'swinger or alternative lifestyle'?

Yes

No

If you are aware of these terms, are you

Curious

Supportive of a person's right to embrace their own sexual preferences

Non supportive of non-traditional sexual activities

Turned off by the thought

Unaware of the terms

Would you attend an alternative lifestyle event with your SO?

Yes I would!

Maybe

We have already

Undecided

NO!

How will your SO answer question 31?

'A'

'B'

'C'

'D'

'E'

How are we doing so far?

I'm a little turned on, let's keep going

I'm willing to continue

I'd like to stop here.

I'm out!

If you are still with us .... Would you consider expanding the boundaries of your current sex life?

Thought you would never ask.

I'd definitely consider it

Maybe

Probably not

NO

Pick up to three of the following as activities you would consider if your SO agreed.

Voyeurism (No participating. Just watching others)

Orgy (participating)

MFM

MFF

Gang Bang (Usually one woman and multiple male partners)

Mutual masturbation (You and your SO together)

Group nudity w/soft sexual contact (no fucking but anything else is OK)

A date with another person (you or your SO goes out and then returns to give you the details)

MMFF

Attending a swinger's party (open to whatever happens)

Pick three that you think most appealed to your SO?

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Has your SO every ask you watch you masturbate?

Yes frequently

Yes

Occasionally

No

If applicable, did you?

Yes

No

Did you enjoy having your SO watch?

Yes, I loved it

Yes

A little

Not really

Not applicable

Do you masturbate w/o your SO?

Yes

Occasionally

No

If you were with your SO and someone else was watching you masturbate, would you ...

Give them a real show

Enjoy it if my SO didn't mind

Stop immediately

Be embarrassed

Wouldn't be doing it if someone else were there

Would your SO get turned on if someone was watching you masturbate?

Absolutely!

I think so

Maybe

Probably not

No

Do you watch porn?

Yes, often

Sometimes

Hardly ever

No

Would watching porn turn you on?

You bet!

Probably if the subject matter interested me

It could

Not really

No

If your SO wanted to watch a porn movie, would you go along?

Yes I would

Probably

Not sure

No

Oral sex ...

Love getting and giving

I like getting it

I like giving it

It's OK

Prefer not

How many times per week do you make love/fuck to your SO?

More than 5

2-4

1-2

Less than 1

Are you satisfied with how you answered question 47?

Satisfied, NO. Honest, yes!

I'm OK with it

Yes, it is just fine.

Is your SO satisfied with it?

Yes

No

Must be as I hear no complaints

Would you or have you taken explicit photos of your SO?

Yes

No

Has anyone seen them other than the two of you?

Yes

Maybe

No

The following 28 questions are for the female.

Were you comfortable answering the 1

st

50 questions?

Yes

Most of them

Some of them

Not really.

If these questions ignite more passion in the bedroom, are you on-board?

Without a doubt! Bring it on!

Yes, I'm OK with more passion

OK

Maybe

No

If your SO suggested spicing up your sex, which of the following do you think he would suggest?

Public sex

Talking dirty

Discussing fantasies

Him picking out your clothes for a night on the town

Inviting another female

Inviting another male

Attending a swinger's party

Inviting another couple over for a soft-swap

Inviting another couple over for a full-swap

Sex toys

Mutual masturbation

All of the above

None of the above

Of the above, which do you deem to be off-limits?

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Would he react with jealousy if you admitted a purely sexual attraction to another man?

He would probably encourage me to pursue it

Yes he would be jealous

Depends on who it was

No

I don't know!

If he suggested attending a swinger party, what do you think would be his motivation?

He wants to fuck other women

He thinks allowing me to fuck other men gives him a right to fuck other women

He wants to see me with get pleasure from another man

He is perverted and a sex addict

He just wants to have a fuck-fest and is open to including me

All of the above

If you elected to go along or have gone along, would it or was it just for his enjoyment?

OK, I did enjoy it also or I certain I would enjoy it

I think I might enjoy participating

Mainly for him

Definitely for him

I wouldn't go along

What if he was more interested in a MFM?

Now you are talking!

I'd be curious as to why but wouldn't be turned off by the suggestion

I'd be very skeptical and want clarification prior to going along

I'm not sure I would want that

Not interested at all!

Do you think he would get turned on if you engaged with another woman?

Absolutely, especially if he could join in

I think he might enjoy watching me with another woman

It has never come up

Probably not

If he asked, would you?

WOW! Yes I would.

I might if he ask

Uncertain

Probably not, especially if he were present

NO

Would you like to see him with another guy?

That would be ultra hot

Not really

NO

He wouldn't no matter what I requested.

Does he enjoy performing oral sex on you?

Yes, he seems to really like it

Not enough but yes

Does it but not sure he enjoys it

No

Do you enjoy performing orally on him?

Yes I do

Usually

It's OK

Take it or leave it

NO

Do you believe performing oral sex with another man would be cheating?

Not necessarily

Yes it is

Depends on what came after the blow job

Depends on the circumstances

How many men have you performed oral sex on?

10 or more

5-10

2-5

Less than 2

None

How many does your SO know about?

All of them

A few

Uncertain as we have never discussed it

Was he ever present when you did it?

Yes and he encouraged me

Yes he saw me and made no attempt to stop me

Yes he was and was upset but didn't stop me

NO

What would be your reaction if he encouraged you to perform orally with another man?

I'd smile and say, "OK, if you don't mind".

I'd do it if he really wanted me to

I'd do it but reluctantly

I'd pass

Including your SO, have you ever let a man cum in your mouth?

Including my SO, Yes

Yes

It may have happened

No

Would you fuck another man if your SO asked?

Yes if he asked

Probably. If it was just a one-time fuck.

Depends on the man

I don't think so

NO

Would your SO enjoy watching you fuck another man?

Yes he would. He'd probably jerk-off watching

I think he would enjoy it

Uncertain

Probably not

No

If he approved would you enjoy him being present?

Yes I would like to entertain him

Yes but I'd be a little embarrassed

Maybe

I don't think I'd want him watching, at least the 1

st

time

No

Would you enjoy watching him fuck another woman?

Yes, especially if I could join in

Yes

Maybe

I don't think so

No

Does he enjoy watching you masturbate?

Yes, he loves watching me with play with my pussy

Yes he sometimes suggests it and seems to enjoy it

Occasionally

Sometimes

No

Do you or would you enjoy masturbating for him?

Yes

Maybe

No

Would you enjoy or do you enjoy watching him masturbate?

Yes I would and DO

Usually if he fucks me before he cums

Sometimes

Take it or leave it

He won't do it

Both _____ & _____

Do you like talking about sex?

Yes, but only with my SO

Yes, but only with certain people

I usually leave the talking to others

I am kind of shy when it comes to talking about sex

Not really

When your SO sees how you answered these questions, what do you expect?

I'd like us to talk more openly about our fantasies and what we like sexually

I'd like him to know I am not opposed to expanding our activities

I'd like him to be pleasantly surprised by my candidness.