A Guide to Great Anal Sex
Part Six: Sequential Orgasms
Celeste and I talked for a long time about whether we should include a section on sequential orgasms in our guide. This is because it's one of the few acts that run directly contrary to the characteristics of great anal sex: gentleness, shallow penetration, and the woman as the leader. It is achieved by deep, male dominated thrusting that could almost be described as rough sex. It is, however, part of our life when we both want it to be. So we decided that we had made a commitment to disclose all that we knew about anal sex and that we should follow through on that. The experience, however, is at the outer limit of our comfort zone and may not appeal to you at all. Sequentials are physically exhausting for Celeste and a somewhat frightening the first several times if you have an out of body experience. For many, this may be another example of how anal sex can take you beyond pleasure. Celeste has chosen to have the experience more than a hundred times since we married for a very simple reason. The aftermath induces an ecstatic relationship between her mind and her body that gives her extraordinary pleasure.
It is not a casual experience for a woman, nor do we think it should be a regular occurrence. If ever there was something you should discuss in detail with your partner, this is it. Does a woman want to go through what approaches a trauma to arrive achieve what Celeste thinks of as nirvana? It is also hard to believe that this would be an appropriate activity for anyone with possible physical issues, particularly as regards blood pressure or a heart condition. If this could be you, ask your doctor if some type of rigorous physical activity (mountain climbing) or something that really gets the adrenalin pumping (bungee jumping) would be safe for you.
To the extent that they are discussed at all, sequential orgasms are often mislabeled as multiple orgasms, but there is a big difference between the two. Multiple orgasms, if they exist, occur at the same time. Sequential orgasms, that do exist, occur one after the other.
They are not difficult for a woman to achieve with anal sex, but there are tricks to getting to them. Obviously, a guy has to be disciplined enough not to cum prematurely as this would ruin everything. The more important technique is for both the man and the woman to fuck through the woman's first and second orgasm if your goal is a third, as Celeste's is. The man should not stop his thrusting or the woman the stroking of her clit. Continuous motion toward the ultimate goal is the key. A good analogy is to an urban jogger or runner. If you ever see one at a red light, you'll notice that a serious athlete never stops his or her motion, but runs in place until the light changes and s/he can resume. It's exactly the same idea in achieving sequential orgasms. To give you a time frame, Celeste's second orgasm is about three minutes after her first and her third maybe two and a half minutes after her second.
We always start sequentials in anal doggy position, but roll over to spoons to avoid my pancaking on her if her legs collapse. Then we fuck through her first and second orgasms to the third. This, however, is very different from her first two and you shouldn't be surprised by it. The first two are just the beautifully intense orgasms you associate with anal sex: Celeste's sphincters begins to tremble and her body shudder as they approach, her body seems to rise up during a momentary pause at the moment of climax and then they slam shut on whatever is in her hole—my penis, tongue, finger, or toy— ebbing away into gentler and gentler spasms. With sequentials, Celeste's third orgasm can only be described as a series of jolts or thumps that shake her entire body. The first time I felt these I thought I had hurt her badly, but this wasn't true. One thing that Celeste wants is for me to cum exactly at the beginning of her third orgasm and I have become quite good at doing this. The rhythm is jolt, spurt, jolt spurt, jolt, jolt, jolt...
Celeste wants to explain why she seeks out this experience, but before that, a couple of practical notes.
1) Before beginning, clear your calendar for a day and a half. This has become almost exclusively a Saturday evening experience since the last kid left home, so we make sure we have no obligations either that evening or on Sunday, except for church. It's also a very good idea to turn off all electronics that could interfere: cell phones, computers, televisions, before beginning.
2) Bright pink splotches appear all over Celeste's torso after her third orgasm. She somewhat resembles a pink Dalmatian when we're finished. I don't know why this happens, but there's nothing to be alarmed about. They fade very quickly.
3) You would be making a mistake, at least from our point of view, to think that if three orgasms are as we describe them, four must be even better. We've tried this a couple of times and Celeste is too exhausted to find it pleasurable and usually isn't even aware that the attempt is occurring. There is a rag doll quality to her body that neither of us enjoys. As a matter of fact, it's probably a good idea if you are inexperienced with sequentials to go in the direction of less is more. Try two orgasms before going on to three. Two doesn't quite bring Celeste to the floating quality she loves, but it might be totally satisfying for you.
4) Most important, absolute trust is the key to a woman enjoying sequentials. First, trust that you will not hurt her when things get a little out of control after the first two orgasms. Guys who are big should be very careful; bruising is a real risk if you're not. As important is confidence she has that you will be there to help and comfort her in what is, at least for Celeste, and out-of-body experience where she feels that she has lost control of basic facilities and is counting on you to protect her from the unknown. Don't undertake this casually. This is not an activity for a couple who do not have complete confidence in and love for each other. Talk it out and be sure you both want to go down this path.
